Vulnerability/being emotional

[Al parsons]

I’ve recenyly read in the book ‘The Rational Male’ that it is attractive to a girl if a man does not show emotions. I’ve also heard from Ross Jeffries that it is attractive if a man is vulnerable without being needy!

Which one is true in real life? Being vulnerable or not showing emotions?

 

[ZaCool]

Depends on what emotions and when , avoid crying or looking afraid or weak in front of women as much as you can, unless you really really have to show such emotions .

As a cool and laid back guy i dont show much emotions, most of the time iam just like "meh" and a lot of girls while admitted that sometimes they find it kinda irrititating that iam not so emotional on the other hand its actually hot, one girl told me once "youre not phased by girls looks, you take one look and act like nothing happend, unlike most other guys who get so worked up" .

I think the kind of emotions women want from men are passion, such as showing her how passionate about her when with her, looking in her eyes and telling her "youre my world" kind of ****, without being a doormat at the same time, maintain your frame, and look like a guy that doesnt get easily emotional so when you do get emotional and share your emotions it means the situation is really important for you and it required a rare reaction from you, a lot of girls say that bad boys are *******s but so emotional with them, what they mean is that badboys (or more accuaretly certain guys with certain traits) are cool and dont show lots of emotions so when they do its actually important .

 

[Murk]

Me personally, I’ve had an emotional 3 years. I’ve had the most intense passionate relationships in that time. However, I show emotion and strength, to show only emotion all the time is weak, emotion and strength show resilience and inspires people. I’ve had 3 girls in 4 months tell me they want my kids (in serious convo) and I’m a great man.

To show no emotion, in my opinion, will only attract vacuous women with low intelligence. Be passionate and a well rounded person, you find deeper connection that way. If you wanna purely spin plates, no emotion is best, don’t emotionally invest because when you get deep, it is an investment, of your being and your essence. Some people don’t even operate on that level.

 

[wifehunter]

 

[Serenity]

A man shouldn't hide a part of him, emotions are a part of being human. It's directly unhealthy to suppress emotions. It's not about showing or not showing them, it's about how you show them. So Ross has the better answer there.

An emotional dead person is also boring as fvck. I don't think the author of "The Rational Male" really thought rationally about emotions if his conclusion was to hide them, unless he was very unclear about what he meant.

In any case women like men who are able to show emotions and be vulnerable occasionally, not frequently.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I’ve recenyly read in the book ‘The Rational Male’ that it is attractive to a girl if a man does not show emotions. I’ve also heard from Ross Jeffries that it is attractive if a man is vulnerable without being needy!

Which one is true in real life? Being vulnerable or not showing emotions?

We already live in a society that pedals this narrative. Its not real life. Leave feelers to women and small children.

 

[Dash Riprock]

If a man can be funny, charismatic, and passionate about his life pursuits he's absolutely golden. 95% of the women out there will prefer this guy over the stolid, quiet, stone-faced robot any day. Plus, if you throw in some c&f and throw them some s*hit, you'll close 99% of your deals. So, showing positive emotion is generally very good. Getting emotional or upset if she flakes, a restaurant screws up your drink or dinner order or just getting mad over petty stuff shows major weakness. If you start dating a woman and she really p*isses you off, I ALWAYS let her know. Some say don't say anything which I think is really bad advice. And sometimes I do raise my voice. I'm not afraid to let my masculine energy show when it's warranted.

 

[Trump]

I’ve recenyly read in the book ‘The Rational Male’ that it is attractive to a girl if a man does not show emotions. I’ve also heard from Ross Jeffries that it is attractive if a man is vulnerable without being needy!

Which one is true in real life? Being vulnerable or not showing emotions?

Emotions are fleeting. Go with logic. Can’t lose when you go with logic.

 

[Spaz]

I’ve recenyly read in the book ‘The Rational Male’ that it is attractive to a girl if a man does not show emotions. I’ve also heard from Ross Jeffries that it is attractive if a man is vulnerable without being needy!

Which one is true in real life? Being vulnerable or not showing emotions?

Women r all abt emotions.

And although we men hv emotions we must keep it under wraps.

If u r emotional then why would a woman be attracted 2 u when she already has other females around for all that emotional stuff?

Use logic, that's what we men r made for. Women need men to be a solid rock during moments of deep distress and they r always in moments of distress in any given time of the month.

 

[Murk]

If a man can be funny, charismatic, and passionate about his life pursuits he's absolutely golden. 95% of the women out there will prefer this guy over the stolid, quiet, stone-faced robot any day. Plus, if you throw in some c&f and throw them some s*hit, you'll close 99% of your deals. So, showing positive emotion is generally very good. Getting emotional or upset if she flakes, a restaurant screws up your drink or dinner order or just getting mad over petty stuff shows major weakness. If you start dating a woman and she really p*isses you off, I ALWAYS let her know. Some say don't say anything which I think is really bad advice. And sometimes I do raise my voice. I'm not afraid to let my masculine energy show when it's warranted.

I co-sign this. Also stolid is a great word I'm adding to my lexicon.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I find the guys who advocate being a WALL OF IRON, EMOTIONS ARE FOR THE WEAK! are normally the sort of blokes who suddenly crack one day and have an emotional breakdown, 10 years of therapy (and in the worst cases) end up hanging themselves.

It's not natural to utterly suppress all your emotions and act like you're some sort of android. Some things should naturally make you sad, angry or whatever. I lost a dog I'd had for 14 years recently and bawled like a baby, I'm not ashamed to admit that at all.

At the same time it's about restraint. Crying because your dog died is a sensible display of real emotion, crying because your girlfriend didn't cook your steak the way you wanted is not. Save your emotion for when it's important, not for petty outbursts or tantrums.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

You ain’t ever gonna see these tears, nor is anyone else! Only I can, and I ****ing hate it when I do too.