I just met a girl from tinder out at a local bar. ****ing tinder. I thought easy lay.
We chatted for a bit mostly about really simple ****, she was kinda uneasy at first but she warmed up. She said she left her wallet, I said I don't mind buying a drink, but she never took me up on the offer ... I gave her some light touches during conversation. Conversation mainly revolved around work, school, and plans for the future. Additional topics included: my past with native tradition, my plans to become a truck driver. I asked her about where she grew up, her trips outside the U.S. I threw some negs and qualifiers in there which seemed to get her more interested. There were some awkward pauses I wasn't sure how to escalate tbh, I kinda froze up at times. It all felt too friendly.
So we take a quick walk after the place closes and I go in for a kiss, and after a few seconds of kissing she ejects and says she's not with it ... I say cool so we walk back to her car, things seem a little less tense now that we know how it will end, she pulls out a weed pen but I decline (can't for job) and we part ways. I know I didn't spike her emotions enough ... conversation was too friendly.
You got any advice to naturally escalate?
We chatted for a bit mostly about really simple ****, she was kinda uneasy at first but she warmed up. She said she left her wallet, I said I don't mind buying a drink, but she never took me up on the offer ... I gave her some light touches during conversation. Conversation mainly revolved around work, school, and plans for the future. Additional topics included: my past with native tradition, my plans to become a truck driver. I asked her about where she grew up, her trips outside the U.S. I threw some negs and qualifiers in there which seemed to get her more interested. There were some awkward pauses I wasn't sure how to escalate tbh, I kinda froze up at times. It all felt too friendly.
So we take a quick walk after the place closes and I go in for a kiss, and after a few seconds of kissing she ejects and says she's not with it ... I say cool so we walk back to her car, things seem a little less tense now that we know how it will end, she pulls out a weed pen but I decline (can't for job) and we part ways. I know I didn't spike her emotions enough ... conversation was too friendly.
You got any advice to naturally escalate?