Messaged for a bit then got her number. No reply

[RickTheToad]

Interesting situation. Last May 2017 I was matched with a lady who lives five minutes away. We chatted for a bit and were going to play tennis. I asked for her number and we started to text. I then asked how about tom. at 2, as it was a Saturday, and I received no response. I responded the next day, I guess you lost interest. Not a problem, take care. She said she was with her family or something, I do not recall the exact response a day later, as I no longer have the phone.

Fast forward a year later and we liked each other on the app and I said hello how are you? She replied up for some tennis? I said sure. She then said today? When? Can't today, this was on Sunday, but send me your number and we'll plan something out. She proceeded to give me her number, as I lost her number when I switched to a new phone around Christmas. I messaged her yesterday, no reply. Should I wait a week and just message her on the app and say did you get my text?

Yes, I have other ladies I am actually texting and talking to, but she is as attractive but really close. I mean, we can walk to meet up. All the others are either in Westchester or the City (Queens/Brooklyn/Manhattan).

What's the SS way of handling this?

 

[Glassguy]

You messaged her and no reply.

No reply = no/low interest

Who knows, she may have a bf now since it has been a while. Just chill and see if she responds. If she doesnt, no big deal.

You do have several plates at this point I assume?

 

[RickTheToad]

You messaged her and no reply.

No reply = no/low interest

Who knows, she may have a bf now since it has been a while. Just chill and see if she responds. If she doesnt, no big deal.

You do have several plates at this point I assume?

You misread my post. We were re-matched a few days ago. She wanted to play tennis, I agreed. She messaged me her cell. I texted her yesterday, no reply.

Yes, I am working on other plates. This one just happens to be really close. All others I have to drive to the city (45 mins).

 

[Young OG]

Text her again in a couple days. Dont ask if she got your other text. If she doesnt respond then move on.

Once you build up enough plates and prospects, you wont care if a girl didnt respond. You will just text another girl instead.

 

[MrJack]

You misread my post. We were re-matched a few days ago. She wanted to play tennis, I agreed. She messaged me her cell. I texted her yesterday, no reply.

Yes, I am working on other plates. This one just happens to be really close. All others I have to drive to the city (45 mins).

She sounds like just another one of those attention h0es on OLD who don’t actually plan to meetup but use the dating platform as a tool for constant validation.

They are very annoying

 

[RickTheToad]

Text her again in a couple days. Dont ask if she got your other text. If she doesnt respond then move on.

Once you build up enough plates and prospects, you wont care if a girl didnt respond. You will just text another girl instead.

I don't really care, as she did something similar last year. She claimed she was with her family and didn't have her phone on her. I just replied, np seems you have low interest in meeting up. Ciao.

I only entertained it again this time around as she liked me and reached out two mins after I said hello. Plus, she lives so close. Every other plate is 30+ mins. plus away. I am still entertaining them too, I just put preference on distance. Easier to hookup.

She sounds like just another one of those attention h0es on OLD who don’t actually plan to meetup but use the dating platform as a tool for constant validation.

They are very annoying

Agreed. She knows she's attractive so she uses it for her advantage. Abs of steel it seems. Possibly tighter than mine.

 

[Glassguy]

I texted her yesterday, no reply.

If you feel like reaching out once more is the answer then do it. I would wait a few days before you reach back out and only one more attempt.
Hit her back up on the site that you matched with her on and simply say "Hiya....I sent you a message to the number you gave me. If you didnt get it let me know in case I sent it to the wrong number".

You made another thread about having numerous matches and options. Since we live in the day and age of cell phones, texts, messaging, etc., it is highly unlikely that she did not get the text given the technology of cell phones today.

I just feel like it is way easier to me to shift that small amount of attention I would give to a chick in this situation to another one. Then see if she reaches back out.

Keep spinning those plates.

 

[RangerMIke]

She doesn't owe you an answer on anything because nothing was asked. My advice, and what I always do, is ask a chick out with a specific time/date/activity that you already plan to do. Never allow yourself to be in a position where you are waiting on a chick to make an emotional decision. If there is no way to get a yes/no answer on the spot then NEVER ask her out. It's really that simple.

