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Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Chick Pulling Away from BF When I Walk By

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I've had a b0ner for this chick I work with for a year or so. She has a BF and we do light flirting and heavy eye contact. But I have been sticking to my guns on 1) Best not to date chicks from work 2) Not going to go out of my way to steal another man's woman.

She recently told me her last day is middle of May, she is leaving. So that solves #1 for me. As of today I know #2 still holds true because I saw her with her BF. Sometimes he comes and picks her up and comes in and hangs out at the end of the day. I have talked to him. He is kind of geeky but seems like a decent dude. Not the type of guy I would want to steal a woman from just out of respect.

Now the main point of my post: A week or so ago he was standing at the soda machine getting a soda and she was behind him giving him light affection. When she saw me she jumped and stopped. I pretended like I didn't see that. I said "hey whats happininin" to both of them like I always do, acknowledging both of them, and walked on.

Today similar happened again, only this time he and her were talking to my coworker and she had her arm around the BF. When I walked past, she quickly took it off. But obviously it was OK in front of my coworker. So the "she is just being professional at work" does not seem to apply as I originally thought the first time.

SO, could this mean she may be interested in me and doesn't want me to see her touching on her BF? Or am I reading into it too much? (probably lol) I know she has at least a low interest level in me by her eye contact, hair fluttering, etc. I've just never been in this exact scenerio before.
 

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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I've had this happen with women pulling away from their husbands too in my presence. It's a weird scenario, and I just feel sorry for the husband is all. Not sure if this has taken place in history like in the 1920s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, even 90s. Of course, I was never of really adulthood or fvcking age as a boy/man until the early nineties so I can' really remember this ever happening much in my 20s, but in my late 30s and early 40s it's happened quite a bit. It could be Current Female. Women today have no guilt, no sense of wrong (unless it's YOU).
 

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It's pretty common for women who r attracted to another man 2 send covert signals that she's open to being seduced.

If I were you, I'd decline based on what you've written abt her bf. She'll be branch swinging soon.

And I think you know the type of lady she is based on ur observations.

Imo a perfect woman is a prostitute in bed and most ladylike in public.
 

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On her last day of work simply hand her your number.

If she hits you up, game on.

And don't worry about her bf. If you take her from him then you're doing him a favor in the long run.
 

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On her last day of work simply hand her your number.

If she hits you up, game on.

And don't worry about her bf. If you take her from him then you're doing him a favor in the long run.
Sounds good.

If OP doesn't know her BF and is able to detached his feelings of guilt later on.

I've oftened look back into my past and reflect on those guys whom I've taken their women away, couldn't shake the guilt especially when some of those men were really good guys and as a result broke them.
 

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When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sounds good.

If OP doesn't know her BF and is able to detached his feelings of guilt later on.

I've oftened look back into my past and reflect on those guys whom I've taken their women away, couldn't shake the guilt especially when some of those men were really good guys and as a result broke them.
If the current BF is a friend of his, then that's a different story and I agree. However, if he doesn't know the BF and she is having a wandering eye or tempted to branch swing, then I see no problem with it.
 
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