MatureDJ
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
article: What It’s Like to Be Married to a Very Attractive Man
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
zekko
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That cartoon Tanfox posted is funny (I've seen it before). But if you read it, the problem with these guys has nothing to do with their life choices. Their sin is that they didn't win the genetic lottery. They weren't 6'4" or blessed with a gigantic d!ck, that's literally all those girls are talking about with respect to Chad.
As for the article the OP posted, it's interesting that the woman never once says "Wow, I'm lucky to have such a handsome husband". She just complains about his vanity, and that he looks better than she does. Anyway, the woman in question is 53 years old. No one here is likely to be interested in a woman that age, and it seems a little sad to celebrate her hitting the wall when she could be your grandmother.
As for the article the OP posted, it's interesting that the woman never once says "Wow, I'm lucky to have such a handsome husband". She just complains about his vanity, and that he looks better than she does. Anyway, the woman in question is 53 years old. No one here is likely to be interested in a woman that age, and it seems a little sad to celebrate her hitting the wall when she could be your grandmother.
The article is so short and her attitude so juvenile, I thought it might be a fake, a parody, like the onion. I missed the part where she mentions her age.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
taiyuu_otoko
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That whole article was one long reframe:
"I'm better than my husband because I'm uglier..."
"I'm better than my husband because I'm uglier..."
ImTheDoubleGreatest!
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She’s finding ways to complain and be ungrateful. She’s upset her husband is TOO good. Wow. Never knew that was possible. I hope he’s cheating on her with a whole bunch of other women, and that his kids still like him. They all exercise so it seems that they took after him more than the mom, fortunately.
Who Dares Win
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So basically they want a hot husband when they are young and hot to brag even more but want him to be just decent when they miss their looks and can no longer control it?
wifehunter
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"but I gained some weight when I had my son and today I look like a middle-aged woman."
Sure.... blame your kid. It's easier than putting down the fork.
Sure.... blame your kid. It's easier than putting down the fork.
resilient
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Lol... I've met and seen some smoking hot single mommies. Some you couldn't even tell had kids.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
My girlfriends mom is in her 40's and she's a beautiful woman. She does marathons and works out.Lol... I've met and seen some smoking hot single mommies. Some you couldn't even tell had kids.
mrgoodstuff
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Bigdave17 would see her and think she's an incredible fit 27 years old. When he finds she's 42 she'd be turned off.