How to kiss so I am not rejected?

[sosousage]

Hello! I am looking for some insight regarding kissing.

Please share some tips and do's and don'ts.

How to start, what to do before it, what to not do before it, what to do after, etc.

PS I do read guides found in Google but tbh they are bad and include things like "ask verbally for kiss"

 

[Spaz]

Any planned kiss won't come across as sexy...

Be spontaneous, if u feel like kissing her then just kiss her. Don't even bother to think abt it.

 

[sosousage]

Any planned kiss won't come across as sexy...

Be spontaneous, if u feel like kissing her then just kiss her. Don't even bother to think abt it.

I did and i have been called bad kisser and she got turned off n kicked me off house

 

[RangerMIke]

It's not anything that you do. If the chick wants to kiss you she will let you kiss her. Lean in and kiss her, and if she kisses you back, then you're fine. If she gives you the cheek... well at that moment she's not that into you. If there is chemistry everything is good, if not.. well... onto the next one.

Never assume that anything you do can make a chick like you. She has to like you and there has to be chemistry. Now you can fvck sh!t up by kissing her like a drooling bull dog, or being a weak b!tch and not going for a kiss.... but there is no kiss technique that will make her feel something that is not there already.

 

[Spaz]

Then she's not interested in you.

So move on to the next.

Btw is this ur Tranny?

 

[sosousage]

Then she's not interested in you.

So move on to the next.

Btw is this ur Tranny?

She was interested in my look and maybe personality, but I turned her off just by kissing. no its not tranny


Shes from tinder and I think a lot of girls there had 5+ partners. maybe even 10. with this amount of exes girls set their new requirements above their exes, so if I kissed worse than someone out of 10 of her exes, then she will say i cant kiss. but thats just speculation. i probably kissed bad tho

 

[Serenity]

I did and i have been called bad kisser and she got turned off n kicked me off house

If this happens with most women then it's you, if it happens very rarely then it's her. If it's you and they've been turned off then you might as well ask for constructive criticism before you leave. With that you might be able to improve for the next woman.

Don't overthink it though. Kissing isn't complicated and the more you interfere with your instinct the more you'll mess it up.

 

[Spaz]

She was interested in my look and maybe personality, but I turned her off just by kissing. no its not tranny


Shes from tinder and I think a lot of girls there had 5+ partners. maybe even 10. with this amount of exes girls set their new requirements above their exes, so if I kissed worse than someone out of 10 of her exes, then she will say i cant kiss. but thats just speculation. i probably kissed bad tho

Nah, it ain't ur kiss per se.

She was turned off even before the kiss.

The kiss was the excuse she used to kick u out.

 

[sosousage]

If this happens with most women then it's you, if it happens very rarely then it's her. If it's you and they've been turned off then you might as well ask for constructive criticism before you leave. With that you might be able to improve for the next woman.

Don't overthink it though. Kissing isn't complicated and the more you interfere with your instinct the more you'll mess it up.

i asked for whats wrong and she said she cant explain but kissing is very important for her. i then joked about her having to drink two teas now lol

this happened first time in my life so i am very shocked

Nah, it ain't ur kiss per se.

She was turned off even before the kiss.

The kiss was the excuse she used to kick u out.

possibly, usually this is the case, but in this case she smiled hard to me let me touch her etc flirt. she kept asking details about me after she saw me so i guess she wasnt turned off the moment she saw me, since she still kept on asking questions

 

[ubercat]

It sounds like you did well and she changed her mind. I wouldn't bother thinking about it too much. In early stages of Dating girls r incredibly fickle and a lot of them are just looking for reasons to disqualify you. It's one of the reasons we suggest to let the girl do 80% of the talking.

I very much doubt it was anything about your kissing technique. I mean one girl might like gentle almost Butterfly Kisses and another girl might like being pushed up against the wall and lots of tongue. And you are absolutely doing the right thing having lots of dates and working on your particular sticking points. Which is how it is for everybody. After Enough Experience you'll just instinctively know what they want.

How was the kino and general vibe before you went for the kiss?

 

[Glassguy]

Give her a tight hug with your hands on her lower back. Slide one hand up her back and onto her neck and slightly pull her head to yours and kiss her. Leave one hand on her lower back and one on her neck. If she is really into it, you can then pull her body closer with the hand on her lower back and also be a little more aggressive with the hand on her neck if she starts kissing deeply, moaning, etc.

It works every time.

 

[sosousage]

It sounds like you did well and she changed her mind. I wouldn't bother thinking about it too much. In early stages of Dating girls r incredibly fickle and a lot of them are just looking for reasons to disqualify you. It's one of the reasons we suggest to let the girl do 80% of the talking.

I very much doubt it was anything about your kissing technique. I mean one girl might like gentle almost Butterfly Kisses and another girl might like being pushed up against the wall and lots of tongue. And you are absolutely doing the right thing having lots of dates and working on your particular sticking points. Which is how it is for everybody. After Enough Experience you'll just instinctively know what they want.

How was the kino and general vibe before you went for the kiss?

I touched her ass(in clothes), her back,tits and nipples (under clothes) I also lifted her and put her on kitchen desk before we went to sofa.


I guess maybe I shouldnt go under her clothes before kiss? lol

 

[ubercat]

Yeah sounds like a slower build up might have sealed the deal. I mean there are no one size fits all rules for chicks. But then of course there are general principles otherwise there would be no point in this website.

So a combination of tough and tender seems to often work with most chicks.

The story you're trying to build up in their mind is that you really should control yourself but they are so wonderful that you just can't.

Doing things like leaning in and smelling their hair. Letting your breath tickle their necks can be part of the buildup.

And with most chicks who aren't totally Hardened slvts it's about comfort. So you push it to the level she is comfortable with and if you get any resistance you back off a little and then push it again

 

[Serenity]

this happened first time in my life so i am very shocked

Then don't worry about it. You can't let your confidence break after a one time comment.

 

[RichardTheFrog]

I did and i have been called bad kisser and she got turned off n kicked me off house

I'm a terrible kisser. I hate kissing.

I'm good at fvcking, though.

I don't get the point of kissing.

 

[wifehunter]

 

[BeExcellent]

Now you can fvck sh!t up by kissing her like a drooling bull dog, or being a weak b!tch and not going for a kiss.... but there is no kiss technique that will make her feel something that is not there already.

Advice from the old lady: The above is very important. I and many women I know will cross a man off the list for bad kissing even if they otherwise like you. If you don't kiss well, the assumption will be that you are also going to suck in bed. Sorry to be blunt, but that's how MANY women size a guy up sexually, myself included.

Kissing is more intimate than sex itself in some ways and it communicates lots of non-verbal things that can be off-putting if you kiss poorly. Women can actually be put off/turned off if the kissing experience is not good. Even if she liked you beforehand.

Look around on YouTube for good instructive videos on how to kiss a woman and create sexual desire. In fact I think in some thread some time ago I went over what really bad kissing is and how it runs women off. There was a thread on here at one point where I went over this in great detail, as well as what NOT to do. Let me see if I can find it....

 

[Murk]

Lots of bottom lip sucking (I can’t deal with no lip having chicks), pecks, tongue, maybe a light tongue suck, alternate, don’t overdo it with tongue, but sometimes in the moment you can overdo it with tongue. I’ve taught the majority of my ex’s how to kiss. They all eventually fall into line. It’s a great way to get a girl wet. I agree with BE advice, do some research, but develop your own style.