logicallefty
Moderator
I have been dabbling in some OLD lately and been meaning to post and make an observational note that isn't anything new. Especially to us 40+ guys. But it's quite funny and I want to talk about it:
How many of you have done OLD and heard the song and dance from a woman "We need to talk and get to know each other for a while before we ever meet"? You ask her out like a week later and she blows you off and clearly has no intensions of meeting you then, or possibly ever, because all you are for her is an attention tampon? Guys, especially you guys who are 20s & even 30s, hang in there. THIS will change.
I had two OLD convos today that went something like this:
HB 35yo: "So what are you here for?" (the classic line)
LL: "I go with the flow with whoever I meet here, and so should you. I would hate to see you loose out on the opportunity to meet me for the first time over a lame disagreement in our expectations."
HB 35yo: "Oh no I do not want that. In fact, I was going to tell you that if you aren't willing to meet me within a week, then forget it!"
LL: "Right on Sounds like we are on the same page"
HB 43yo "Hi how are you doing?"
(7 minutes go by, 7! As in S.E.V.E.N)
HB 43yo "Nevermind. You are obviously too busy to reply. Good luck".
Seriously guys.. This is a far out difference from the "we gotta talk and can't go out on a date until we have talked so much that were are each a 100% mind melt of each other"
So what is my point here? My point is that as women get older, their SMV is going down and they know it. Their time to still land decent men is tick tocking down the toilet. And they know it. And they want to get the show started as soon as possible. But you, as the man, have nothing but time, and options! This was the exact opposite of my OLD experiences in my 30s. Im actually 30lbs heavier than the last time I did OLD but I tell you what, I am making bank. I can't keep up with all of my GOOD options. It's crazy!!
If you are not seeing this already, give it time, and you will! YOUR time will come.
How many of you have done OLD and heard the song and dance from a woman "We need to talk and get to know each other for a while before we ever meet"? You ask her out like a week later and she blows you off and clearly has no intensions of meeting you then, or possibly ever, because all you are for her is an attention tampon? Guys, especially you guys who are 20s & even 30s, hang in there. THIS will change.
I had two OLD convos today that went something like this:
HB 35yo: "So what are you here for?" (the classic line)
LL: "I go with the flow with whoever I meet here, and so should you. I would hate to see you loose out on the opportunity to meet me for the first time over a lame disagreement in our expectations."
HB 35yo: "Oh no I do not want that. In fact, I was going to tell you that if you aren't willing to meet me within a week, then forget it!"
LL: "Right on Sounds like we are on the same page"
HB 43yo "Hi how are you doing?"
(7 minutes go by, 7! As in S.E.V.E.N)
HB 43yo "Nevermind. You are obviously too busy to reply. Good luck".
Seriously guys.. This is a far out difference from the "we gotta talk and can't go out on a date until we have talked so much that were are each a 100% mind melt of each other"
So what is my point here? My point is that as women get older, their SMV is going down and they know it. Their time to still land decent men is tick tocking down the toilet. And they know it. And they want to get the show started as soon as possible. But you, as the man, have nothing but time, and options! This was the exact opposite of my OLD experiences in my 30s. Im actually 30lbs heavier than the last time I did OLD but I tell you what, I am making bank. I can't keep up with all of my GOOD options. It's crazy!!
If you are not seeing this already, give it time, and you will! YOUR time will come.