Dated some woman six months ago who I believe went back to her ex fiance, we went out on a total of three dates, she had extremely high interest, almost too much. Anyway, we only made out and then I sent her a text after the third date and no response. I also noticed she deleted her Bumble account the same day which led me to believe she went back to her ex. Anyway yesterday I saw her back on Bumble for one day and then she was gone, do you think I should text her to say whats up? She is probably going through **** with her ex and I am looking to bang her, see it as a good opportunity.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Should I contact this chick that stopped responding to my text six months ago.
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That’s not enough observable consistent or on going behavior from her for you to form Any opinion about whats up with her, or to initiate contact.
If she was back on Bumble for a few weeks, I would say go for it.
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BeExcellent
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Nothing ventured nothing gained. Nobody highlights long game around here. Long game has it's value. You never know what circumstances are going on in somebody else's life that might preclude or interrupt an interaction. So if you want to reach out, reach out. It's not as though you're terribly invested in the situation.
RangerMIke
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If you want to reach out... do it. But if you hear nothing back, I hope you get the message.
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It isn't the texting that takes valuable time; it's the mental headache of dealing with some chick who is trying to play games/who flakes/delays/acts indifferent/etc.
What would you rather have:
A) An HB7 who is slow to respond, flakes, makes it difficult to nail down a date with, and who you feel you have to walk on egg shells around in order to get sex ...
or
B) An HB7 who is super responsive to your texts/accepts all of your dates/drops everything she's doing at any hour to drive to your house to give you sex/ brings you food/meals/cleans your house/gives you massages/etc. etc. etc.
When you text a girl who is demonstrating bad behavior (e.g. hard to lock a date down with, declines a date with no counters, goes hours without responding to text, etc. etc.) she's more than likely going to be the "A" in the above scenario.
Don't waste time with these low interest chicks ... find more Bs. There are PLENTY of Bs out there. Approach different chicks .. next bad behavior ... ignore indifferent/low interest chicks. Don't try to fight the uphill battle of raising some low interest girl's interest level .. it isn't worth the time investment.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
devilkingx2
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pick one lol
really high interest wouldn't instantly disappear overnight I don't think, not if the girl was normal
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Girls that show you crazy high interest and then flake normally have heavy insecurities or mental problems, in my experience. The sort of stuff you don't want to get tangled up in.
Even if she's not got some sort of personality/mental disorder and she's just a bit temperamental, it still shows that she'll drop you at a moment's notice after being all over you. I wouldn't bother because it just sounds like hassle and BS.
Even if she's not got some sort of personality/mental disorder and she's just a bit temperamental, it still shows that she'll drop you at a moment's notice after being all over you. I wouldn't bother because it just sounds like hassle and BS.