"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Online dating snafu?

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A woman messaged me on Match a few days ago and we chatted back and for a day or two. I suggested we meetup and then she replied with a funny line about drinks. I replied back as lol, we'll manage. The next morning, she messaged me asking if I was still interested in meeting for drinks. I replied back yep. Send me your number or text me at my number and we can set the time and place. Then she replied, ohh, your profile is hidden. Red flag, going to pass.

Huh? I uploaded some new pics this morning and was waiting for them to be approved so I hid the profile as I removed all the other ones and then made the profile visible again 30 mins later. I just replied stating I was updating some info and it was hidden for a minute until approved. No matter. If you change your mind, here's my number again if you want to reach out. If not, that's okay.

Seriously. I do not get these women online.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Online is full of the bottom of the barrel women and the dregs, further it changes their mentality completely

Online dating corrupts women, just like too many homosexual friends completely corrupts her mind....beyond repair.

Now that, before going in.
 

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Online is full of the bottom of the barrel women and the dregs, further it changes their mentality completely

Online dating corrupts women, just like too many homosexual friends completely corrupts her mind....beyond repair.

Now that, before going in.
It's absolutely unreal. Never knew hiding a profile for less than an hour would cause an uproar. Guess it was a warning ahead. I even went through the verifications to show I am a legit person (lot of fakes on match).

I do not like online dating. Paid for six months. What a waste it seems.
 

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It's absolutely unreal. Never knew hiding a profile for less than an hour would cause an uproar. Guess it was a warning ahead. I even went through the verifications to show I am a legit person (lot of fakes on match).

I do not like online dating. Paid for six months. What a waste it seems.
I'm not a fan. Don't get me wrong I did use it about 2 or three times for like 3 or 4 months a time....with double figures (what some might say is success).....but it's not the same as being out and about and social
 

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I found my girl online, but I pretty much just had my bait floating in the pond, I had given up approaching women there a long time ago. One day I saw a "smile" that she sent me, and the rest is history. 2 years of a great relationship so far.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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A woman messaged me on Match a few days ago and we chatted back and for a day or two. I suggested we meetup and then she replied with a funny line about drinks. I replied back as lol, we'll manage. The next morning, she messaged me asking if I was still interested in meeting for drinks. I replied back yep. Send me your number or text me at my number and we can set the time and place. Then she replied, ohh, your profile is hidden. Red flag, going to pass.

Huh? I uploaded some new pics this morning and was waiting for them to be approved so I hid the profile as I removed all the other ones and then made the profile visible again 30 mins later. I just replied stating I was updating some info and it was hidden for a minute until approved. No matter. If you change your mind, here's my number again if you want to reach out. If not, that's okay.

Seriously. I do not get these women online.
There was no reason to hide your profile dude you came across as jittery so she jitterbugged your ass.You need to learn how to night game then OLD is boring as fvck.I love fishing and @Atom Smasher is right on the money just throw your pole out there and sit back and crack a beer you are way to serious and come across as needy to women (a total turn off)
 

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When you have as many options as women do on OLD, you can be extra judgmental/highly selective/over critical and make decisions like this.

Look at it like an employer that has a position open and has 100 candidates apply. That company quickly comes up with all sorts of silly excuses to thin the herd. Women do the same thing on OLD. And couple that with the fact that they are poor decision makers anyways.
 
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I think it's different for women than for men online. Yesterday evening I was out with a woman who I met online. She told me that she had shutdown her profile for several months. The day that she opened it back up she received 152 messages, most were obvious scams, copy/paste messages that were also sent to her girlfriends who use the same site, and many ****pics. And I've heard from a number of women online about the ****pics. Apparently they are being flooded with ****pics.
 

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A woman messaged me on Match a few days ago and we chatted back and for a day or two. I suggested we meetup and then she replied with a funny line about drinks. I replied back as lol, we'll manage. The next morning, she messaged me asking if I was still interested in meeting for drinks. I replied back yep. Send me your number or text me at my number and we can set the time and place. Then she replied, ohh, your profile is hidden. Red flag, going to pass.

Huh? I uploaded some new pics this morning and was waiting for them to be approved so I hid the profile as I removed all the other ones and then made the profile visible again 30 mins later. I just replied stating I was updating some info and it was hidden for a minute until approved. No matter. If you change your mind, here's my number again if you want to reach out. If not, that's okay.

Seriously. I do not get these women online.
I found this online crap to be shady. If you change or hide profile, what do you expect?

School boy error.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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When you have as many options as women do on OLD, you can be extra judgmental/highly selective/over critical and make decisions like this.

Look at it like an employer that has a position open and has 100 candidates apply. That company quickly comes up with all sorts of silly excuses to thin the herd. Women do the same thing on OLD. And couple that with the fact that they are poor decision makers anyways.
On borrowed time. We all are. Just women have a shorter shelf life.
 

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A woman messaged me on Match a few days ago and we chatted back and for a day or two. I suggested we meetup and then she replied with a funny line about drinks. I replied back as lol, we'll manage. The next morning, she messaged me asking if I was still interested in meeting for drinks. I replied back yep. Send me your number or text me at my number and we can set the time and place. Then she replied, ohh, your profile is hidden. Red flag, going to pass.

Huh? I uploaded some new pics this morning and was waiting for them to be approved so I hid the profile as I removed all the other ones and then made the profile visible again 30 mins later. I just replied stating I was updating some info and it was hidden for a minute until approved. No matter. If you change your mind, here's my number again if you want to reach out. If not, that's okay.

Seriously. I do not get these women online.
All you should care about is how she treats you. Of course the try and play little games sometimes especially in the beginning. But what is she doing for you?

It is not difficult to see if she cares about you.

Stop analyzing her behavior so much. She is either going to be fuel or baggage. If you're not in a self destructive mentality you will know to drop her if she is not fuel.

It is really simpler, than most of us thinks, especially me.

The. Again this is coming from a man who has had most of his ex gf treat him like he had a golden penis and squandered all the gifts that have been given to him.

Things are often counter-intuitive. It's not supposed to make sense.

I could be wrong though. I try not to think about this much anymore
 

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It's absolutely unreal. Never knew hiding a profile for less than an hour would cause an uproar.
Dude,that's how online dating is....ANYTHING can cause an "uproar".

I once had a chick reject me cause I (now listen to this....)....she rejected me cause I DON'T do drugs.

I messaged her,things seemed to be going well....moving right along....I go to work,come back home after a 10 hour day,get online to find a message from her saying she read my profile a little more and didn't think we'd be a good match. Then she said something about how she has some medical condition that she uses marajuana to help her cope with. Also said something about how I have it in my profile that I don't do drugs,so she think's her medical use might be an issue.

I said "ok",cause if a woman wants out,to me,it's OUT.....I don't care. Then a few minutes after I had read her message,I was setting there thinking....then I said to myself,"Wait.....did I....did she just reject me cause...cause I DON'T do drugs?????"

I was like,"Man....just when you think you've seen and heard it all"....lol


That's just how chicks are man.....anything....and I mean ANYTHING can scare them off. You don't even have to be the cause of it,and they'll run off.
 

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That's just how chicks are man.....anything....and I mean ANYTHING can scare them off. You don't even have to be the cause of it,and they'll run off.
Absolutely right.^^^
In majority of the time women will reject you for reasons not related to you at all, and trying to figure out why, is fruitless and waste of time.

 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Half the guys on match are married and looking for a side piece. That is what she meant by the hidden profile being a red flag. Match likes to claim they have started more marriages than any other site, but I am sure they have ended the most marriages too.
 

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Never knew hiding a profile for less than an hour would be such a big deal. First time for everything I guess.
 
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