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Thegambino's thoughts and life update - I give up on women !

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I am really done lmao.

The updates:

My life is going well, I take extremely good care about myself in health, pleasure, investing in myself. Plates: I'm groomed, I eat healthy, I feel good, I f8ck different girls every weekend I go out. F8ck, replace, repeat. How do I maintain? It's pretty hard, good gym regime, food, being super outgoing and confident. I got two really good male buddies, who live exactley as I do. We discuss our plates, go out together and gym together. We can relate very good because we both are players so no party will feel jealousy towards the other. We tell eachother everything and hang out almost everyday after school/work.
Nowadays I even next girls that act desperate and clingy to see me and lock me down.
My priorities are my business i'm going to start in december, graduate for my internship and getting lean.

Why am I done with women?(read this!!)
I felt hope because of seeing married alpha males as Donald Trump, Barack Obama and Adolf Hitler (yes hes super alpha, he chased his dreams, encountered major downfalls, stood up, chased his goals and got a whole continent to bend over and started from stractch just like Napoleon with ambition).

But I think that truth is that these men use their women only for pleasure and affection. And I think that these women are/were extremely attracted towards them and that's why they believed in them , supported them and stayed to their sides. Cmon man? Trumps wife is a p0rnstar. She is there to look pretty and s8ck his c0ck, he did all the work.

They believe in their ambition, work, and lift with their success. Ofcourse they have knowledge, they could have studied aswell but still their nature is too f8ck whoever male is their best option to fullfill THEIR OWN NEEDS.

Any thoughts?
 

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Based on numerous past threads you have started about specific girls, I dont think you are anywhere near being a player. And that's ok. Not everyone has it in them. Nothing wrong with that. I think deep down you would like to find some chick who is worth your time and effort to date and be happy with.

I dont give up on women, but I dont actively go looking for new chicks all of the time. Sometimes I do, sometimes I dont. As of the last 2 months I have had tons of shyte going on with my business and life in general. It has just been a busy time and thats ok. I have a very attractive, young realtor that comes over once a week (unless I am busy) and we bang. Other than that, I sort of shut it down for a bit. I still text a few different chicks occasionally throughout the week but I dont have the time to go out on dates or even interested in them coming over.

During the time that I sort of shut it down, I still strike up conversations with new chicks and respond to those who message me on fb. I guess in a way I am setting things up with them for when I have more time and feel like going out with more chicks. But for the moment I just dont ask them out.

Just recently I had a chick finally just come out and say "are you going to ask me out eventually or what?". So knowing that a woman's interested has an expiration limit, I made a date for this weekend.

But the major difference is this: you are being controlled by the actions of others and I set the perimeters as to how I will operate with women and not let anyone else's actions determine what I do. Period.

The other thing that I have always felt from your post is that you are in between really wanting a relationship and also wanting to put more notches on your belt and add to your lay count. I would even say that its more of a relationship that you want. It's a weird place to be because where you are going to find your easier lays, you wont necessarily find that many chicks that are relationship worthy. You cant find a Porsche at the Hyundai dealership unless its a high mileage washed up trade in.

So you need to determine what YOU want. Not what your buddies want or what a chick wants. As in anything else in life you determine what is best for you, prepare and then execute the plan. Remember that most people dont plan to fail, they fail to plan.

You are getting your education. You are hitting the gym. You have a business model for when you graduate. Thats awesome man!

But make sure that you are doing it for YOU. So that YOU can get ahead in life. Do not do it to impress some chick. Thats the difference. You need to be on YOUR purpose and then, at that point, they will be attracted to you. You also need to find someone that is on HER purpose. It is very important because if you do find a good relationship you both need to have both your own income, own security and your own lives outside of each other. Very important stuff.

So the real question here is what do you want and what are you willing to do to get there? Devise your plan and execute it for you to have a nice life. Set yourself up for your own personal happiness and the rest will take care of itself. You are responsible for you alone (since you dont have kids) so you do what is best for you.
 

