I can’t classify her. Borderline or something else?

[mrgoodstuff]

I learned something recently fro a “princess” that I had dismissed before but she has now been texting me.

When a woman says...”I need a man who can handle me.”

Have you ever thought about what that means?

For those that don’t, I will translate...

It means she knows she’s crazy. She is fully cognizant of it. It means that she is looking for a man that can defuse, with his masculinity and presence, her psychotic tendensies so that she doesn’t do even more damage to her life.
That man will also bring out her femininity and smooth out and calm the insanity of her chaotic mind. The modern world makes her insane. She is an unrestrained locomotive screaming into hell.

Ranger those are usually thr women you want to run from. They are man eaters. Its not by accident. They will issue more damage and distraction than the sex they give. They try to hook men in and tear them apart. No one should need someone to handle them. If they are strong they should have self control.

 

[captain55]

Not too harsh at all. You need to offer her redemption. Not through words but through you. I want the best part of a woman. Her femininity. I don’t care about the garbage. Neither should you. Change the subject. It doesn’t matter. She is still there for a reason.
Is she the optimum woman? There’s no such thing. Just like there’s no fully optimized man. We can get close but soulmates do not exist.
Your goal should reward the best part of her and ignor the other stuff. Without emotion.

If a little kid is acting up and you yell at them, they now know what to do to get you going whenever they want. That’s why I learned pretty quick to just give them the “look”. Rejection and dismissal are very powerful and easily misused tools. Do not crush her just because her survival strategy is tough for you to handle. Like AJ said. Just calmly dismiss her from your life if she won’t express her feminine and keeps throwing up her survival strategy.

How do I offer her redemption when I am blocked? I would have to use another persons phone to even communicate with her how is that going to make me look?

It’s one thing for a woman to block you because you don’t leave her alone.:..but to block me out of impulse after you FaceTime me four times and I take the time out of my work schedule to pick your calls up? I take that as disrespect. I don’t blow her phone up bothering her she calls me...I never call her.

The fact that she is making stupid impulsive decisions is what is turning me off and making me so frustrated. Would really love to curse her out really good one time and throw a nice **** you **** in there but I know that will be it so I’m biting my tongue

 

[mrgoodstuff]

How do I offer her redemption when I am blocked? I would have to use another persons phone to even communicate with her how is that going to make me look?

It’s one thing for a woman to block you because you don’t leave her alone.:..but to block me out of impulse after you FaceTime me four times and I take the time out of my work schedule to pick your calls up? I take that as disrespect. I don’t blow her phone up bothering her she calls me...I never call her.

We are off and on and yes I game other women when she has blocked me in the past

Let her address this "disrespect" if she doesnt care or full of it drop her. She may have an explanation. Dont allow bullshyt to progess.

 

[Ranger]

Ranger those are usually thr women you want to run from. They are man eaters. Its not by accident. They will issue more damage and distraction than the sex they give. They try to hook men in and tear them apart. No one should need someone to handle them. If they are strong they should have self control.

They are ALL like that. Some are just on steroids about it. There is NO NAWALT.
Not one of those symptoms have I NOT seen in any woman I’ve ever met. At least one or two of them. I wasn’t with them for years. Who knows what I would have evoked from them In That much time.

Why don’t these so called disorders not exist outside of the west in such prominent numbers?

I read an article on how the retard “psychologist” said they are just not diagnosed. Bull****. That’s absolute garbage. The West and their pvssy men make them that way. Our political structures support victims. So she just seeks protection from the state who has made her a victim.
This is not rocket science. The state tells them that she should be damaged because uncle Bill touched her leg when he was drunk. These are all dramatizations. The women internalize them like pvssy men and the crap hits the fan.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

They are ALL like that. Some are just on steroids about it. There is NO NAWALT.
Not one of those symptoms have I NOT seen in any woman I’ve ever met. At least one or two of them. I wasn’t with them for years. Who knows what I would have evoked from them In That much time.

