"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Dating app matches since I uploaded new pics...

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Congrats! good progress.
Talk to each one to see their interest levels.
Keep at it for a couple days or so, I'm sure you'll get even better results.
 

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Congrats! good progress.
Talk to each one to see their interest levels.
Keep at it for a couple days or so, I'm sure you'll get even better results.
I agree. If I recall it was ~ day 3 the matches really picked up for me on Tindler and Bumble. Kinda boring the first few days. POF is the best in my area tho. Far better than all others combined.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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What's a good intro message? What do you use?
The best approach is commenting or questioning about a picture they're in. If they have a bio, that's even better cause you've been given plenty of info.
For example: the latina mentions not expecting to find a soulmate on tinder, height not being important, an age. Make a joke out of one of those!
2nd chick talks about wanting a double date, pisces, the beach, "everyday is a new adventure". I'd say; "Our double date will be the most adventurous date that you'll ever have! ;)"
3rd chick has an interesting pic so I'd say "Where are you at in this pic?" Her: Blah blah You: "Ah okay, now Ik where we'll be spending most of our time at".

Those are my suggestions. Interested to see how other people would approach.
 

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I already talked to the fat one. She texted me on Bumble.
Awesome! Try to chat them up and charm them. You don't have to go out with them but the experience will serve you when you meet a woman you do like.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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And now I'm back to getting nothing.

What are you gonna tell me? Spend the next 12 months in the gym?

See that picture of me smiling in a suit. That's not me at all.

I don't like smiling and I don't like wearing suits. I would rather stick a knife in somebodies throat. But that's my highest rated pic.
 

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I've always been told I look better in person, anyway. I think this kind of dress is overdressed for the great majority of places I might go out to.

I'm more of a Lamborghini and flip-flops kind of guy.

Btw, I'm getting my Lambo wrapped in chrome.
 

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See that picture of me smiling in a suit. That's not me at all.

I don't like smiling and I don't like wearing suits. I would rather stick a knife in somebodies throat. But that's my highest rated pic.
This is why you fail with women Richard. You're mentally unstable.

I know you would not actually knife someone, you're way too much of a pvssy. But even the fact you post like this shows you're slightly off key brother.
 
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you're way too much of a pvssy.
I've done WAY more than you have, little boy.

You think you're tough because you've never seen anything real.

You know nothing about me.

The reason I wouldn't do that is because I'd rather be in the free world rather than prison.

Tell me all the stuff that you've done that makes you so tough, little boy.

I would dare you to lay a finger on me and give me the right to defend myself.

Show us all the ugly girls you get with while you're at it. You know, the ones you call HB8, etc.

You know nothing about me, or anything.

I am DEFINITELY not your brother.
 

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I've done WAY more than you have, little boy.

You think you're tough because you've never seen anything real.

You know nothing about me.

The reason I wouldn't do that is because I'd rather be in the free world rather than prison.

Tell me all the stuff that you've done that makes you so tough, little boy.

I would dare you to lay a finger on me and give me the right to defend myself.

Show us all the ugly girls you get with while you're at it. You know, the ones you call HB8, etc.

You know nothing about me, or anything.

I am DEFINITELY not your brother.
All I could see was this:


Stalking/harassing women and getting sent to jail does not make you a man, it makes you a sex offender. Thank God a women would over power you and laugh, otherwise I might be concerned for women's safety around you.

Keep up the good work son. Only the nose job, hair transplant and Lambo to go and you may finally be a real man.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Stalking/harassing women and getting sent to jail does not make you a man, it makes you a sex offender. Thank God a women would over power you and laugh, otherwise I might be concerned for women's safety around you.

Keep up the good work son. Only the nose job, hair transplant and Lambo to go and you may finally be a real man.
Except that you don't know me at all.

You are the kind of weak little pu$$y that would bring that up constantly and nothing else.

And you didn't mention a single thing that YOU have done. Most likely because it doesn't exist.
 

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Except that you don't know me at all.

You are the kind of weak little pu$$y that would bring that up constantly and nothing else.

And you didn't mention a single thing that YOU have done. Most likely because it doesn't exist.
Why does me saying you're too much of a pvssy to stab someone get you so riled up? Don't you see this is madness?
 

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Richard and to others:

In OLD, you are judged by your weakest pic.

In your profile, if you had three pics, 65%, 25%, 18%, you are being judged on the 18%.

As I offered to you, when you get your pics back, photofeeler rate them, and send me your best three. I will tweak them and then you post only those three on OLD.
 

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I'm very direct. I just ask them out after a few texts. Tell them you are not a fan of texting and want to meet in person. Works for me.
 
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I'm very direct. I just ask them out after a few texts. Tell them you are not a fan of texting and want to meet in person. Works for me.
Problems with that in this instance:

1. The girl was too ugly and fat for me to want to meet.

2. My d1ck is in bandages from plastic surgery.

3. My dates are usually very boring. Am I gonna aggressively ask someone out just to sit across from them and bore them to tears struggling to make even the smallest of small talk?

Unfortunately, I think most (99.9%) of girls would require a date before they'd want to have sex with you. You consider the date to be my "audition," which I believe I would routinely fail due to being quiet and boring. I don't know how to make it exciting. It's really not that fun to me. Not necessarily something I even enjoy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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