Cynical because because I missed out on women in high school and college.

[drakeisfire]

I missed out on dating and women big time in high school and college, mainly due to growing up in a crap area and dealing with abuse from parents so I ran away from home and started college, all trying to fix stuff. Ton of stuff out of my control, feels good to be in my 20s and making money not relying on dirty rotten abusive scumbags I had to call parents.

Now its like I am an adult but relationships are supposed to be robotic now instead of fun and actually romantic.

It is as if there was a "cool factor" attached to women and dating in those years that I missed out on and now I am completely lost and feeling cynical. I can't actually love the game or women but see them for nothing other than sex. TBH, I don't even know why I feel this way but it has me way down in the dumps.

Knowing that I missed out on the fun parts of the game and am now in the cut-throat parts of it. I cannot get myself to love women, only see them as notch counts to be accumulated at best. If escorts were legal in my area, I would be going to them constantly because I feel like there is no point in chasing women after college.

Some guy got a more fun, fulfilling, and better experience in college than you ever will after college.

Any advice to lift myself up out of this ****?

 

[Spaz]

Sad pile of story.

Even more so when OP is stuck in a lousy frame of mind.

And it's going to be a vicious cycle of sadness.

Go read the DJ Bible (I've just read 3 random articles and it's that good).

You need an overhaul from your current frame.

 

[Serenity]

advice to lift myself up out of this ****?

Focus on yourself, your own achievements and your own goals. Stop comparing yourself to others, it gives you a biased outlook because you only notice those better than yourself and not all those you're ahead of. Where others are should not matter to you, what matters is getting to where you want to be in life. You sure as fvck won't do that by feeling sorry for yourself.

So fvcking what if you "missed out"? That's the situation for a lot more guys than you seem to think. In any case you can't do sh!t about it, the past is the past. Keep your mind on it and you'll be stuck in it for whatever time it takes you to move on.

If not the potential reward of handling this is enough then the fear of being a cynical and miserable fvck should be enough. Your time in life is limited and thus valuable, you're going to waste it on this?

 

[CBear]

I missed out on dating and women big time in high school and college, mainly due to growing up in a crap area and dealing with abuse from parents so I ran away from home and started college, all trying to fix stuff. Ton of stuff out of my control, feels good to be in my 20s and making money not relying on dirty rotten abusive scumbags I had to call parents.

Now its like I am an adult but relationships are supposed to be robotic now instead of fun and actually romantic.

It is as if there was a "cool factor" attached to women and dating in those years that I missed out on and now I am completely lost and feeling cynical. I can't actually love the game or women but see them for nothing other than sex. TBH, I don't even know why I feel this way but it has me way down in the dumps.

Knowing that I missed out on the fun parts of the game and am now in the cut-throat parts of it. I cannot get myself to love women, only see them as notch counts to be accumulated at best. If escorts were legal in my area, I would be going to them constantly because I feel like there is no point in chasing women after college.

Some guy got a more fun, fulfilling, and better experience in college than you ever will after college.

Any advice to lift myself up out of this ****?

I did as well, so what? if only I knew in high school what kind of experiences I'd end up going through in the future and will continue to go through, I wouldn't have given a flying f*#k. Plus being a loser in high school (as well as being beaten by my father) made me want to become a bad@$$ motherf*3ker who wouldn't deal with that anymore, now I see myself as better off than many guys who did have those experiences in high school. Don't sweat it!

 

[QuadDeuces]

Remind yourself that the time with women is 10-20% sex, and 80% listening to their annoying bullshyte and drama.
Since sex is mostly fun and excited in the first few weeks and more a drag in the latter, you were left with 95% bullshyte and drama overall.

Call yourself a lucky mofo.

 

[Who Dares Win]

Your problem will be fixed once your notch count is high enough, been there too.

 

[ohrein]

I missed out on dating and women big time in high school and college, mainly due to growing up in a crap area and dealing with abuse from parents so I ran away from home and started college, all trying to fix stuff. Ton of stuff out of my control, feels good to be in my 20s and making money not relying on dirty rotten abusive scumbags I had to call parents.

Now its like I am an adult but relationships are supposed to be robotic now instead of fun and actually romantic.

It is as if there was a "cool factor" attached to women and dating in those years that I missed out on and now I am completely lost and feeling cynical. I can't actually love the game or women but see them for nothing other than sex. TBH, I don't even know why I feel this way but it has me way down in the dumps.

