Should I stop going out?

[Murk]

You need to stop making threads and address your mental health issues.

 

[Mike32ct]

I go out to bars/clubs/etc... about 2 to 3 times per week and I end up every night being massively massively frustrated everytime. I love all kinds of music, dancing, etc... and I wish I couls have a girl to tear up the dance floor with but I obviously have zero dating life.

Women love dancing, just not with men.

Seeing all the happy couples there just kills me. What drives me insane furthermore is I do everything I'm supposed to do - I'm generally one of the best (if not thee best) looking, most athletic and best dressed men at every place I ever go to yet I never have any success. I'm so tired of seeing some chubby terribly dressed douchebag with the beautiful girl who should be all over me.

The movies make it seem like its very easy to meet women at these places and it's a bunch of nonsense. Most ladies come to these places with a boyfriend or a huge group of female friends and clearly have zero interest in meeting anybody. The very very few who want to meet someone have very very very specific standards and if you're not exactly what they want, its not even worth talking to them. You will get rejected 99% of the time...

What do you guys think? Should I save myself all the frustration and just stay at home? I go out with usually 6 to 12 friends so I do have fun with them but I end up every night massively frustrated because I want to meet someone so badly and I'm seemingly incapable of it.

Lower your expectations. With more and more people using online to meet and hook up, bars and clubs aren’t quite the pickup places they used to be.
Try OLD. Just go out for fun and go to places that play music that you enjoy.

 

[Tilex]

who told you I won't date my age? i would like a 25 to 29 year old GF. I don't like early 20s at all

I won't date light skin white women as they have horrible aging genetics compared to ethnic people (i want a Spanish/italian/middle eastern girlfriend)

The type of women you like don't go to the same clubs you do.
Try going to places that play Salsa music or Arabic music all night long.
You can find them if you search hard enough.

 

[Bible_Belt]

I won't date light skin white women as they have horrible aging genetics compared to ethnic people (i want a Spanish/italian/middle eastern girlfriend)

What about other Armenians?

 

[R.U.G.]

Brother, you head is screwed on wrong. Until you fix that, no b!tch is going to fvck with you. Lower your standards a bit and work up to a higher valued woman. It seems like you want to go to zero - 100 in no time. Slow your roll bro.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

You need to stop making threads and address your mental health issues.

^^^

Winner winner chicken dinner. Dave has serious issues. I can feel his neediness coming all the way over through the interwebs to Japan. But Dave won't seek any help for his issues, since he's already convinced himself he doesn't have any issues. It's the world that has issues.

The only consolation is that his self-deception seems to be working ONLY on himself. Not too many people will agree with Dave.


That is actually pretty good news for the state of dudes on Sosuave.

 

[bigdave17]

Bars/clubs are not the ideal place to meet new women.

In fact it may be the worst.

I don't disagree with that but dude I live in the suburbs - I only see women my age at gyms, bars and online

What about other Armenians?

that's the best scenario but its hard to find

Armenian women are most beautiful in the world

 

[mrgoodstuff]

BigDave17. I think you need to take a break from it. Work on your mind.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Armenian women are most beautiful in the world

You could take a trip back to the old country. My buddy in Southern California said there are a lot of Armenians there, too.

 

[bigdave17]

You could take a trip back to the old country. My buddy in Southern California said there are a lot of Armenians there, too.

i can't visit homeland because of military draft concerns

 

[Dash Riprock]

Big Dave 17,

I know I've told you this before and you just discount it and keep blithering, on and on, on SS, but I'll say it one more time...

Why don't you just hire a f*ucking matchmaker?! Try It's Just Lunch. They're large and reputable. You're guaranteed 1-2 dates per month based on your criteria. I believe you once said you live around Chicago, so IJL must have 100's if not 1000's of women in your range to choose from. I think one of your excuses was you're looking for women in their mid-late 20's and they don't have the money. WRONG. Many do (especially in Chicago) and the ones that don't, the parents will likely spring for it because they don't want their daughters meeting men in bars or on some f*ucked up OLD site--which they all are.

In every post you preface by saying how much money you make, dress well, in shape, bla, bla, bla,, so pony up and JUST DO IT. What do you have to lose? NOTHING. You can freeze your membership at any for a nominal fee and reactivate whenever you want. Once you sign up you're a member for life.

