Was I being played

[sangheilios]

Long story that I'll do my best to abbreviate.

In August I approached a hot girl that was a recent regular at my gym, just walked up to her when she was between one of her sets and we talk for 10 minutes. Before the day of approaching her I had noticed her checking me out several times, so it wasn't completely out of the blue. Anyway, I let her get back to her workout and when I saw her there 2 days later she waves to me and comes over to talk to me. We speak for a few minutes and she ended up asking me out that evening, so we exchanged numbers. I go do my workout and after she leaves she sends me a text saying if we could do another day, so I asked if the next day worked. I didn't get a response, which I didn't think anything of at first, but I had a feeling something was off.

I didn't see her at the gym nor hear back from her in almost a week until I get this text saying she got a new phone and apologizing. I see her at the gym a couple days later and we talk for a while but I decided not to ask her out. The next day I see her there and we talk for a while and she is flirting like crazy, letting me touch her thighs and she was asking me if I was available later, so I ask if she wants to go out to dinner. She then says she can't make it but wanted to go out when I come back from vacation.

I come back from vacation and the flirting is the same as before and we end up agreeing to go out mini golfing later in the week. The next day I see her there she is practically avoiding me so I asked her point blank if she had a boyfriend and to be honest with me. She says she was single but just not looking for anything right now, which i respond to by saying if she wants to go out for her to let me know.

I continue to see her at the gym and kept our conversations brief, just a quick hello, etc. That went on for about a week until she started approaching me again and opening up, though I figured it was better to wait a bit before asking her out. However, a couple weeks into this I see her there with this guy and they are talking for quite a while. He leaves and I talk to her briefly, only to have him come up during the conversation to interrupt us. She goes off with him and before leaving me and her talk and she mentions that she doesn't want me talking to her when he is there. I ask if it's her boyfriend, which she says he is a "friend" and then I mention it shouldn't matter then. She ends up getting mad and tells me not to talk to her. This all happened mid September.

Since then I've heard from gym friends that she is there a lot with tons of different guys, obviously I'm not there every time she is so I'm not going to be completely aware of this.

 

[Spaz]

So what's the question ?

You want to know if she's a good date? A hoe? A waste of time?

 

[sangheilios]

So what's the question ?

You want to know if she's a good date? A hoe? A waste of time?

The question was in the title, was I getting played?

 

[Spaz]

Sometimes a girl is just testing her skills.

I sometimes do it too with women and then ignore them.

Don't take it to heart and learn to let go.

 

[jaymbrs]

By reading this I can tell you she probably just wanted some ****. But you kept insisting on a date to which she had no interest in. I've made that error before too and actually had the girl tell me straight up that's all she was looking for.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Mods, please implement a word or character limit on SS posts. The "Great Wall of Text" shouldn't be allowed. I see this all the time.

Surprised people even take the time to read such a novel. I open, look, and close if it's too much.

 

[sangheilios]

By reading this I can tell you she probably just wanted some ****. But you kept insisting on a date to which she had no interest in. I've made that error before too and actually had the girl tell me straight up that's all she was looking for.

I can see that, there were several times where I noticed her staring at my groin area, since I'm wearing basketball shorts at the gym it's pretty obvious. Also, she asked me if I had netflix once randomly but I wasn't entirely sure if it was just conversation or a hint at that.

However, even if she did just want sex she wouldn't have ghosted on me and she still would have gone out on a date with me. That's why I kind of felt like she was just stringing me along and looking for attention.

 

[devilkingx2]

Mods, please implement a word or character limit on SS posts. The "Great Wall of Text" shouldn't be allowed. I see this all the time.

Surprised people even take the time to read such a novel. I open, look, and close if it's too much.

I skim or just skip to the replies to determine if it's worth the effort lol

 

[Atom Smasher]

Mods, please implement a word or character limit on SS posts. The "Great Wall of Text" shouldn't be allowed. I see this all the time.

Surprised people even take the time to read such a novel. I open, look, and close if it's too much.

This is nothing compared to some of the novels that are written. Perhaps he cut it down before I got to read it, but as it stands it's really not that long.

I rarely read long, drawn-out posts. Like you, all I need to do is look at the length and I take a pass. This one was just under my max character cutoff. I'd rather let these guys get it off their chest than to limit them. Oddly enough, some members read the entirety of long posts and respond pretty thoroughly. Like you, I just can't do it (unless I have to for moderation reasons).

 

[resilient]

Playing you for attention. Anything other than a yes is a no. Try not to read too much into her words or body language... judge actions. She sounds like she’s already robbed enough of your time and energy.

I would just ignore her.. or at the very least make her qualify for your time and attention.

Too much time chit chatting between sets kills your heart rate and rest time accuracy between sets.

 

[sangheilios]

Playing you for attention. Anything other than a yes is a no. Try not to read too much into her words or body language... judge actions. She sounds like she’s already robbed enough of your time and energy.

I would just ignore her.. or at the very least make her qualify for your time and attention.

Too much time chit chatting between sets kills your heart rate and rest time accuracy between sets.

I don't talk to her anymore. I hadn't seen her in a couple weeks and yesterday she saw me there and was staring at me hardcore and watching me. She was doing it to the point where I even would look over and she wouldn't break eye contact lol.