Knowing that I missed out on the fun parts of the game and am now in the cut-throat parts of it. I cannot get myself to love women, only see them as notch counts to be accumulated at best. If escorts were legal in my area, I would be going to them constantly because I feel like there is no point in chasing women after college.

Some guy got a more fun, fulfilling, and better experience in college than you ever will after college.

Any advice to lift myself up out of this ****?

I didn't get to play the field until my twenties and I got bored of it within 5 years. It becomes a bit of a self fulfilling prophecy; you think women are only good for sex and so that's how you approach the game. I will tell you, the women I "dated", if you can call it that, in those five years were some of the lowest quality women I've met. One after another. If you decide to filter for women who will add to your life as a whole, and actually look for quality traits rather than just a pvssy, you'll probably start enjoying their company more. I dated some amazing women in my late twenties. Intelligent, funny, talented, fun and would push me to do new things. These women are a lot rarer and are a lot less likely to find overt ego attractive, in my experience.

Point being, if your relationships are robotic instead of fun and romantic then your mindset or choice of women is probably creating that reality. I'm early thirties dating a late twenties woman and it's been fun and romantic. We go on adventures, have wild sex and our text messages are 95% memes and never serious. There has been basically no drama and almost six months in that spark is still going strong.

You didn't miss anything, start figuring out how to create your reality now.

 

[AttackFormation]

Your problem will be fixed once your notch count is high enough, been there too.

Agree with this.

As a man you have more cushion for missing out in high school and university, because 1) you can date down in age which women don't want to and 2) with increased age you should get more 'value' like LMS which helps with women in addition to your game, and your looks decline slower, while womens' value goes down with age. But you are doing something self-destructive right now: You are deriving your enjoyment of life out of comparison with other people, rather than what you want to do now to make your life enjoyable. Imagine that you are the only person on the planet and no one else ever existed. Would you be complaining about this for the next 50 years? no. You would be thinking about what you can do to have some fun with your life.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

And? My location is horrible too. In fact, it’s not even my location, just the fact that I’m all over the place and never really stayed in one area. I’ve never settled down or stayed long enough in one place to have gotten the social circle or the women I’ve really wanted. I’m already in college and am not enjoying the ‘college experience’ lol. I’ve accepted it though. I used to feel bad because I kept on trying to find faults within myself that I could fix that could improve my situation. Then I said ‘**** it, I don’t care anymore’. Was gonna turn into one evil person after that, but something happened that stopped me from doing that (don’t exactly know what it is either tbh). After that, I just kinda realized that none of it is really my fault, and now that I think of it, it never really was to begin with. It’s made me stronger though which I guess is better. I know for a fact that I would be doing a hell of a lot better than 99% of those guys who have the opportunity, but the fact is, that opportunity isn’t there for me. I refuse to believe it’s my fault now, but I also refuse cry about it either.

What I’m saying is, so ****ing what? You’re salty about something that happened because it wasn’t your fault. Well then you shouldn’t be salty, you should just accept it and because that is life for you. And me. Would’ve, could’ve, should’ve. Stop thinking about these words. Best thing to do is to not think about it. If you ever catch yourself thinking about it, force yourself to think about something else. Otherwise go talk to a therapist about it. Nothing you can do. Sucks. But that’s life. Move on. Strengthen yourself.

 

[fanatic22]

I slept with 0 girls in high school, 4 girls in 4 years of college and 16 girls in the 3 years after I graduated (9 of which came in the last 3 months).

Don't look for excuses, just work on yourself and get in the field.

 

[Spaz]

I slept with 0 girls in high school, 4 girls in 4 years of college and 16 girls in the 3 years after I graduated (9 of which came in the last 3 months).

Don't look for excuses, just work on yourself and get in the field.

This is good.

This is how a man reacts to his given situation.

 

[drakeisfire]

Your problem will be fixed once your notch count is high enough, been there too.

Except it won't.

I mean so what if I smash?

What else is there to it? No parties or social validation of getting a hot girl, being a part of big social groups like there were in college or getting down with her large circle of friends......

 

[fanatic22]

Except it won't.

I mean so what if I smash?

What else is there to it? No parties or social validation of getting a hot girl, being a part of big social groups like there were in college or getting down with her large circle of friends......

It sounds like you need friends, not girls.