She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
True.. Usually with emotionally unhealthy mothers that turn him (usually the son) into surrogate father. Mainly for validation.poor adult child.A/K/A a millennial loser. No excuse for why he dropped out of college and didn't go back. Doesn't have a job. Doesn't live on his own @ 37 years old. A pathetic loser. His mom made life way too comfortable for him. Her fault for turning him into the pathetic person he is today.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Dang, I mean I've never had a gf, but I've been on dates and have kissed. Frankly, I seriously need to work on approaching.
This guy though has other issues to work. No gf is not his problem. He needs to get a life purpose, job, and workout.
Had what?see and i am younger than you and I had
You didnt missed anything other than the guy has been isolated since he was very young by her own mother. His failure to launch due to his emotionally underdevelope (thanks to the mother who doing a stellar job at it) and his skewed perceptive to think that her mother happiness solely depends on him and ceased to exist if he left home.And NO i repeat NO healthy heterosexual female wants a passive guy.What am I missing? The entitlement of the younger generation (fvck, he's five years younger than me), is disgusting.
The video said that he had a job in the past. But you are too busy judging the guy and can't bother to listen to what he has to say.He never had to work for anything in his life. Now, look at what that has got him. 37 year old virgin, no eduction, no job, no life living at mommy's house.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
What healthy women are really out there? The types that like to flirt with other guys while they have bfs? Or that could toss a guy for another guy if she gets a better deal, despite all of the magical moments together? What issues has he raised that bigdave17 has not raised on here?And NO i repeat NO healthy heterosexual female wants a passive guy.
No excuse. The man should know he needs to pull his own weight. No man @ 37; let alone 22, should be living with their parents rent free unless he has a medical issue or disorder. He's just lazy and entitled.You didnt missed anything other than the guy has been isolated since he was very young by her own mother. His failure to launch due to his emotionally underdevelope (thanks to the mother who doing a stellar job at it) and his skewed perceptive to think that her mother happiness solely depends on him and ceased to exist if he left home.And NO i repeat NO healthy heterosexual female wants a passive guy.
I bet he got raised by a narcissistic family. The guy is the victim here.
Im no psyche theraphist either. But i have much interest and knowledge.
Yea, years ago. What happened? No more jobs at the job store?The video said that he had a job in the past. But you are too busy judging the guy and can't bother to listen to what he has to say.
I hear Mormons, Indian's and the Amish are okay. Then again, it's due to their upbringing and not watch pop-culture. If I had kids, they'd not be watching anything but PBS or public broadcasting like C-Span. No phone until they start work. There are kids, like 5 years old, with a freakin iPhone. My first iPhone was 4 years ago. It's all about how a person is raised. Clear and simple. I know a lot of men who are literally lost in life because their parents coddled them. I have some in my family too. When their parents pass on, they are lost. I've tried to talk to them and their parents, I am told I do not know, I do not have kids. My reply, yea, this is why.What healthy women are really out there? The types that like to flirt with other guys while they have bfs? Or that could toss a guy for another guy if she gets a better deal, despite all of the magical moments together? What issues has he raised that bigdave17 has not raised on here?
You see bigdave17 and this guy has the same predicament, and nobody can help either get a gf. You can say that bigdave17 and ricardthefrog are both passive and dealing with their deficiencies in different ways. One may be going with women he doesn't really like in the past, the other can pay for escorts.
So why is everyone on here picking on this guy? If he became as people idealize, he's just become another bigdave17 on here and then post countless threads of how he can't get the right gf, or like richardthefrog and ask why he can't get it for free without going on SA or a adult classified site.
That is aside the point. That is a major point you conceded on, re-read your post.Yea, years ago. What happened? No more jobs at the job store?
This guy doesn't sound "lost in life", that's your interpretation of his video. His complaints are no different than BigDave.R.U.G. said:I hear Mormons, Indian's and the Amish are okay. Then again, it's due to their upbringing and not watch pop-culture. If I had kids, they'd not be watching anything but PBS or public broadcasting like C-Span. No phone until they start work. There are kids, like 5 years old, with a freakin iPhone. My first iPhone was 4 years ago. It's all about how a person is raised. Clear and simple. I know a lot of men who are literally lost in life because their parents coddled them. I have some in my family too. When their parents pass on, they are lost. I've tried to talk to them and their parents, I am told I do not know, I do not have kids. My reply, yea, this is why.
Aside the point as well. So a bad guy in your books is someone who gets along with his parents, or is "lost in life"? So, I guess people like Hitler are good guys because they didn't live with their parents?R.U.G. said:BigDave at least seems to have a job and lives on his own. I give him credit for that. The frogman went to prison. I am sure that had a lot to do with his personality. Neither are bad guys.
Or be in more debt that he can't pay back assuming he even gets a loan in the first place. There is only one thing worst than being unemployed. Being unemployed with a big student loan debt you can't pay back because you don't have a job.If he was at least going to college or learning a trade he would be on a path to getting a career and living in his own.
That's blue-pill talk. He's not gaining any skills by not dealing with women until x,y,z,. His life is in order enough to make videos and post them on youtube. Guess what, other people who have jobs or are not living with their parents also complain they can't get girls, and even make videos and post them up on youtube.Fzatf said:He shouldn't even worry about women until he's got his life in order.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.