I mean besides bitc*hing like an 8th grade girl on SS, what other options do you have? You've completely psyched yourself out on organic dating at this point. Your posts resonate that loud and clear. At least this way, with a matchmaker, you know you're meeting women that WANT LTR's and want to be in a relationship.

If you don't do this, I honestly will think you truly enjoy being miserable and just complaining about women because it gives you some semblance of significance and validation. Seriously. Not trying to be a d*ick, but after seeing/reading your posts and rants for months on end now, I've come to that conclusion

Good luck.

 

[Soflobro#2]

Dave it is not that hard. You need to just drop your standards to an extent and just have casual interactions whether it be sexual or not.

I mean this isn't rocket science. It's really not. But you're criteria is to strict and you don't have enough game, at least with women, to meet your criteria.

I'm crazy too so I get it. It's ok. Women love it you'll find, they do. Doesn't make sense but... It works.

The number one thing that you need to remember is you do what works for you and don't listen to anyone else. This is the bottom line.

A piece of advice is if you can keep a woman in a state of emotional flux, she'll do almost anything. But you hang on to this idea of being moral instead of ammoral and you think every little detail matters. Ot doesn't. You could be the biggest dirt bag and to these women it makes no difference. Half of them want it like that.

This is the bottom line.

 

[Soflobro#2]

And if haters try to criticize, you double down on your position.

 

[Soflobro#2]

Women are slow and they make money. It's fair game.

 

[bigdave17]

Big Dave 17,

I know I've told you this before and you just discount it and keep blithering, on and on, on SS, but I'll say it one more time...

Why don't you just hire a f*ucking matchmaker?! Try It's Just Lunch. They're large and reputable. You're guaranteed 1-2 dates per month based on your criteria. I believe you once said you live around Chicago, so IJL must have 100's if not 1000's of women in your range to choose from. I think one of your excuses was you're looking for women in their mid-late 20's and they don't have the money. WRONG. Many do (especially in Chicago) and the ones that don't, the parents will likely spring for it because they don't want their daughters meeting men in bars or on some f*ucked up OLD site--which they all are.

In every post you preface by saying how much money you make, dress well, in shape, bla, bla, bla,, so pony up and JUST DO IT. What do you have to lose? NOTHING. You can freeze your membership at any for a nominal fee and reactivate whenever you want. Once you sign up you're a member for life.

I mean besides bitc*hing like an 8th grade girl on SS, what other options do you have? You've completely psyched yourself out on organic dating at this point. Your posts resonate that loud and clear. At least this way, with a matchmaker, you know you're meeting women that WANT LTR's and want to be in a relationship.

If you don't do this, I honestly will think you truly enjoy being miserable and just complaining about women because it gives you some semblance of significance and validation. Seriously. Not trying to be a d*ick, but after seeing/reading your posts and rants for months on end now, I've come to that conclusion

Good luck.

it's just lunch gets 1 stars on 64 reviews on yelp


holy moly

 

[R.U.G.]

Why not PM the Frogman and he'll hook you up with some apparently fine looking prostitutes. They may be the HB8's, HB9's, and HB10's you are talking about. It'll get you over that hump (no pun intended) and get you out and about with hot women. Isn't that one of the things you want? Since you claim to make a good amount of money, you should be able to afford their company.

Just a thought.

 

[Dash Riprock]

it's just lunch gets 1 stars on 64 reviews on yelp


holy moly

Good man. Bet your life on Yelp reviews. Why don't you just pick up the phone, call them, and see for yourself. JFC...

 

[Soflobro#2]

Dave. You you need to change your perspective. You need to date women below you and just get some experience with them.

I understand that it's not always easy. But you just have to push forward and figure out what works for you.

Besides 6/10s will litterally give the shirt off their back for you if you make them feel loved. When you're probably the most handsome and masculine man they've ever been with, and you're very genuine in your interactions with them, they love it.

Most of my exes at some point straight up told me that I was addictive. I thought it was weird.

Regardless, you need a starter ho. Just go along with it and see what happens.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

And if haters try to criticize, you double down on your position.

BigDave17's position currently is weak when it comes to women, it must be a great position when it comes to work only and staying in shape.

In his current going out escapades, he's being seen as their friend, and not the attractive dude that they wanna fvck.

 

[Soflobro#2]

BigDave17's position currently is weak when it comes to women, it must be a great position when it comes to work only and staying in shape.

In his current going out escapades, he's being seen as their friend, and not the attractive dude that they wanna fvck.

being less picky = more options