"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Handling a Previous LJBF who is Showing Interest Again

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What is she really looking for?

Most of you know that I listened to Rollo’s first book six times and his second book four times. This is not bragging. It was not hard work. But it will not actually fully unplug you. It sets you up to be unplugged as far as the social conditioning goes. That’s a much tougher nut to crack.

Think of it like a jigsaw puzzle on your kitchen table. You’ve been sitting there for an hour and have only found one piece to fit. Someone else walks up, looks at it and fits five pieces in a row with hardly a glance. You were looking right at those pieces but glossed right over them. You couldn’t see them. Yet you had ALL the pieces.

I won’t tell or say how to solve a problem. If there’s a problem or something you are missing...it belongs to you. Rollo, whether by design or just by sheer accident, found nearly all the pieces. All those pieces fit. But right now, in this thread and in nearly all threads they are just pieces that are laying around the table waiting to be fit into the puzzle. Even Rollo admitted that he can’t fit those pieces for you or tell you what to think or do.

“A woman would rather share a good man than be saddled with a loyal beta.”
Rollo Tomassi

What does that mean? There is nothing about Hypergamy or monkey branching or resources in that. This piece doesn’t look the same. You can’t lump this piece with other pieces because each one is different.

What is she REALLY looking for that sharing you actually increases her desire for you and she will fiercely position herself for you?
Look at you and not her.
What is it that resources no longer matter? Hypergamy no longer matters.

What is the actual missing element that you can’t see?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Well the biggest difference between you and I is I have nothing to offer her financially speaking.
That’s the wrong model. You are still hanging onto the “resources” puzzle piece. You are setting up a self fulfilling prophesy. Sorry, that’s the only way I know how to explain it. You believe it because you can only see that.
This only applies and is used against plugged in men. It won’t work on unplugged men.
Unplugged bums fuk stunning vacationing women all the time. You are operating in the wrong model. That is you, not her.
 
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I agree with Spaz. Operating with Hypergamy and even believing it’s real, is playing into the hands of the feminine imperative.

It’s a difficult concept to get if you look at it from a plugged in state. Because you can see it. You’ve observed it to be true. And it is...if you are plugged in and operating in that universe.

But it’s make believe if you’re not plugged in. Unplugged you are looking at it from another universe. You are looking down at it. It’s observably right down there as you look.

But you are looking at it from a higher universe like it’s a video game. It only exists in the video game. And in that game/universe, it’s the feminine imperative and the laws (Hypergamy, monkey branching etc) of that imperative that run that entire universe. But if you are unplugged, you can pick up that feminine imperative universe and hold it and roll it around in your palm. When you are bored with it just toss it in the trash and run your own universe and no longer operate in theirs.

That’s the best way I can come up with to look at it.
 

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Hey, you can even explain it better then I ever could.

Good example Ranger.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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That’s the wrong model. You are still hanging onto the “resources” puzzle piece. You are setting up a self fulfilling prophesy. Sorry, that’s the only way I know how to explain it. You believe it because you can only see that.
This only applies and is used against plugged in men. It won’t work on unplugged men.
Unplugged bums fuk stunning vacationing women all the time. You are operating in the wrong model. That is you, not her.
I don’t think you understood what I meant. I was comparing your example to mine. I never said I needed money to get this girl. The exact opposite actually. I have her attention regardless of it. I’m just trying to figure out how to unwind this situation I’m in.
 
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I don’t think you understood what I meant. I was comparing your example to mine. I never said I needed money to get this girl. The exact opposite actually. I have her attention regardless of it. I’m just trying to figure out how to unwind this situation I’m in.
It’s still the wrong model. You’re looking at it from the inside jaymbrs.
This situation is her creation. Start to finish. You merely participated in it. You are in the matrix and operating with her laws. The “laws” of the feminine imperative. “Keep men confused and clueless so they conform to our control.”

It’s a laughable, ridiculous universe. It’s a girl playground. I only go there to take a leak now and then these last couple of weeks.
BUT I will never approach her or engage her in that universe again. It’s utterly ridiculous.

Do this in your mind:
Pick up that universe. Look at it for what it is. Toss it.

Now what should you do about it?
What is she really looking for?
 

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Well if it gets you bent out of shape substitute opportunistic with hypergamy. Women r gatherers by Nature they are always looking for the diamond lying in the dirt. The resources stimulate different emotions. Why do women love to be grabbed around the tits from behind? Because it gives them that warm secure feeling same thing with money.

The drunken bum might be giving them a feeling of living in the moment and being free. All these feelings are resources to a woman. That's why having a top male they f*** and a pack of orbiters/providers is there dreamstate.

What a lot of the guys don't seem to get here is that if you can meet 3 or 4 of the archetypes then you are a hard guy to replace. The last step is not caring if you get replaced at that point you might not win the game but you don't lose it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You really need to lay off the whacky backy and Bowie records, ranger mate. Talking about the fvcking universe and sh1t lmao

Just ask her out for next week or ignore the girl, Jambyrs for goodness sakes. End of.
Oh I’m sorry. Next time I will do stick figures for you.
 

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Making mistakes in life is a signal that it is time to learn something new. Something you didn't know before.

Mistakes/failures is part of the process of success. People who avoid making mistakes also avoid success.

1st you must admit that mistake and then learn how to turn that mistake into an advantage.
 

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It’s still the wrong model. You’re looking at it from the inside jaymbrs.
This situation is her creation. Start to finish. You merely participated in it. You are in the matrix and operating with her laws. The “laws” of the feminine imperative. “Keep men confused and clueless so they conform to our control.”

It’s a laughable, ridiculous universe. It’s a girl playground. I only go there to take a leak now and then these last couple of weeks.
BUT I will never approach her or engage her in that universe again. It’s utterly ridiculous.

Do this in your mind:
Pick up that universe. Look at it for what it is. Toss it.

Now what should you do about it?
What is she really looking for?
This is actually true.

Men and women interact differently with each other.

Universes or world's is aptly named.

Similarities such as this exist in a different context, an example; a devoted Muslim has his own "universe" and often clashes with the rest of humanity.

A woman will work within her own "universe" to ensure her survival. However she can't be blamed. That's her only choice to even out the odds in her favor.

Similarly, a man too must hv his own "universe" to ensure he profits from every interactions with women.

The problem that's prevalent in most of society today is that men has been exposed, raised, and shamed into either subconsciously or consciously accepting/operating/living within a woman's "universe". That universe is the feminine frame.

Perhaps, instead abt talking the feminine frame, each one here should be talking abt the male "universe".

What is it like ? Do any one here knows ? Do you even understand it ?

Can you even list it down? Would it be a long or a short list ?

These r some questions a man needs to answer by himself - is there depth within you ?
 
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This is actually true.

Men and women interact differently with each other.

Universes or world's is aptly named.

Similarities such as this exist in a different context, an example; a devoted Muslim has his own "universe" and often clashes with the rest of humanity.

A woman will work within her own "universe" to ensure her survival. However she can't be blamed. That's her only choice to even out the odds in her favor.

Similarly, a man too must hv his own "universe" to ensure he profits from every interactions with women.

The problem that's prevalent in most of society today is that men has been exposed, raised, and shamed into either subconsciously or consciously accepting/operating/living within a woman's "universe". That universe is the feminine frame.

Perhaps, instead abt talking the feminine frame, each one here should be talking abt the male "universe".

What is it like ? Do any one here knows ? Do you even understand it ?

Can you even list it down? Would it be a long or a short list ?

These r some questions a man needs to answer by himself - is there depth within you ?
Well put.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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