So I found the female version of me

[bigdave17]

My cousin in Russia. She's 30 years old, incredibly beautiful (looks like a model without makeup - better looking than me, please don't assume this as me saying I'm a model), in good shape (works out 4 days a week), is a doctor and makes great money for a 30 year old woman, smart, super super nice, loyal, sweet. She would follow you into the gates of hell, loves kids, affectionate, classy, dresses very nice, etc...


Single with no real prospects in sight. She wants to get married and have 3 or 4 kids and I talked to her today and I said she's gotta put herself out there and stop f*cking around because she's wasting the best years of her life. I told her to stop being scared and it's not going to happen by itself


Now I know how you guys all feel talking to me


edit: the one on the left. One on the right is her friend in Toronto that she's trying to introduce to me but I haven't said anything. Do you guys know any other women who are great catches but still have no dating success? very interesting subject to me

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Dude the singles will know you and seek you out. Until your dating and having sex your invisible.

 

[curtsilv]

I know a lot of girls like this. A frightening number actually.

1. hot brunette girl (8). I don't know her but I've seen her around quite a bit. She has a lot of friends from what I can tell. She goes out quite a lot. Seems reasonably social. I've seen her around locally for a year or so. Never had a boyfriend or even been on a date that I can tell.

2. hot brunette. I know her but she was a lot more religious than I am and that became a major issue when 'dating.' She was literally saving sex for marriage. She doesnt date, as no guy wants to wait for sex until marriage and she won't compromise either.

3. cute brunette, hispanic. Works at the grocery store. She has a crush on me. I was/am dating other girls, never got around to asking her out. Again, I see her out with friends from time to time, but never on a one on one date. Looks really good in her online dating profile and tinder. Not sure why more guys don't pursue her? She seems a little moody and bitchy, but not extremely so. I've seen guys go after the strangest looking women you could imagine, so why does this little cutie get ignored?

A ton of college girls are not hooking up. They just go out, flirt, grind, occasional makeout but go home with their girlfriends.

Lots of young attractive women caught up in the work grind too who don't date very often. They're too tired and most of the local guys are idiots.

The scene is super hit and miss. You'll see guys go ape-**** over barely cute, chubby chicks, where they are begging for numbers. 7 girls are getting stalked hard core. But then there are dozens upon dozens of hot girls in college or working who barely receive any attention. It's very strange and unpredictable.

One possible explanation is that in this age range, early to mid 20's, many girls are out of college and starting out with some grunt level job which occupies most of their day. They don't have many arenas to pursue dating options aside from staying out late drinking or putting in a lot of time with online dating. I doubt either option sounds incredibly exciting, for anyone, so a lot of girls are out of the dating loop to a greater degree than anyone would expect based upon looks alone.

Most guys won't cold approach except maybe one or two nights a week max when they try to buy girl's drinks. But then they are so ****faced and idiotic they can't possibly be taken seriously for a relationship.

 

[bigdave17]

I know a lot of girls like this. A frightening number actually.

1. hot brunette girl (8). I don't know her but I've seen her around quite a bit. She has a lot of friends from what I can tell. She goes out quite a lot. Seems reasonably social. I've seen her around locally for a year or so. Never had a boyfriend or even been on a date that I can tell.

2. hot brunette. I know her but she was a lot more religious than I am and that became a major issue when 'dating.' She was literally saving sex for marriage. She doesnt date, as no guy wants to wait for sex until marriage and she won't compromise either.

3. cute brunette, hispanic. Works at the grocery store. She has a crush on me. I was/am dating other girls, never got around to asking her out. Again, I see her out with friends from time to time, but never on a one on one date. Looks really good in her online dating profile and tinder. Not sure why more guys don't pursue her? She seems a little moody and bitchy, but not extremely so. I've seen guys go after the strangest looking women you could imagine, so why does this little cutie get ignored?

A ton of college girls are not hooking up. They just go out, flirt, grind, occasional makeout but go home with their girlfriends.

Lots of young attractive women caught up in the work grind too who don't date very often. They're too tired and most of the local guys are idiots.

The scene is super hit and miss. You'll see guys go ape-**** over barely cute, chubby chicks, where they are begging for numbers. 7 girls are getting stalked hard core. But then there are dozens upon dozens of hot girls in college or working who barely receive any attention. It's very strange and unpredictable.

One possible explanation is that in this age range, early to mid 20's, many girls are out of college and starting out with some grunt level job which occupies most of their day. They don't have many arenas to pursue dating options aside from staying out late drinking or putting in a lot of time with online dating. I doubt either option sounds incredibly exciting, for anyone, so a lot of girls are out of the dating loop to a greater degree than anyone would expect based upon looks alone.

Most guys won't cold approach except maybe one or two nights a week max when they try to buy girl's drinks. But then they are so ****faced and idiotic they can't possibly be taken seriously for a relationship.