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Based on numerous past threads you have started about specific girls, I dont think you are anywhere near being a player. And that's ok. Not everyone has it in them. Nothing wrong with that. I think deep down you would like to find some chick who is worth your time and effort to date and be happy with.

I dont give up on women, but I dont actively go looking for new chicks all of the time. Sometimes I do, sometimes I dont. As of the last 2 months I have had tons of shyte going on with my business and life in general. It has just been a busy time and thats ok. I have a very attractive, young realtor that comes over once a week (unless I am busy) and we bang. Other than that, I sort of shut it down for a bit. I still text a few different chicks occasionally throughout the week but I dont have the time to go out on dates or even interested in them coming over.

During the time that I sort of shut it down, I still strike up conversations with new chicks and respond to those who message me on fb. I guess in a way I am setting things up with them for when I have more time and feel like going out with more chicks. But for the moment I just dont ask them out.

Just recently I had a chick finally just come out and say "are you going to ask me out eventually or what?". So knowing that a woman's interested has an expiration limit, I made a date for this weekend.

But the major difference is this: you are being controlled by the actions of others and I set the perimeters as to how I will operate with women and not let anyone else's actions determine what I do. Period.

The other thing that I have always felt from your post is that you are in between really wanting a relationship and also wanting to put more notches on your belt and add to your lay count. I would even say that its more of a relationship that you want. It's a weird place to be because where you are going to find your easier lays, you wont necessarily find that many chicks that are relationship worthy. You cant find a Porsche at the Hyundai dealership unless its a high mileage washed up trade in.

So you need to determine what YOU want. Not what your buddies want or what a chick wants. As in anything else in life you determine what is best for you, prepare and then execute the plan. Remember that most people dont plan to fail, they fail to plan.

You are getting your education. You are hitting the gym. You have a business model for when you graduate. Thats awesome man!

But make sure that you are doing it for YOU. So that YOU can get ahead in life. Do not do it to impress some chick. Thats the difference. You need to be on YOUR purpose and then, at that point, they will be attracted to you. You also need to find someone that is on HER purpose. It is very important because if you do find a good relationship you both need to have both your own income, own security and your own lives outside of each other. Very important stuff.

So the real question here is what do you want and what are you willing to do to get there? Devise your plan and execute it for you to have a nice life. Set yourself up for your own personal happiness and the rest will take care of itself. You are responsible for you alone (since you dont have kids) so you do what is best for you.
I can always count on your words and knowledge, amazing. Thanks.
 

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So knowing that a woman's interested has an expiration limit, I made a date for this weekend.

But the major difference is this: you are being controlled by the actions of others and I set the perimeters as to how I will operate with women and not let anyone else's actions determine what I do. Period.
Re-read this.
 

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From what I read of Gambino's posts, he was fairly successful leading the player lifestyle. This thread just further convinces me that most men will ultimately not find this lifestyle satisfying. After awhile, you want more.

It's a weird place to be because where you are going to find your easier lays, you wont necessarily find that many chicks that are relationship worthy.
I tried telling that to bigdave, but of course he didn't agree.
 

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From what I read of Gambino's posts, he was fairly successful leading the player lifestyle. This thread just further convinces me that most men will ultimately not find this lifestyle satisfying. After awhile, you want more.


I tried telling that to bigdave, but of course he didn't agree.

If you are going out 10 times and only getting laid once in today's society, you are far from being a player or an alpha male. Thats ok, because higher standards will slow down the lays too.

I agree with you that while fun in the moment the bar/club scene gets old FAST. Most people are at their most attractive point when doing something they enjoy. For a lot of us men that are 25+ we get to the point that we dread going to a bar or club for many different reasons. The biggest reason is the guys are going there to try to get laid instead of just going to have fun, socialize and enjoy it (which is what actually works with women).

By going to a venue or setting that they are not happy being at in the first place and then get frustrated when they are not pulling tail. Double whammy. It doesnt work.

