You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Rich let me ask you a question. If you’re at home and a classic rock song comes on. Do you get up and play air guitar, gyrate your hips, and act goofy as ****? Now take that mentality and on a date she’s not even there, just be funny to yourself and amuse yourself. Women want that goofy, confident, slightly *******ish guy.
I don't party.
No, I don't do that, and I don't want to start. I take life seriously.
What is "push pull" exactly?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Because life isn’t about being serious 24/7/365.
Interest and Disinterest towards a woman rather than interest until you lose her because you are boring and predictable. It's a common thing in the book "The Game" back 10 years ago.
Your head is in the wrong place. If the quoted is your inner thoughts, then you have to find a way to fix that.
But you can't really talk about hookers with any serious women you want to meet.
That is a good mind-set to have. So, you must meet different lady Realtors or women with money who are interested in investing in homes?RichardtheFrog said:
That's right, there are no such thing as real friends. Everyone wants to take from you, and if you don't have then they are gone. It's either a mutually beneficial business or someone gets the short end of the stick. Even people giving you advice here is probably to stroke their ego and make them feel good about themselves while you make a spectacle of yourself. At the end of the day, everyone is self-interested in one way or the other.RichardtheFrog said:
When I see the boyfriends of hot girls, most of the time they are not impressive at all. I can remember a Hooters girl recently talking about how she broke up with her boyfriend because he had no job, yet he had aspirations of being an uber driver.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Well I've actually had lots of girls attracted to me over the years. Too many to even count when I used to do acid before I was arrested. But even also since I've been out.
You can’t sexualize the conversation too early. The game is up then. Besides if you push and sexualize like crazy, you get blinders on and only see the *****. You ignore the red flags because you want the lay. That’s the beta way. Gotta carve out that abundance mentality
Problem is, I don't know when to bring it up. If I never bring it up, then nothing will ever happen.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You look good in that pic mate, far more natural than the mirror selfies you've posted previously. Why do you dislike smiling and suits? Both are generally a symbol that you're carefree, successful and have your s*** together.
how the hell do people compare me to this guy?