Very interesting

my cousin doesn't speak great English so communication between me and her is somewhat limited so I can't figure out exactly why she is not dating more but I'm almost certain it's just not putting enough effort. You can see in picture she's gorgeous and she's not arrogant or stupid or anything like that. She's a great person.

A lot of what you said seems pretty accurate

I suppose it's the female version of me right? I work obsessively hard at my job, hate cold approaching, can't do online dating cause I look like garbage in pictures. It doesn't leave me a lot of options

 

[curtsilv]

I could write several articles and probably an entire book on this topic. Those three examples I gave is just a small sample. I know many more girls in a similar situation.

4. This girl is a real cutie, very demure, nice body, tall, cute face, young. Really, a lot of guys should be pursuing her. But she is burying herself with work on top of school and has little free time. She has a crush on me as well, and tends to be shy. It will take a lot of work to get her out of her shell.

Briefly here are the major hurdles:

-women are expected to make their own living. As in, a "professional" living with a graduate degree, a certification or license of some kind and they are pressured to work as many hours and make as much money as a man. Obviously, this destroys their chances to meet men during leisure since they are tired and overwhelmed. Your sister is in this situation. She'll find a man to marry eventually but it will be much later in life than the average woman.

-a lot of women are very conflicted as their normal sexual desires are constantly compromised by politically correct feminist, man hating propaganda. They are literally afraid of men and more so, of their own sexual desire which would tie them to a man. They are fighting their own natural instincts

-the local guys are drug addicts, outcasts, hillbillies, lots of military only in town for a few months, mexican lowlife gangbangers, dumb weirdos addicted to video games, lots of ugly guys, no one has any sense of style, lots of stupid, boring people. What kind of self respecting woman wants to scrape the bottom of the barrel?

-not much to do. There are only so many times that you can hike the same trails, visit the same handful of bars, or the one ice cream or yogurt shop in town before extreme boredom sets in. That means A LOT of traveling, which means no relationships.

Basically, there are lots of desperate loser guys with almost nothing to offer. Nothing attractive to offer anyway.

I'm on every woman's radar, but I can't get around to all of them, and even if I wanted to, the girls are looking for monogamous relationships, which is not what I am currently seeking. It could happen, I don't rule it out, but it's not an absolute priority just yet. If it clicks for me, sure.

 

[curtsilv]

On the flip side, here are some of the single guys I've encountered recently.

1. ugly, hairy, semi-fat guy with a scraggly beard, big head, little dating experience, and VERY bad breath. Literally, this dumb f--k does not brush his teeth. Hits on fat girls. I said hi to a girl he was interested and he started yelling uncontrollably, lost his mind with jealousy. Probably zero sexual experience.

2. good guy: local graduate student. Normal/average looking, but no sense of style. Extremely afraid of going out to unfamiliar nightspots. Texts me constantly to go out but always flakes last minute. Does not approach women. Will not talk to women even when I introduce him to attractive women. Sexually inexperienced.

3. Tall, fat, ugly guy. Extremely insecure, belligerent. Attends every single social event he becomes aware of. No one likes him but no one calls him out for being a dumb belligerent troll. He tries to arrange parties but no one attends them. However, he attends every social event that is "open" without invitation.

4. weird incel guy clearly has a well known disorder. Approaches every female under the age of 40. This includes high school girls. Has no clue what he's doing. Sexually inexperienced. Like #3, attends every single "open invitation" event he is aware of. Has no friends. Even ugly weird guys think he's weird.

Aside from these particular individuals are the following categories:

-generic military guys. Amazingly, they all look exactly alike. It's frightening. I literally cannot distinguish one from the other. They all dress exactly alike, are devoid of facial expressions and all have a crew cut and are clean shaven. All of the ones over 30 have hot wives, all of the ones under 30 can't get a date to save their lives. Go figure.

-belligerent, stocky hillbilly guys. Extremely aggressive, approach every girl, all of them wind up with a fat blonde girl.

-mexican gangbangers. They all wind up with a fat, super short mexican girl.

-black guys. Always go out alone. Always. Almost zero action. Rarely approach. Always stand in or near dance floor, but never dance. Rejected almost 100% of the time but they love clubs and give zero f-cks when rejected, which is almost every single time.

-incel horde. I see these guys out occasionally. They stick to boardgame stores or in their rooms playing online RPG videogames. I don't know what they eat. Strange eating habits, and lack of hygiene or grooming among whatever other issues they're dealing with.

You can't just blame the women here. The pool they're looking at isn't of the highest caliber.

 

[curtsilv]

So which girls are seeing the most "action?" It's the fat girls! All of the pretty girls have enough self respect to avoid the trash approaching them. So who's left? The fat girls want validation from a guy who isn't fat, perhaps even somewhat good looking and every drunk guy in the house has been passed on by the hot girls. Not even the cougars will hook up with these guys.

Basically the only girls who put out around here for SNL's are the fat girls who are reasonably young and have cute faces. That, and the mexican girls who will put out if you are white or very hot.