"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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should i want a relationship with her?

soulforge

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You feel empty without her? Seriously man, what kinda blue pill horse chit is that.

You where her emotional tampon.. She used you to fill a gap because she felt lonely, also till she decides who to choose, her BF or the co worker..

You fella are the gap stop in between!

The pics, the back rub, the long conversations, was just a ruse to keep you hanging on and for her to get her fix of attention..

Now that she has decided, you no longer are of any interest to her.. She knows hows desperate and needy you are for her..

When things go south again, guess who she is going to reach out to again? Yes you!

Grow a fuking spine man... You want nothing but to see her smile? Loool Really?

This chick uses you, then discards you, but you want to see her smile... Pathetic!

You got serious Oneitis.. We have all been there.. Just snap the fuk out of it man, grow a set of balls, and tell that HOE to get lost..

We can be harsh sometimes, but its tough love man!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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its so hard :(
i feel so empty without her , i dont understand why did she got on top of me like that
its funny because while i was massaging her back and kissing her neck i asked if i should stop and she said " if i dont say anything why are u asking me , dont stop " :))
WHAT DA FUQ?

Women who want to fvck you dont send mixed signals. She has a boyfriend, she is talking to other dudes and she stopped you with a hard no when you half @ssed tried to escalate (and for future use....you NEVER ask a chick if its "okay" to start moving your hands around on them when you are cuddling).

You need to find more women and more options. You are way too invested in ONE chick who clearly has no desire to fvck you any time soon.

Remove all attention, act as business as usual and she will either come after you like a hobo on a ham sandwich or she will be gone.
 

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You feel empty without her? Seriously man, what kinda blue pill horse chit is that.

You where her emotional tampon.. She used you to fill a gap because she felt lonely, also till she decides who to choose, her BF or the co worker..

You fella are the gap stop in between!

The pics, the back rub, the long conversations, was just a ruse to keep you hanging on and for her to get her fix of attention..

Now that she has decided, you no longer are of any interest to her.. She knows hows desperate and needy you are for her..

When things go south again, guess who she is going to reach out to again? Yes you!

Grow a fuking spine man... You want nothing but to see her smile? Loool Really?

This chick uses you, then discards you, but you want to see her smile... Pathetic!

You got serious Oneitis.. We have all been there.. Just snap the fuk out of it man, grow a set of balls, and tell that HOE to get lost..

We can be harsh sometimes, but its tough love man!
u are right sir and i know it too i will try
its gonna be really hard but im gonna try
i dont think that its anything serious between her and the coworker i think she is using him too
if there was something serious they wouldnt keep it a secret
 

soulforge

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u are right sir and i know it too i will try
its gonna be really hard but im gonna try
i dont think that its anything serious between her and the coworker i think she is using him too
if there was something serious they wouldnt keep it a secret

Who cares if it's serious or not with the co worker... The question is, why are you so DEEPLY attached to a chick, you haven't even had sex with.

This is a low quality chick, girls like this, you don't get attached with.. You BANG and move on.

She doesn't have much interest in you, and she's a HOE

Move on buddy.
 

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I asked if she wanted sex because it was weird that she got on top of me all of a sudden and yet she took my hand away when i wanted to go bellow the waist . She said no the massage was enough
had you not asked if you should stop (under her shirt), you would have scored

the quote, was the formulation of anti-slvt defense and her instinct said this guy is going to get emotional (from the should I stop comment) after we fvck and I tell him no I dont want to (date,fvck,etc)

how did it take 2pages to see this?
now you now are a high level orbiter and likely she has BPD... run
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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