Let me say again, if there is no way to get a yes/no answer on the spot, do not ask her out. If you ask her out, and she gives you any answer other than yes, then it is no. If she won't give you a straight up answer take it as a no. If she isn't making herself available to talk to you on the phone, letting messages go straight to VM, texting and not responding, either something is going on in her life at that moment or you are her #2, 3 or 4 of all the dudes chasing her... and that's fine... You need to just live your life and not worry about it. If she likes you she will reach out and let you know when she is available.. if she doesn't.... no problem.... just move on to the next one.

Right now the OP has a ubiquitous pseudo-agreement that at sometime/someplace... tennis is going to happen. It's open ended based on her availability. The ball is in her court, using a tennis analogy, you have to wait for her to hit the ball back.... otherwise you don't have a game.... you have a situation where you are serving to an empty court.

If you are spending a second thinking about a chick you haven't actually met on a date you have wasted that second, and setting yourself up for getting emotionally attached to a chick that has not demonstrated any reciprocity.

 

[HankHill]

Question...when you say you texted her and got no reply what did you text her exactly? Two, are you uncertain that you have her correct number? You can try a quick reverse phone lookup or something. I ask because you want to reach out to her on the app next time.

 

[RickTheToad]

She actually texted me back yesterday morning and we've been texting back and forth since then. We have tennis set for Saturday morning. She said she was working a paper or something. Most likely bs, but we'll see if she shows.

 

[nismo-4]

She sounds like just another one of those attention h0es on OLD who don’t actually plan to meetup but use the dating platform as a tool for constant validation.

They are very annoying

That's why you block 'em.

 

[The Diver]

she liked me and reached out two mins after I said hello.

I messaged her yesterday, no reply.

Woman glued to their phone. No one missing a message for a full day. she's for sure saw it, and If she didn't bother to reply in a timely manner (comparing to her reply bf )- assume L I.


(After dealing with H I women, who reply back from 5 sec' to a few hours max, you get your BS sensors highly sensitive for L I women)

 

[RickTheToad]

Woman glued to their phone. No one missing a message for a full day. she's for sure saw it, and If she didn't bother to reply in a timely manner (comparing to her reply bf )- assume L I.


(After dealing with H I women, who reply back from 5 sec' to a few hours max, you get your BS sensors highly sensitive for L I women)

Thought the same. Some how I think she still had our text from last Spring where I didn't respond and just dropped out because we were texting back and forth and then a few minutes later I sent another text and I never heard back. I then said I see you have no interest in setting something up, so take care. She then replied saying she was with her fam and put her phone away. However, this time around she responded back in minutes; if not faster. She then started to match my response time when I slowed my responses from 20 mins, to 30, to longer because I was at work, wasn't playing a game. We have a tennis game tomorrow. She said she plans to be there and not cancel. We shall see. Never had much success with Jewish ladies, so I usually just skip them, but this one is drop dead gorgeous. I may had jumped the gun last year and should had just laid low.

 

[RickTheToad]

Tennis went well, but she texted me after the date and said I thought I told you, but I didn't want to scare you. I have a few children. Why don't they disclose this in their profiles? Seems like a waste of time. It's like I am swimming in a land of single motherhood. So upsetting.

 

[sazc]

FWIW if I send the first text, I always immediately send a message thru the app to let them know "text sent!"

This way, if they didn't get it, and they care, they can say "? No text gotten" and we can work it out.

I have texted to the wrong number (my bad) had them give me the wrong number (by accident) etc, etc, etc. At least if I shoot an app message, the intent is clear on my part.

In your sitch, if you want to give her a chance, app msg her "text sent, lmk what works" and then go dark and see if she messages you. No harm, no foul, really nothing to lose, she's a stranger.

 

[RickTheToad]

FWIW if I send the first text, I always immediately send a message thru the app to let them know "text sent!"

