You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I agree with this. However, the caveat I have concluded from talking to people I know who are on welfare in my state is that some people have no issues getting their benefits while others have to jump through a gargantuan amount of hoops to keep their benefits coming. One person I know says they get random letters that their benefits are being canceled if they don't send in document X by date Y or call and speak to this person by date Y. Horror stories of having to send in the same document 5-10 times. Allegations of computer glitches or stuff getting lost in the mail that slows things down. Stories of having a couple hundred dollars on their food account and then all the sudden the state takes it back with no notice. Other people I know don't have any of these issues. Based on the totality of what i have been told by people I know, I suspect that if the average working man checked out and tried to live on the state they would probably not have the easiest time getting and obtaining their benefits. I doubt these men would be in the "no problems" category. The state has the power to pick and choose who's live they make he|| and who's they don't. Especially my state, Illinois, one of the top most corrupt states of all.
Not sure if I'd say her baby daddies are alpha; more likely very feminine but have a few shekels to spare.
Until masculine men are elected to the world govt's, the welfare States will continue. Here's a good Youtube video on the welfare State of the United Kingdom -
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Hopefully they were smart enough to get a DNA test prior to signing the papers. Well, one was the husband I believe. With women these days, you really never know. They can be bigger ho's than men.