Met a decent looking blonde at country music concert tonight (don't get excited)

[bigdave17]

She was like 27 or 28, she was the one who said something to me while she was sitting down next to me (she initiated) and I totally took over, we had a great conversation for maybe 15 20 minutes and had great chemistry

I didn't get her number though because I know I wouldn't be happy dating her. I still know what I want - my Mediterranean/spanish/middle eastern fitness cutie and I'm not gonna be happy until I find that but again, this confirmed what I've believed all along - that I'm very good with women when I have a real opportunity. I come across very genuine around women, talk to them with undivided attention and I've become better at being completely outcome independent (very important, I make myself completely 100% not want anything out of the interaction).

the problem is, the women i want will never approach me so how do I transfer this success over to when I have to do the approaching myself and there are a million obstacles in the way?

 

[zekko]

this confirmed what I've believed all along - that I'm very good with women when I have a real opportunity.

I think you will find that most guys are good with women that they aren't really interested in. There's no pressure, and it's a completely different dynamic.

 

[R.U.G.]

Bro, you are so lost in yourself it's laughable. You need serious mental help. I think you have a bit of a narcissistic disorder forming.

 

[bigdave17]

I think you will find that most guys are good with women that they aren't really interested in. There's no pressure, and it's a completely different dynamic.

I decided that at the end though

she wasn't old or fat or ugly. Cute face, nice eyes, nice body

I'm getting to a point where I can talk to women I like with the same, very genuine outcome detached demeanor as I talk to the fat ones with...the problem is I just don't get the good opportunities like this with the women I really want.

so how do I transfer the same success over to when I have to do the approaching myself? I guess it's just a lack of faith in the process and automatically feeling like the women will not be in the market and want my attention

 

[Roober]

Next time... ask for the number. You dont have to call or text. That will give you confirmation if you were successful or not. People often have conversations with people they are not interested in if they are respectful and interesting.

You dont even know if a) she would give you her number, and b) she would go on a date with you. You are better served by going full steam ahead, then bailing out. Without having her naked, ready to fvck, her interest is all in your head, which is completely dependent on your subjective analysis of her interest.

For example, I had this cute Puerto Rican that I was unsure about. 3 dates and I'm back at her place. I couldn't perform because she didn't light my fire, but I know for sure was into me because we were nearly fvcking on her bed. That is entirely different than going on one date and saying "I could have fvcked her".

And please stop even thinking about a relationship until you have known a woman for a couple months. Your thinking this nonsense after knowing her for 20 minutes is a clear testament to your desperation.