Why don’t these so called disorders not exist outside of the west in such prominent numbers?

I read an article on how the retard “psychologist” said they are just not diagnosed. Bull****. That’s absolute garbage. The West and their pvssy men make them that way. Our political structures support victims. So she just seeks protection from the state who has made her a victim.
This is not rocket science. The state tells them that she should be damaged because uncle Bill touched her leg when he was drunk. These are all dramatizations. The women internalize them like pvssy men and the crap hits the fan.

Dude if you meet a bossy bytch whose one inch from being a bulldyke and she says "i need a man who can handle me" you better run. Many of the females want to grow their masculinity. They do not want to be more feminine.

 

[captain55]

Let her address this "disrespect" if she doesnt care or full of it drop her. She may have an explanation. Dont allow bullshyt to progess.

Let her address this "disrespect" if she doesnt care or full of it drop her. She may have an explanation. Dont allow bullshyt to progess.

She is on a cruise in Miami with her grandparents maybe she is blocking me so she has an excuse to not feel guilty about ****ing around on me.

Then again she was blowing up my phone Friday calling me and has blocked me in the past when she wasn’t on a cruise so maybe I’m being paranoid.

Either way I know one thing. She likes guys that are psychopaths. The crazier I get the more into it she is. I think she enjoys frustrating men, maybe it’s a control issue. She feels in control in situations like these , something she didn’t have when she was raped.

 

[Ranger]

How do I offer her redemption when I am blocked? I would have to use another persons phone to even communicate with her how is that going to make me look?

It’s one thing for a woman to block you because you don’t leave her alone.:..but to block me out of impulse after you FaceTime me four times and I take the time out of my work schedule to pick your calls up? I take that as disrespect. I don’t blow her phone up bothering her she calls me...I never call her.

The fact that she is making stupid impulsive decisions is what is turning me off and making me so frustrated. Would really love to curse her out really good one time and throw a nice **** you **** in there but I know that will be it so I’m biting my tongue

You can’t offer redemption through words. You have to not react to her survival strategy. Never. It’s hard if you have emotionally integrated with her so soon.

You wait for her to return and then never ever mention it. It didn’t happen. You reward her femininity and ignor or dismiss her survival strategy. Not with words but with a shrug and indifference. Or nothing at all. You’re not there to support her strategy.
If she continues then you have to dismiss her. Plain and simple. You have to be a mountain. A self perpetuating force that goes forward. She was just a bump in the road.
Do not get angry or hurt. You are a product of millenniums of a successful survival breeding strategy and this woman tries to see if you remember that. If you don’t remember that? Well you get the $hit sandwich. What’s more? You deserve it. A BPD male victim deserves it. He forgot what he was.

 

[Ranger]

Dude if you meet a bossy bytch whose one inch from being a bulldyke and she says "i need a man who can handle me" you better run. Many of the females want to grow their masculinity. They do not want to be more feminine.

Actually I would kind of like that challenge. I want to see that covered up feminine side.
I disagree. All women want to be safe enough to be feminine. We disagree. And I will not run. A 100-150 pound brat is breakfast if she’s at least cute enough to stir my blood. Why? Because she can’t hurt me. Short of a weapon of course.

 

[captain55]

You can’t offer redemption through words. You have to not react to her survival strategy. Never. It’s hard if you have emotionally integrated with her so soon.

You wait for her to return and then never ever mention it. It didn’t happen. You reward her femininity and ignor or dismiss her survival strategy. Not with words but with a shrug and indifference. Or nothing at all. You’re not there to support her strategy.
If she continues then you have to dismiss her. Plain and simple. You have to be a mountain. A self perpetuating force that goes forward. She was just a bump in the road.
Do not get angry or hurt. You are a product of millenniums of a successful survival breeding strategy and this woman tries to see if you remember that. If you don’t remember that? Well you get the $hit sandwich. What’s more? You deserve it. A BPD male victim deserves it. He forgot what he was.

