Single mom on Tinder

[JayAce]

I was swiping through Tinder the other day. Matched with a 23y old single Mom with a 5 yr old who recently moved here (to Texas) from Puerto Rico a few months ago.

We talk a few msgs. She actually seems pretty cool. Writes books, etc. She then gives me her number to text but gives this disclaimer in the same Tinder message:

"BUT before you save it; know that I'm currently in a spot where I have to focus on my Daugher, work and school. I need outmost patience regarding going out and stuff. I've barely moved here, I'm still settling in. Not many understand and have the patience -sad face emoji-"

I ended up saving the message and txting her so she had my number. We sent a couple msgs Friday night and yesterday morning but that's been it. She sent the last msg, but it wasn't really much to reply back with so I didn't. I think she could be a plate. Or is even that crazy with a single mom? I know you're never the first fiddle with a Mom. it's always her kid/s, etc

How would I go about even bringing up hanging out with this chick with her disclaimer and also realizing all of the stuff she technically said is true? She is still settling in to this new area. Just casually bring it up if/when she txts again?

 

[finality]

Take her words at face value. She tells you she is busy and have some patience and most guys just rush her.

I wouldn't even ask her out..Take the 5 minutes that it would take to respond to her texts over the course of a week and keep her on the back burner and go for other chicks..maybe this one will ask to meet up cuz you aren't like all the other dudes trying to make something happen within 5 texts

 

[hockeyfreak79]

It's not worth it, there's maybe been 1 or 2 exceptions for me the last 10yrs. The last one I entertained, she just worked and had a kid. I could get her out but it was kind of a pain in the a**. I'd invite her out, then I'd have to wait and see if she could find a sitter.

Yours goes to school too? HA!

I had other plates, the problem is they (single moms) expect you to drop everything if all of a sudden they become available. Yeah not going to happen. Single moms typically like to have a bunch of orbiters texting her too. Essentially attention höes dangling a carrot through text.

I use to live in Texas, love Latinas but man they think their /|\ is golden. Expect A LOT of asd. Rarely if ever worth it, do what I did STOP trying to dating single moms. Trust me you'll thank yourself later.

 

[Spaz]

I think guys who r attracted 2 single mom's or older women r guys with mommy syndrome.

Guys who yearns 4 a 2nd mommy to care and love them.

How abt u find a single woman who yearns for you instead ? A woman who looks up to you as a man and follow you as you lead her into an exciting life.
Bring out that ability to soar high up into the skies and as fast bring her down to the tree tops.

 

[Desdinova]

Matched with a 23y old single Mom with a 5 yr old

Wow, got preggo when she was 17. High school wh0re.

"BUT before you save it; know that I'm currently in a spot where I have to focus on my Daugher, work and school.

Then what in the fvck is she doing on Tinder? Looking at art?

How would I go about even bringing up hanging out with this chick with her disclaimer and also realizing all of the stuff she technically said is true?

You delete her number and move on.

 

[JayAce]

Then what in the fvck is she doing on Tinder? Looking at art?

All valid points by everyone.

And good question.

time to move on

 

[El Payaso]

She is the kind of girl that will usually put out on the first date.

Her telling you she's focusing on her kids and such is just her ASD kicking in to give her plausible deniability.

 

[logicallefty]

Text with her and get her so anxious to meet u that she nearly explodes. Then go ghost for several days. Ignore her if she texts you. Then when you talk to her again say “Oh i must have missed your messages my phone is a tard with alerts sometimes. I would have figured you were busy with your daughter, work, and school. I don’t have a lot of time either right now but I can meet you for a quick drink date X if you are free”

 

[marmel75]

This is code for "I want to add you to my list of orbiters" and is basically letting you know you are going to jump through hoop after hoop and likely get nowhere.

Keep her on the backburner...likely the very far backburner.

 

[JayAce]

Yeah. She hasn't even texted since this past weekend. Thinking that's probably it

I feel like I would be fool-ish to text her now after she gave that disclaimer

just have to keep on keeping on

 

[marmel75]

You should be basically trying to get as many numebrs and dates as possible...dont make the mistake most guys do where they go on a date with a woman and then stop trying to get more numbers and continue trying to date others...

 

[JayAce]

You should be basically trying to get as many numebrs and dates as possible...dont make the mistake most guys do where they go on a date with a woman and then stop trying to get more numbers and continue trying to date others...

Trying. I went out this past weekend. Using OLD on and off during the week since I don't have a lot of time

and my best OLD convo happened to be with this single Mom

I need to improve

feeling a little irritated this morning
not going to text her, but i probably am just another orbiter like you guys said

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Yeah. She hasn't even texted since this past weekend. Thinking that's probably it

I feel like I would be fool-ish to text her now after she gave that disclaimer

just have to keep on keeping on

You simply don't date single moms. They are walking *** dumpsters for anybody alpha who wont return their call. Her daughter is a priority above you. She will use you as a emotional tampon and personal ATM that is to say, if she even returns your calls which thus far, it has not been the case. Dedicate your time to something more worth while like learning crypto, starting a business, investing, minding your finances, world travel, self-knowledge, exploring consciousness, getting jacked, cleaning up your diet, meditating, and obv, getting babes!

 

[marmel75]

You simply don't date single moms. They are walking *** dumpsters for anybody alpha who wont return their call. Her daughter is a priority above you. She will use you as a emotional tampon and personal ATM that is to say, if she even returns your calls which thus far, it has not been the case. Dedicate your time to something more worth while like learning crypto, starting a business, investing, minding your finances, world travel, self-knowledge, exploring consciousness, getting jacked, cleaning up your diet, meditating, and obv, getting babes!

More like learn coding so you can hack crypto sites and make millions without them being able to do anything or find you

 

[Trump]

How abt u find a single woman who yearns for you instead ?

Sure. Find us an available, educated, generous, good looking, single, young female with no agenda and little baggage, and we will take her to moon and back.

 

[CMNILS87]

If that chick really wanted you, they’re would be no stopping her from letting you come over at midnight and bang her brains out while her kid slept next door

 

[skinnyguy]

Pump and dump. She’s craving it bad

 

[JayAce]

If that chick really wanted you, they’re would be no stopping her from letting you come over at midnight and bang her brains out while her kid slept next door

she lives with her Dad at the moment w/her kid since she just moved here a couple months ago, but I guess she could still come to my place and leave the kid with her Dad sometimes?

who knows. it's a mess tbh

 

[Spaz]

Sure. Find us an available, educated, generous, good looking, single, young female with no agenda and little baggage, and we will take her to moon and back.

Make it profitable 4 me.

I'll introduce.

 

[Murk]

More like learn coding so you can hack crypto sites and make millions without them being able to do anything or find you

More like invest now while the market is in correction as it’s sure to go on a bull run March/April