Thought on autorejection?

[jacketrunner]

According to GirlsChase, if “a girl feels your attainability is too low, and that she can’t get you, that one’s called being unattainable. Being unattainable is what leads to women going into something called auto-rejection; in other words, she gives up on you, goes cold, shuts down, and her heart fills with resentment and dislike for you.”

Obviously, we all want to be a challenge who isn’t needy, but what if we go too far the other way?

How can we ensure that we tread the perfect line between Challenge and neediness?

How do we know if a girl is shutting down bc or auto-rejection or neediness?

If she’s shutting down due to auto-rejection, how would we reverse it?

I once had a gf who left me due to auto-rejection. She said she was jealous of other girls, and it felt like she was too stressed out and being used by me.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

According to GirlsChase, if “a girl feels your attainability is too low, and that she can’t get you, that one’s called being unattainable. Being unattainable is what leads to women going into something called auto-rejection; in other words, she gives up on you, goes cold, shuts down, and her heart fills with resentment and dislike for you.”

Obviously, we all want to be a challenge who isn’t needy, but what if we go too far the other way?

How can we ensure that we tread the perfect line between Challenge and neediness?

How do we know if a girl is shutting down bc or auto-rejection or neediness?

If she’s shutting down due to auto-rejection, how would we reverse it?

I once had a gf who left me due to auto-rejection. She said she was jealous of other girls, and it felt like she was too stressed out and being used by me.

The alternative was you could've felt that way. Perhaps you could've gained her confidence. There's another type of woman that scenario would elevate because she thrives on competition. And the more her man is desired by others the more she desires him.

 

[Tilex]

Auto-rejection usually applies to women you see often, but haven't asked out yet.
They go into auto-rejection because they think you aren't interested and automatically decide to place you in the friend zone.

Auto-rejection in a relationship is a bit different.
If a chick goes into auto-rejection in a relationship, it means your masculine frame has crumbled and she views you completely differently now than when she first knew you.

I look at auto-rejection as loss of respect. When a chick no longer respects you, it's pretty much over. It's going to be difficult getting back that level of attraction again.

 

[Spaz]

Auto-rejection usually applies to women you see often, but haven't asked out yet.
They go into auto-rejection because they think you aren't interested and automatically decide to place you in the friend zone.

Auto-rejection in a relationship is a bit different.
If a chick goes into auto-rejection in a relationship, it means your masculine frame has crumbled and she views you completely differently now than when she first knew you.

I look at auto-rejection as loss of respect. When a chick no longer respects you, it's pretty much over. It's going to be difficult getting back that level of attraction again.

Good job !

At least there's someone here who does has experience with women to know the root cause and not blaming it on hypergamy.

 

[jacketrunner]

Auto-rejection usually applies to women you see often, but haven't asked out yet.
They go into auto-rejection because they think you aren't interested and automatically decide to place you in the friend zone.

Auto-rejection in a relationship is a bit different.
If a chick goes into auto-rejection in a relationship, it means your masculine frame has crumbled and she views you completely differently now than when she first knew you.

I look at auto-rejection as loss of respect. When a chick no longer respects you, it's pretty much over. It's going to be difficult getting back that level of attraction again.

How is auto-rejection a lack of respect? I see it more as the girl thinking she’s being used or outclassed.

 

[Tilex]

How is auto-rejection a lack of respect? I see it more as the girl thinking she’s being used or outclassed.

No
Not lack of respect
Loss of respect

 

[jacketrunner]

No
Not lack of respect
Loss of respect

Okay, but auto-rejection is caused by a girl feeling like you don’t respect her, right?

 

[MrWood]

perhaps autorejection is the fact that SHE KNOWS she is below YOUR SMV...

 

[touma.akagi]

To me, "auto rejection" seems like bull****. It comes from the "attraction is black and white" perspective and basically says that you have to maintain some teetering-edge attainability level to remain interesting. I'd rather not spend my time and effort on something so confusing. Did enough of that **** in high school, so I'll leave that and other ****ty theoreticals and flowery speeches/articles in my past where they belong.

 

[simongtown]

According to GirlsChase, if “a girl feels your attainability is too low, and that she can’t get you, that one’s called being unattainable. Being unattainable is what leads to women going into something called auto-rejection; in other words, she gives up on you, goes cold, shuts down, and her heart fills with resentment and dislike for you.”

Obviously, we all want to be a challenge who isn’t needy, but what if we go too far the other way?

How can we ensure that we tread the perfect line between Challenge and neediness?

How do we know if a girl is shutting down bc or auto-rejection or neediness?

If she’s shutting down due to auto-rejection, how would we reverse it?

I once had a gf who left me due to auto-rejection. She said she was jealous of other girls, and it felt like she was too stressed out and being used by me.

Impossible to say without a photo of you and your ex girlfriend.

Maybe the two of you are/were fat, toothless hillbillies and she kicked your ass out because you didn't pay your rent or you sh1t the bed or any other of a variety of reasons.

Or, maybe you are a hot stud and intimidatingly gorgeous and she left you because she felt unworthy and gave in to cognitive dissonance.

The truth is probably somewhere in between but again, impossible to know without actually what the two of you look like.

 

[simongtown]

To me, "auto rejection" seems like bull****. It comes from the "attraction is black and white" perspective and basically says that you have to maintain some teetering-edge attainability level to remain interesting. I'd rather not spend my time and effort on something so confusing. Did enough of that **** in high school, so I'll leave that and other ****ty theoreticals and flowery speeches/articles in my past where they belong.

The theory is unnecessarily complicated, I agree, but not totally incomprehensible.

The tl,dr recommendation makes sense though: move faster if you don't know the girl well.

The problem is the theory presupposes you have a very high level of "value" to the girl/s. A very questionable assumption for the intended audience: guys who struggle a lot with dating. And value doesn't simply refer to looks or money or status, which makes sense intuitively and is supported by plenty of real world evidence, but far more ridiculous and nebulous ideas such as "confidence" and "creativity" or some such nonsense.