You keep saying all women are like this. All women are not like this. Ive never been blocked by women with high interest level. She gets obsessed with me to the point of being uncomfortable, blows my phone up 5 times in a day and mysteriously blocks me an hour later

I’m thinking about calling her from another phone and telling her straight up “look blocking me is childish as hell especially on a cruise in Miami of all places but I know that will be a mistake.

You can’t offer redemption through words. You have to not react to her survival strategy. Never. It’s hard if you have emotionally integrated with her so soon.

You wait for her to return and then never ever mention it. It didn’t happen. You reward her femininity and ignor or dismiss her survival strategy. Not with words but with a shrug and indifference. Or nothing at all. You’re not there to support her strategy.
If she continues then you have to dismiss her. Plain and simple. You have to be a mountain. A self perpetuating force that goes forward. She was just a bump in the road.
Do not get angry or hurt. You are a product of millenniums of a successful survival breeding strategy and this woman tries to see if you remember that. If you don’t remember that? Well you get the $hit sandwich. What’s more? You deserve it. A BPD male victim deserves it. He forgot what he was.

So don’t contact her at all ever again unless she initiates is basically what your saying. If she ever does after I basicly told her she’s turning me off...might of really hurt her who knows

 

[Ranger]

You keep saying all women are like this. All women are not like this. Ive never been blocked by women with high interest level. She gets obsessed with me to the point of being uncomfortable, blows my phone up 5 times in a day and mysteriously blocks me an hour later

I’m thinking about calling her from another phone and telling her straight up “look blocking me is childish as hell especially on a cruise in Miami of all places but I know that will be a mistake.



So don’t contact her at all ever again unless she initiates is basically what your saying...

So how long were you married? Are you saying youve never seen these in other women? Seriously?
Like I said some are on steroids. They keep doing it because it keeps working. When it stops working they will choose another strategy. They are survival breeding machines and much more resilient than us.
Change her environment and her strategy changes. This has been proven by so many scientists that it’s amazing how the mental health industry just rolls all over it. Of course the mental health industry supports the feminine imperative. Lol

It’s about you captain55. Self examine yourself. Guys say you should be the prize. That’s so limited in its use. Guys have a hard time believing it for very long in The face of rejection.
You have to be that man where women can be feminine and find that redemption. It’s not her that’s the problem but you or I.

 

[AJ84]

She is on a vacation with her family.

The next day she FaceTimes me 4 times in the morning and I talk to her. Everything is great ....but i tell her look don’t block me again it’s stupid and immature. (She has blocked me over something childish)

Everything is fine.....I send her a text last night a day later saying I hope she’s staying safe and her family is enjoying the trip....to find out I was blocked again. she was probably mad I wasn’t texting her.

In most cases I would ignore it but I felt like I needed to get something off my chest. I thought about it very carefully and I sent her this message.

“You have no reason to block me it’s childish and your turning me off. Maybe your exes dealt with this **** but not me. You need to get it together”

I hardly ever text her she initiates context 9 out of 10 times so it’s not like I annoy her. Hopefully that wasn’t too harsh but trust me it’s nowhere near as bad as what I wanted to really say. I would love to curse this chick out and really let her have it but I’m stopping mystlf

Ask yourself this: if I wasn’t that attracted to her and the sex was so so, would I even bother with her and her behaviour?

Like the others are saying, just move on. BPD, cluster A through Z, it doesn’t matter. No girl is hot enough and no sex is good enough to put up with being treated badly.

Especially as you have already told her you don’t like it and she keeps doing it. Anything you try to do at this point, whether it’s trying to take her esteem down a notch, reducing contact, dread game etc etc is actually just investing directly into her bad behaviour and hence, investing into her, and it probably won’t work anyway.

And you are saying that you are holding back on what you really want to say, so you are maintaining a negative energy which is affecting only you.

