You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
oh ok but what if you`ve know her for a while and you are not really friends (more like acquaintances) but you want to get your intentions across
That's a slight issue because too much time has past without you making a move on her, you should of let your intentions be known as soon as possible.
Then shoot her a text or call and say "Hey sexy, lets go out. Are you free on Thursday eve?"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Be flirty instead of telling her straight forward, get her to spend time together, kiss her on cheek, tease the **** out of her, leave her hanging, the girl that likes you back will normally somehow offer her help in some way, decline right away haha.. listen to her, you guys work together right?? Ask her to help iron your shirt and trust me they will comply haha.. buy her a casual coffee or cheap sh!t like that!!!
Are you sure you read that on sosuave and not the comment section of an incest porn video lol
Saying "I like you" just out of the blue like that is awkward, maybe even creepy. Early on you don't tell a girl you like her, if you haven't been with her consistently for a little while you can't know her enough to like her. It's all about showing, not telling. Your need to let your actions do the "talking" by acting in such a way that it's obvious to her you're interested. I agree with @Chi Town on that.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.