This way, if they didn't get it, and they care, they can say "? No text gotten" and we can work it out.

I have texted to the wrong number (my bad) had them give me the wrong number (by accident) etc, etc, etc. At least if I shoot an app message, the intent is clear on my part.

In your sitch, if you want to give her a chance, app msg her "text sent, lmk what works" and then go dark and see if she messages you. No harm, no foul, really nothing to lose, she's a stranger.

Not sure what this post is in regard to. We already met for Tennis Saturday. She wanted to again hang out on Sunday, I declined because I already had plans. I'm picking her up in an hour to go bowling. Ironically, her kids are late teens, so it's not a big deal. Though, I'd would had preferred she have none. She lives five minutes away; which is also a big plus. All the others are 30 minutes plus.

 

[MatureDJ]

Not sure what this post is in regard to. We already met for Tennis Saturday. She wanted to again hang out on Sunday, I declined because I already had plans. I'm picking her up in an hour to go bowling. Ironically, her kids are late teens, so it's not a big deal. Though, I'd would had preferred she have none. She lives five minutes away; which is also a big plus. All the others are 30 minutes plus.

Kids over age 15 or so are no big thing. That said, she might have a daughter that is a 20 year fresher version of herself.

 

[RickTheToad]

Interesting dilemma. We met up last Saturday and then again on Tuesday. She wanted to come over and bring me some desert she made on Wednesday, but I came home too late for her to stop by our something. I said not a problem. We'll do something a bit later in the week. She then said she's going away to Florida til next Tuesday with family on some holiday. I said maybe we'll do something when you come back. Then we chatted a bit more and then I exited the convo saying good night and she said the same. She's been silent ever since. Do I reach out or stay silent? We did touch on the lack of intense kissing, then she replied, I just don't want to rush into things to haphazardly. Rick, you have no idea how bad I want to rip your clothes off. It's taking a lot of willpower. I have a very high sex drive and you'll most not be able to keep up. I said, umm, okay, good to know.

Did I screw this up some how? Not sure if it matters, but our hands were touching each other's bodies and exploring a bit on both days. Just surprised I've not heard from her since Wednesday. Since our first meet, she's reached out each day.

 

[sazc]

Interesting dilemma. We met up last Saturday and then again on Tuesday. She wanted to come over and bring me some desert she made on Wednesday, but I came home too late for her to stop by our something. I said not a problem. We'll do something a bit later in the week. She then said she's going away to Florida til next Tuesday with family on some holiday. I said maybe we'll do something when you come back. Then we chatted a bit more and then I exited the convo saying good night and she said the same. She's been silent ever since. Do I reach out or stay silent? We did touch on the lack of intense kissing, then she replied, I just don't want to rush into things to haphazardly. Rick, you have no idea how bad I want to rip your clothes off. It's taking a lot of willpower. I have a very high sex drive and you'll most not be able to keep up. I said, umm, okay, good to know.

Did I screw this up some how? Not sure if it matters, but our hands were touching each other's bodies and exploring a bit on both days. Just surprised I've not heard from her since Wednesday. Since our first meet, she's reached out each day.

if she said all of that to you she's definitely interested but im willing to bet she's waiting for you to be a man and lead

question....why havent you texted her since weds? because you donot want to appear weak? over interested? more invested?

Not texting is going to appear not interested. So, if you arent interested, dont text.
I'll never understand why sending a text saying hello and asking how she is, is SUCH a dramatic big deal? Just text her. The worst thing that can happen is she ghosts you and, even if that happens, so what?

 

[RickTheToad]

if she said all of that to you she's definitely interested but im willing to bet she's waiting for you to be a man and lead

question....why havent you texted her since weds? because you donot want to appear weak? over interested? more invested?

Not texting is going to appear not interested. So, if you arent interested, dont text.
I'll never understand why sending a text saying hello and asking how she is, is SUCH a dramatic big deal? Just text her. The worst thing that can happen is she ghosts you and, even if that happens, so what?

She is/was on vacation. That was the only reason.