After getting the number

[Exelerate]

I'm not having luck on transitioning a number to a date. I'm following what I have learned from here by keeping things short over text and using it only as a means to set something up. But, I'm starting to think that the first time or two this guideline should not apply.

Do you have to text to establish some level of comfort for her to meet up for coffee?

Is it a good idea to just ask if she is down to hook up?

 

[Skyline]

That's because it generally isn't anymore.

Times have changed with the younger crowd and it's heavily dependent on her level of interest from when you get her number.

Phones/online has hit dating with a storm. You really think you're any different than all the other guys asking to meet up with her within a dozen texts? Unless you know for a fact, I wouldn't ask for a date within days of getting her number.

But one thing hasn't changed and that's if she actually shows up to the date.

It really depends if you care about the mediocre interest ones or the high interest ones.

 

[Exelerate]

That's because it generally isn't anymore.

Times have changed with the younger crowd and it's heavily dependent on her level of interest from when you get her number.

Phones/online has hit dating with a storm. You really think you're any different than all the other guys asking to meet up with her within a dozen texts? Unless you know for a fact, I wouldn't ask for a date within days of getting her number.

But one thing hasn't changed and that's if she actually shows up to the date.

It really depends if you care about the mediocre interest ones or the high interest ones.

Is it much more common to have the girl hang at my place rather than getting coffee as the first meet up nowadays?

 

[sangheilios]

I think a lot of this comes down to where you are meeting her from. If you met some girl at a bar or club and she gave you her number don't be all that surprised if nothing comes of it, this is fairly normal. Hell, sometimes a woman may be totally feeling you when you guys are interacting, she gives you her number and then somewhere down the line changes her mind. Earlier in September I got a woman's number when I was at the bank, she was texting me readily throughout that afternoon and then the next day decided that she wasn't interested in going out with me, she didn't word it like that though obviously.

 

[RangerMIke]

I'm not having luck on transitioning a number to a date.

It's a evaluation process: not a process to an end. You get the number to see if she will go out with you. If she won't then the process works... she gets screen out.

Your problem is you see the step of getting a number to a natural progression of something happening. Don't get ahead of yourself. You can't make anything happen with a chick if she doesn't want it to happen. The PUAs might be able to teach you how to get improve your chances of getting a date, but it won't keep her from flaking or worst show up not really wanting to be there. If she doesn't really want to show up... you don't want her, because she isn't going to be any fun.

Think of it this way... you WANT her to say no so you can move onto the next one. Your purpose is to screen out low interest chicks by spending a little time and money as possible. Otherwise you are just dancing around like a grinder monkey begging for coins.

 

[Exelerate]

It's a evaluation process: not a process to an end. You get the number to see if she will go out with you. If she won't then the process works... she gets screen out.

Your problem is you see the step of getting a number to a natural progression of something happening. Don't get ahead of yourself. You can't make anything happen with a chick if she doesn't want it to happen. The PUAs might be able to teach you how to get improve your chances of getting a date, but it won't keep her from flaking or worst show up not really wanting to be there. If she doesn't really want to show up... you don't want her, because she isn't going to be any fun.

Think of it this way... you WANT her to say no so you can move onto the next one. Your purpose is to screen out low interest chicks by spending a little time and money as possible. Otherwise you are just dancing around like a grinder monkey begging for coins.

Thank you. That is a very good way of putting it

 

[MrJack]

Is it much more common to have the girl hang at my place rather than getting coffee as the first meet up nowadays?

Generally, if the date is taking place at someone’s house, sex is implied. That may be a reason you’re having a hard time transitioning to a first date.

When you invite them to your house you are indirectly, yet directly, saying come over so I can fvck you.

IME, for the women that DO fvck on first dates.. they still need you to break down their ASD (anti slvt defense) first.

It’s gotta happen the “right” way if that makes sense. Which would be something along the lines of the following:

First date should be somewhere public doing something fun and the goal on the date would be to spike her attraction in you (obviously), establish rapport, and THEN depending on logistics, try transitioning to go back to yours or her place in a witty/c0cky funny way (at least that’s my style) but many here will tell you it can literally be almost anything. If you’ve got her really attracted to you it matters much less what you say to bring her home. Just don’t be creepy or weird about it lol.

Sex won’t always happen on a first date no matter how awesome she thinks you are, as some women just don’t fvck on first dates. However, you should be able to succeed with it on the second or third date though, assuming everything goes well.