Got ghosted after first bumble date, am I just that ugly

[Trainwreck]

Pros
She asked a lot of questions and kept the conversation flowing
showed up to the date lol

Cons
Didn’t order a drink at the restaurant even though she talked about them thru text
Left right after paying(this date was kind of last minute so probably had **** to do I hope )
offered to pay separate
Didn't initiate a followup text a follow up text afterwards

idk the girl goes to a christian school and seems like one of those busy body girls. She seemed a little too eager to go out on a date in the first place which I felt was a little concerning.

 

[CMNILS87]

Yes you’re ugly

 

[Trainwreck]

Idk I feel like girls are going to be extremely picky af to guys they haven’t had sex with yet. I’m just going for the Netflix and chill from now on lol.

 

[derby1]

when was this date

 

[sosousage]

In my opinion DJs are built by failing, and they are not built overnight.

Keep trying. Keep making mistakes. Embrace failure and rejection.

thats bs. all women need is to show on date, while men need to look good, be fit, have game, have good finance situation

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

First dates mean nothing dude. Literally nothing. Especially dates from OLD or Bumble/Tinder/whatever.

You can turn up looking great, smelling great, dressed nicely, fit from the gym and then provide excellent conversation and funny jokes. Add in some light touching and flirting. Perfect right?

Good chance you'll never see or hear from her again.

I had about 15 first dates in the last 7 months (work is insanely busy so it's hard to commit) and I find that it's basically like rolling dice. She might be blown away completely and sit there admiring you for the whole date and then kiss your face off and set up a second date immediately. Boom you're in a relationship a month later.

On the other hand there's an even greater chance that she'll pick one of a million petty reasons to not see you again. You disagreed on some minor thing, she didn't like the political inflection of one of your jokes, she thinks you're hot but not "her kind of hot", she isn't feeling like dating, she's insecure, she doesn't like your beard/lack of beard. There are countless stupid little reasons some girls will ghost a guy these days sadly, because men are so available on apps and so on.

I go to dates now expecting to never hear from her afterwards, and I just act myself. If she doesn't bother texting back, so what? If she does, it means I've found a girl I can be myself around and that's good.

 

[fanatic22]

thats bs. all women need is to show on date, while men need to look good, be fit, have game, have good finance situation

I have much higher standards than that for women and ghost or reject girls who don't impress....Maybe you're too willing to settle.

 

[sosousage]

I have much higher standards than that for women and ghost or reject girls who don't impress....Maybe you're too willing to settle.

having high standards without having pool of options is torturing yourself for so called "power of will" isnt the same as having higher standards due to a lot of options