Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Yeah its not about the bj but the energy. Youll get those friendzone bjs while she pines for someone who doesnt want her. So she will mechanically do the job but without large amounts of desire. So it can decrease your libido to wait around for those.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Use her for hypergamy i like it
You actually might ne able to flip it to sex if you stay cool and start fvcking someone else. As your sexual confidence us raised by another its likely to trigger her. Just dont wait for it though. Live your life.
I agree. I had a very long stretch of time through my mid twenties where dating was just not at all on the list of priorities, more serious life issues that needed to be addressed, and I was never around any women at all. Anyway, when I was 26 I wanted to start meeting women but I was so low in confidence that it was a hell of a prospect to even talk to one, let alone date one. It took a "friend" who I hung out with to get my confidence going again. Granted, it helped that she was hot and I got to play with her but even without anything remotely sexual it still would have been tremendously helpful, after that I was approaching women very easily.
Absolutely. One of the biggest problems with a prolonged dry spell is you can lose your COMFORT level around women and can get really nervous/uncomfortable/creepy around them. But if you can be chill AF with a (friendzone) attractive woman (because she treats you like a brother), that chill vibe can carry over to new chicks.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
The danger of the friendzone babe is she wont feed you attraction. So your default position and swag is being sexually harmless to a female. It would be better to have sexual desire as your default attention even if the lady doesnt look as fine.
Bareback fellatio to the point of a "happy ending" is just about as good as bareback coitus, and indeed, I find to be better than raincoated coitus.
In my blue pill days, I had a club chick invite me to her car. I got a BJ in her Honda CRV. But feeling romantic/blue pill/AFC at the time, I asked if she wanted to cuddle for a bit.
The girl I mentioned had a conversation with me about that. She specifically said that she sees sex as not a big deal at all, though she'd only do it with people she was attracted to and wanted, but that kissing was just too intimate and something "special". I can kind of see the logic in that, but to me it's kind of weird to hear that coming from a woman, I generally see that as something a guy would say. She was very sexual and was open to a threesome with another woman, didn't happen though. Looking back I think she definitely had some issues though, came from a very dysfunctional upbringing with no real father figure at all. From my observations, it seems like women from unstable homes growing up are prone to behaviors and thought patterns like this.
When they compartmentalize the kissing and intimacy from the sex act it limits the amount of passion overall. Trust me. It can still be pretty good but its not all of it.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
I get your point 100 percent. I agree. But I personally wasn’t able to go from nervous/awkward/dry spell guy DIRECTLY to sexual guy because I had no known options at the time. So getting to chill (but somewhat asexual) vibe was an intermediate or interim step. The next step is definitely the confident sexual guy.
I know about all this stuff the hardest and most painful way possible lol. We really are nailing it all down.
So she gives him head every so often to stay in position as a "backup"?
She's a player, each guy she does something different with. Another guy is having the same problem as OP with this girl, except he's having sex with her, but she never gives him head, no matter how much he tries, she says she just doesn't really like doing it.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
Not in the mood = #nextSet
They feel clever and mastery in their compartamentalization. I always say if it takes too much thought maybe you shouldnt be doing it. Each person marginalized in a different way.
At least they arent the dinner or date guy that get nothing at all.
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.