If you're truly a good catch, you need to have extreme confidence in yourself

[bigdave17]

because guys who are a good catch in all areas are very very rare


A good catch

- decent looking, in decent shape, take care of yourself
- make solid money, financially wise, financially comfortable
- genuinely good person - honest, loyal, WITHOUT being a ***** or needy at all. It's very important to have a balance of these 2 traits.
- good lifestyle, generally happy


I've been making some new friends recently and it's shocking how few guys have all these traits. I made friends with a dude from my gym who seemed cool and yesterday I texted him to go out and he declined because he's in some emo ***** mood (his exact words were "honestly, **** life". WTF?)

For those of us here who have all those traits, we are very rare. We need to have 10,000% confidence that all women will like us and if they don't, there is something wrong with them. True confidence is still everything to dating

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

For those of us here who have all those traits, we are very rare.

Damn, dude.

women will like us and if they don't, there is something wrong with them.

Yes, how dare those girls not recognize your awesomeness.

I mean, if you don't eat your meat, you can't have any pudding.

How can you have any pudding if you don't eat your meat?

 

[bigdave17]

Damn, dude.

Lots of us here have all those traits

Very hard to find in the real world

Yes, how dare those girls not recognize your awesomeness.

I mean, if you don't eat your meat, you can't have any pudding.

How can you have any pudding if you don't eat your meat?

Combination of that plus just realizing a lot of this stuff is out of your control so not getting bothered by it

 

[sosousage]

you are normal looking


maybe he said "fuk life" because he didnt want to go out with you?


you sound very intrussive in every of your thread.


"we are the best hang out with me NOW"
"WTF? How can you have a BAD day you EMO boy?" "Im gonna create thread on sosuave now, this is unbelieveable"

lmao someone rejected u and you think theres something wrong with him HAHAHA

 

[R.U.G.]

Dave, you're delusional as always. Please seek help for your own well being.

 

[Von]

I like how you talk about guys, and how you analyse them, than judge them to your standards.

You'll have alot of success in the Gay Village to pick up Guys.

Overthere, standards are "****able" or "not ****able"

I suggest you try it. It will give you what you seek

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

just realizing a lot of this stuff is out of your control so not getting bothered by it

Funny you say that. The ONE thing that is COMPLETELY under your control is EXACTLY what you lack.

And that is the courage to PRACTICE talking to hot girls UNTIL you get good at it.

But instead of DOING the ONLY thing that can SERIOUSLY improve your results (to repeat: practice talking to girls you are attracted to), you whine on the internet about how unfair it all is.

Dave, you're delusional as always. Please seek help for your own well being.

Correct. Here's his delusion:

Dave sees hot girl.

Dave would LIKE to approach.

Dave convinces himself of a logical reason WHY he shouldn't approach and talk to her.

Through the magic of self-deception, Dave convinces himself that the logical reason for NOT approaching is the GIRL's fault.

 

[bigdave17]

Funny you say that. The ONE thing that is COMPLETELY under your control is EXACTLY what you lack.

And that is the courage to PRACTICE talking to hot girls UNTIL you get good at it.

But instead of DOING the ONLY thing that can SERIOUSLY improve your results (to repeat: practice talking to girls you are attracted to), you whine on the internet about how unfair it all is.

My problem is not so much the lack of skills. Most women who spend some time around me like me

It's that I want somebody very specific...don't see her all that often and when I do see her, approaching her is a very difficult scenario. Combination of fear of rejection and extremely specific standards will cripple any man's dating life

No matter how good your skills are, you have to not care about rejection. I might be one of the top 3 or 4 best car salesman in my entire state (out of say 5,000) and I still get turned down like 30-50% of the time

Correct. Here's his delusion:

Dave sees hot girl.

Dave would LIKE to approach.

Dave convinces himself of a logical reason WHY he shouldn't approach and talk to her.

Through the magic of self-deception, Dave convinces himself that the logical reason for NOT approaching is the GIRL's fault.

huh? I never ever thought that

It's that I'm usually too scared of rejection to make a move unless it's an easy approach scenario. The problem is my natural dating opportunities/easy approach scenarios are never with anybody I would be interested in

easy scenario = women approaches me or gives me clear signs of interest before hand
very difficult scenario = hot girl at gym with headphones on, hot girl at bar with 4 friends

I don't feel comfortable with the difficult scenarios

 

[R.U.G.]

My problem is not so much the lack of skills. Most women who spend some time around me like me

It's that I want somebody very specific...don't see her all that often and when I do see her, approaching her is a very difficult scenario. Combination of fear of rejection and extremely specific standards will cripple any man's dating life

No matter how good your skills are, you have to not care about rejection. I might be one of the top 3 or 4 best car salesman in my entire state (out of say 5,000) and I still get turned down like 30-50% of the time



huh? I never ever thought that

It's that I'm usually too scared of rejection to make a move unless it's an easy approach scenario. The problem is my natural dating opportunities/easy approach scenarios are never with anybody I would be interested in

easy scenario = women approaches me or gives me clear signs of interest before hand
very difficult scenario = hot girl at gym with headphones on, hot girl at bar with 4 friends

I don't feel comfortable with the difficult scenarios

Dave, I'm going to be straight with you. GROW SOME BALLS. If a woman is sending you choosing signs, go after it. You will lose 100% of the time. Guess how many times the woman sends choosing signals to men who are too chicken sh!t to act on them? Dozens. Don't be a pvssy. Go after that sh!t. If you fail, then you fail. The next time around it will not hurt as much. Takes practice. Now, when I mean choosing signs, I mean staring, smiling, giggling, looking at you, then when you make eye contact, she looks away, touching you etc. Those are choosing signals.

 

[bigdave17]

Dave, I'm going to be straight with you. GROW SOME BALLS. If a woman is sending you choosing signs, go after it. You will lose 100% of the time. Guess how many times the woman sends choosing signals to men who are too chicken sh!t to act on them? Dozens. Don't be a pvssy. Go after that sh!t. If you fail, then you fail. The next time around it will not hurt as much. Takes practice. Now, when I mean choosing signs, I mean staring, smiling, giggling, looking at you, then when you make eye contact, she looks away, touching you etc. Those are choosing signals.

You misread the post

I get choosing signs from women I would never date (over 30, single moms, not cute enough, not dark enough, etc...). I don't mind approaching those and they usually like me

I don't get choosing signs from the women I want - the 26 year old cute Latin/italian chick with a nice body