"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Are Disney "princess" movies sexist because the woman is so young & inexperienced?

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Evidently, it is a sexist message for girls to aspire to marry their Prince Charming without playing the field first!

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/young-disney-princesses_us_5ae0b63ce4b04aa23f1e84d9

“What’s most troubling is just how little life experience they’ve had. They’re so naïve to the ways of the world. Most of them have never even met a boy, much less dated one before they fall in love and marry their prince,” blogger Julie Sprankles wrote in a post called “Things only adults notice in Disney princess movies.”

“You never realize the issues inherent with this until you watch when you’re older, at which point you’re like, where’s the fire, ladies? You have your whole life to get hitched!” she added.
my opinion: :down:

EDIT: And here are drawings of such princesses with "appropriate" waistlines:

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/10/30/disney-princess-real-waistline_n_6076634.html
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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When I was younger, women complained about the "princess" fantasy because it taught women to be dependent on a man.

Now apparently they are complaining because the princess doesn't ride the c0ck carousel first.
 

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When I was younger, women complained about the "princess" fantasy because it taught women to be dependent on a man.

Now apparently they are complaining because the princess doesn't ride the c0ck carousel first.
I think bypassing learning all the bad behaviors of the world makes for a marriage that can last but who knows?
 

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I think bypassing learning all the bad behaviors of the world makes for a marriage that can last but who knows?
A lot of the marriages I know that have stayed together a long time are couples that started dating in high school and have never dated anyone else.
 

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A lot of the marriages I know that have stayed together a long time are couples that started dating in high school and have never dated anyone else.
Yep those where my good relationships. My college wife and my young adult wife. Everyone that's been out in the world sucked in comparison, too selfish, too many bad behaviors, too much game required. People get battle scarred, hardened and jaded.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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People get battle scarred, hardened and jaded.
Yep it's just a vicious circle. One that nobody can agree about the beginning on, and no one can predict when it might end.
 
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