"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Ok so I haven't seen her since Sunday morning and kept texting/calls to a minimum this week as I just needed a break. She text me Monday asking to meet for a drink after work - seriously a Monday, after we'd spent Friday to Sunday morning together about both our houses and out with my work colleagues (Friday) and her friends (Saturday).

She has asked if I'm free this Saturday to go to dinner with her Brother, his GF, her dad and his GF, she has played it down saying it's just some little Thai restaurant.

IMO that is again rushing things, I don't want to have to impressing people I don't know or care about, and I don't want to make the inevitable cease of contact harder on her than it will already be.

Please give me some guidance on this one guys. I have a legit excuse that I'm going to my aunts for Mothers day this weekend, shall I go with her family for a meal or just swerve it?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Murkserious said:
Please give me some guidance on this one guys. I have a legit excuse that I'm going to my aunts for Mothers day this weekend, shall I go with her family for a meal or just swerve it?
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If you don't want to go, don't go, but communicate well, say something that doubles as the truth and a good excuse.

If it were me I'd just be like "that sounds lame as **** call me when they're going to the red light district of thailand or gambling in vegas"

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and I don't want to make the inevitable cease of contact harder on her than it will already be.
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Wait when did you decide you didn't like her and it's never gonna go anywhere?
 
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Too clingy, I decided when I booted her out my house Sunday morning then got a Tinder girl to come round later that evening.

She want's a baby, she's not on the pill, she openly said she would have a baby with me. I just don't need the stress.
 
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Murkserious said:
Too clingy, I decided when I booted her out my house Sunday morning then got a Tinder girl to come round later that evening.

She want's a baby, she's not on the pill, she openly said she would have a baby with me. I just don't need the stress.
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Oh i see, fair enough. Poor girl
 
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