She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Somewhat agree. No all women in five years or so these days will be single moms or have cratered SMV. Depends on how they take care of themselves. At 25, he should most def. be shooting for 18 - 23's, but who knows. He needs to work on his frame and self-confidence. We've all been there before.Grow a pair. Go get money, get game, get a life.
In 3-5yrs she will be fat as ****kkk single mom and you can have baeee(s) late teens early 20s.
There's no sweeter feel then acquiring top form SMV and running into train wreck women from the past.
Its as if, life trolls women harder then you or I ever could have.
Edit: as for money/lifestyle, its not a necessity if you got game or looks. Its more about success markers. About the dominance hierarchy. About winning.
U hv been watching too much youtubes, westworld series and reading god dam red pill bullcraps ideas.Only cucks chase cratered SMV.
Look, women are simple creatures. Their motivation is hypergamy which is encoded in her DNA. Similar to the TV show Westworld, AI and people follow their code. Its easy as that. Its hardwired and it explains human behavior as not random but in actuality pretty predictable.
Women leave due to hypergamy. Its one if the following. That being, she left for higher value man or be single as in skiing down cawk mountain. Translation? Cratered SMV. Its only when smv had plummeted, when Chad's stop calling, her "epiphany phase" or baby rabies kicks off into overdrive. Its said women who go from ambiguity, vague, hot/cold to, "where is this going?" Pushy, demanding, over bearing all due to failing sex appeal and fertility.
I repeat, only cucks pursue their little cherish after Chad's done with his booty call.
That “bro” is actually a “sis”.I definitely will.. thank you bro gonna be strong im sure she will stick around.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Thanks definetly i will work on my frame.. one small maybe stupid question.. but.. would it be weak ro re-add her on facebook?Somewhat agree. No all women in five years or so these days will be single moms or have cratered SMV. Depends on how they take care of themselves. At 25, he should most def. be shooting for 18 - 23's, but who knows. He needs to work on his frame and self-confidence. We've all been there before.
So true.. at 25 im working so hard on this to be controlable.Neediness is your worst enemy. Took me 20 years to learn this
Yes.Thanks definetly i will work on my frame.. one small maybe stupid question.. but.. would it be weak ro re-add her on facebook?
Yes. This will be a good learning experience for you. Forget about her. Next time, always just say, something such as what I posted above. Okay, it is what it is. Take care. If it's via message or voice, it works the same. If it is in person, just look into her eyes, and say, Hey, it's okay. You take care and walk away. That is the only chance you'd have for getting them to reach out to you again. Now, if they reach out to you, do you really want them? That means their replacement for you didn't work out. For me, I'd say no. However, you may be able to get them to come and earn their way back into your rotation. Watch AMS, he goes into this better than I can.Thanks definetly i will work on my frame.. one small maybe stupid question.. but.. would it be weak ro re-add her on facebook?
Thanks definetly i will work on my frame.. one small maybe stupid question.. but.. would it be weak ro re-add her on facebook?
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Hey thanks a lot for the insights.YES......it WOULD be.
If you don't mind my asking....WHY would you want to do this?
For what purpose? What for?
I assume that you made this thread seeking advice. You got A LOT of it,damn good advice....yet,instead of beginning to apply it,your mind is on something POINTLESS like re-adding her on FaceBook. I say just let it be. Don't "re-add" her,in fact,don't do anything.
Your ONLY focus should be on re-wiring your brain. I had to do that YEARS ago....and I'll tell you right now...it IS WORK....work that you won't be able to start while still looking back at this chick. You may not even need to date AT ALL for a short period of time.....I didn't. I tried to,but I couldn't focus on learning,growing,and understanding more about myself and own shortcomings,AND deal with all women's B.S. and head games at the same time.
Course,that was a long time ago for me.
One very,VERY important thing I learned was that,a woman can be sort of a MIRRIOR for a man. She,through her seemingly odd behavior at times can show you YOURSELF. See,I started my so-called "journey" trying to figure out and understand women.....but everything I learned kept pointing back to myself. Then I noticed the more I learned and corrected failings within myself,the more women's behaviors towards me started to change.
You....have to fix YOU. Don't worry about FaceBook,tweetin',texting,instant chat,or any of that nonsense....just go home and start to work on yourself from the inside out. If you want to know where to begin,start with NEEDINESS. The internal work is a little harder,but you can start BEHAVING YOUR WAY to success RIGHT NOW. First.....
Leave this girl ALONE. Don't call her,don't text her,don't chat,don't google,don't "tweet"....don't do sh1t. Don't re-add her to facebook. Don't do anything.
You have to understand that you and YOU ALONE....ARE ENOUGH....that,if you can get one girl,you can get another. You also have to understand that,being needy is A TURN OFF. You need to know that neediness not only likely wrecked this relationship,but if you don't fix this sh1t,it'll likely destroy any future relationships with women you try to have. And if you don't understand that it's neediness within YOU,you'll go from chick to chick thinking the women are the problem.
Just start to work on yourself man. There's plenty of threads here to help,plenty of members here to advise if you need some direction.
Will do now thanks a lot.Go find threads written by POOK, he offers plentiful of insights, I've read some of his postings, it's spot on.
Start off reading it and then progress to read the DJ Bible.
Chick leaves @ age 24. + 5 = 29.Somewhat agree. No all women in five years or so these days will be single moms or have cratered SMV. Depends on how they take care of themselves. At 25, he should most def. be shooting for 18 - 23's, but who knows. He needs to work on his frame and self-confidence. We've all been there before.