This is the kind of stuff that depletes a guy and makes him bitter. Women avoid bitter men like the plague. Women can become bitter too. Anytime we spend energy and emotion on sh*t relationships it leaves a scar, the more we do this the bigger that scar gets until we see dating as a gun slinging western movie showdown and that’s not a good place to end up.

 

[Serenity]

@captain55 Do both of you a favor and let this go. Ignore her and move on, I can't see anything good come out of this. She will just continue her survival strategy if it keeps working on you and you'll just suffer frustration dealing with her. It's not worth it.

 

[lamath]

@captain55 Do both of you a favor and let this go. Ignore her and move on, I can't see anything good come out of this. She will just continue her survival strategy if it keeps working on you and you'll just suffer frustration dealing with her. It's not worth it.

Exactly, you will end up worst for it.
Even of she is not bipolar, she probably have some PTSD stuff going on, all the weed she smokes is also a red flag.
Sadly those kind of people cant never get their **** together.
Stay with her long enough and you will prob see her threatening suicide when thing are not going her way

 

[mrgoodstuff]

@captain55 Do both of you a favor and let this go. Ignore her and move on, I can't see anything good come out of this. She will just continue her survival strategy if it keeps working on you and you'll just suffer frustration dealing with her. It's not worth it.

Being treated badly hurts your life. Its possible to be destroyed by it.

 

[Ranger]

Exactly, you will end up worst for it.
Even of she is not bipolar, she probably have some PTSD stuff going on, all the weed she smokes is also a red flag.
Sadly those kind of people cant never get their **** together.
Stay with her long enough and you will prob see her threatening suicide when thing are not going her way

Any recreational drug use whatsoever or even excessive alcohol is an automatic relegation to plate or pump and dump.

 

[Ranger]

Don’t take this to mean that I am open to a LTR because that’s not true.
But we all know that certain women we have a higher affinity for. Things just mesh a little better. The important part for me is to stay objective. Better for her to go than to try and save her despite the fact that I like her more than let’s say another woman, all things being roughly equal.

Ive been visualizing a rope. Nice and tight between two points. Really tight. If I see something or she says something that just doesn’t feel right, I say nothing. Just look at her for a delayed few moments then look away. What’s happening is I’m drawing a sharp knife across that tight rope. A few strands are cut and they curl up, and are no longer part of the rope.

If she realizes, without me saying anything, that it was a mistake, I heal the rope back up. This literally happens. Zero emotion and just looking at her and then away, she gets it. I had one say a couple of hours later that “she didn’t mean to say that. “ so I know it works.

Now if I give her the look and she starts getting worse, the knife cuts a few more strands and I break it off for the day. Seriously, I left the hotel room and walked right out on a woman. She was down to her panties and I was still fully dressed. She was out the cash for the room too. It was her turn to pay.
At the time I didn’t realize I was just being a man. It was before I came here.
How many men have done that one?
That rope was getting thinner. Obviously she recanted and it continued for another couple of months. She paid a second time in a row to make up for what she tried to put over on me. Not a word was said. They get it.

That’s how I know that I’m not afraid of a crazy woman. I can handle one. Once that rope is cut through...it’s done. I don’t mind if that happens. Despite how much I like an appreciate her. Why? Because there’s brutality and pain for no reason down that path. A crazy woman is not really crazy. She’s just really messed herself up and it’s because of pushover men for the most part. She honestly believes to the bottom of her soul that she can ride roughshod over any man. Silly girls.
They really are adorable.

 

[Chi Town]

Every girl who has problems doesn't have bpd lol.......

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Every girl who has problems doesn't have bpd lol.......

Could just have a shytload of stress.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You want to calibrate your game to accommodate this?

no. Calibrating to her can kill your game. Use Distance. Pump and dump. Dont carry her stress.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Dump and dump as far as I'm concerned. This isn't normal.

You have a responsible mindset.