"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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What's life like when you pretty much have everything you want??

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I've spent my whole life obsessively improving every aspect of myself in hopes that I would get a quality girlfriend one day. I've succeeded at everything except dating. The hopes of getting a girlfriend is basically the driving force for why I obsessively work to seek perfection in every aspect of my life


So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want? Let's say you look good, are super healthy, have a good job where you make a ton of money, have a great social circle, great family, great girlfriend/multiple hot quality women that you're banging


what do you focus your energy on?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I've spent my whole life obsessively improving every aspect of myself in hopes that I would get a quality girlfriend one day. I've succeeded at everything except dating. The hopes of getting a girlfriend is basically the driving force for why I obsessively work to seek perfection in every aspect of my life
Wrong motivation.

So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want?
Wrong question, nobody gets everything they want in life, once a goal is reached a higher one or another one is set. The right question is what do you need to feel satisfied?

Let's say you look good, are super healthy, have a good job where you make a ton of money, have a great social circle, great family, great girlfriend/multiple hot quality women that you're banging
Fun! You forgot fun. All those things are next to meaningless if you aren't having fun with it, if you don't maximize the satisfaction those things can give you.

what do you focus your energy on?
Maximizing my life satisfaction with the opportunities available to me.
 

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Wrong motivation.
I've wanted a girlfriend since I was 15 to no avail. It's just absolutely terrible


Wrong question, nobody gets everything they want in life, once a goal is reached a higher one or another one is set. The right question is what do you need to feel satisfied?


Fun! You forgot fun. All those things are next to meaningless if you aren't having fun with it, if you don't maximize the satisfaction those things can give you.


Maximizing my life satisfaction with the opportunities available to me.

I have a ton of fun in my life. I love my job, I love working out, I love partying/traveling, etc...
 

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The hopes of getting a girlfriend is basically the driving force for why I obsessively work to seek perfection in every aspect of my life
Oh, that's not good. You should be seeking self improvement for its own sake, or for yourself.

So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want?
Haven't you ever seen Willy Wonka? What happened to the man who got everything he wanted?
He lived happily ever after.
 

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I've wanted a girlfriend since I was 15 to no avail. It's just absolutely terrible
Hey, I can relate but in the end what got me what I desired was to give up my desire. I got tired of looking for a girlfriend. I asked myself what I really wanted and it was happiness, a deep feeling of satisfaction. You don't need a woman for that, you should already have it.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Creativity and giving back to others.
 

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I've spent my whole life obsessively improving every aspect of myself in hopes that I would get a quality girlfriend one day. I've succeeded at everything except dating. The hopes of getting a girlfriend is basically the driving force for why I obsessively work to seek perfection in every aspect of my life


So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want? Let's say you look good, are super healthy, have a good job where you make a ton of money, have a great social circle, great family, great girlfriend/multiple hot quality women that you're banging


what do you focus your energy on?
Do your job and enjoy your life .
 

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There's always more lol. That's what makes it fun the continuous pursuit. Unless you're doing it all for women then....if so you're doing it wrong.
 

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A "girlfriend" is okay . It has to be her idea though . You need to be worrying about sex. I explained that the focused MINDSET of trying to get a GF doesn't work . It's been tried by many. The females percieve it as "needy". They'll wonder about your options . Fix your MINDSET.
 

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So here's my question - what's life like when you have everything you want? Let's say you look good, are super healthy, have a good job where you make a ton of money, have a great social circle, great family, great girlfriend/multiple hot quality women that you're banging
What guy has all of this? Trump doesn't even have it. He has only one woman. George Clooney never had it either. I don't know a rockstar that had it either. Most of them weren't healthy and had family difficulties. Stop with the infatuation, its no good to idealize others. Its never true.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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