That is why it is best to go do something that you like doing and if you happen to meet someone that is attractive great. If not, you are still doing something fun and not feeling as if you're wasting time.

I am not sure about BD's posts. I havent seen them in a while lol.
 

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If you are going out 10 times and only getting laid once in today's society, you are far from being a player or an alpha male. Thats ok, because higher standards will slow down the lays too.

I agree with you that while fun in the moment the bar/club scene gets old FAST. Most people are at their most attractive point when doing something they enjoy. For a lot of us men that are 25+ we get to the point that we dread going to a bar or club for many different reasons. The biggest reason is the guys are going there to try to get laid instead of just going to have fun, socialize and enjoy it (which is what actually works with women).

By going to a venue or setting that they are not happy being at in the first place and then get frustrated when they are not pulling tail. Double whammy. It doesnt work.

That is why it is best to go do something that you like doing and if you happen to meet someone that is attractive great. If not, you are still doing something fun and not feeling as if you're wasting time.

I am not sure about BD's posts. I havent seen them in a while lol.
Very true. Going to a club and getting no numbers feels like a failure to me. Bars are a hybrid because you can socialize, catch up with friends, or watch a game and it'd be okay.
 

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I think having been a player helps. If your girlfriend knows you mean with dozens of woman and is a smart girl she's going to work out that she can be easily replaced. Which would piss off a guy but competition anxiety seems to bring the best out in chicks
 

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I think having been a player helps. If your girlfriend knows you mean with dozens of woman and is a smart girl she's going to work out that she can be easily replaced. Which would piss off a guy but competition anxiety seems to bring the best out in chicks
I don't think we had the term "player" when I was growing up. But yeah, I'm sure it puts things in perspective, which is badly needed these days. But the main thing is from a life experience standpoint, we should all get a chance to "sow our wild oats". However many oats you have to sow, which varies.
 

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It does get old fast, then you might get feelings for a chick, she burns you and you revert to type and the cycle continues.

I learned on here to focus on your goals and let everything else fall into place, work-wise I've has the most productive quarter over the last 3 months I can ever remember, and I haven't been chasing tail or even watching porn.

No need to go to extremes talking about giving up on women.
 

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You're always in the game and will always be a contender so long as you don't give up on simply being a man.
Exactly! So, what the nice guys must learn is just how to turn themselves into men. What is the appearance of a man? How is his health? How he acts? What he aims in his life? How are his social skills? A man is independent, how can I be like that too? How he acts when someone disrespects him? And far it goes... that's the way to go...
 

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So you need to determine what YOU want. Not what your buddies want or what a chick wants. As in anything else in life you determine what is best for you, prepare and then execute the plan. Remember that most people dont plan to fail, they fail to plan.

You are getting your education. You are hitting the gym. You have a business model for when you graduate. Thats awesome man!

But make sure that you are doing it for YOU. So that YOU can get ahead in life. Do not do it to impress some chick. Thats the difference. You need to be on YOUR purpose and then, at that point, they will be attracted to you. You also need to find someone that is on HER purpose. It is very important because if you do find a good relationship you both need to have both your own income, own security and your own lives outside of each other. Very important stuff.

So the real question here is what do you want and what are you willing to do to get there? Devise your plan and execute it for you to have a nice life. Set yourself up for your own personal happiness and the rest will take care of itself. You are responsible for you alone (since you dont have kids) so you do what is best for you.
Exactly! YOUR SATISFACTION IS ALL. Be worth of yourself.
 

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I think having been a player helps. If your girlfriend knows you mean with dozens of woman and is a smart girl she's going to work out that she can be easily replaced. Which would piss off a guy but competition anxiety seems to bring the best out in chicks
Agreed! When you are used to have women, you don't give a fvck for a lot of things. She will feel that. She will know that. She will know that she can be replaced. In fact, I girl know when the guy have a nice SMV. So, going for some plates it's the way go.
 
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