how to deal with "friends" hitting on your girl

[Ryan Adams]

my "friend" every chance he gets tries to get with . my "girl" were not dating be me and and her are talking you could say. but like say if were sitting at a table and i get up he will talk sh!t about me just to make himself look better. he'll try everything in his power to make her like him try to dance with her. if im telling a joke he'll be like that wasn't funny etc etc. for literally no reason lol other then I think he's jealous. thing is he makes great money has a big house etc so idk why he would be jealous. how do I deal with this?

 

[Murk]

Yeah he's no friend.

also I posted a similar thread about a friend who was "talking" to a girl a few months ago that I later went on to bang. He subsequently didn't speak to me for about 3 months, my best friend too, but he's an AFC and basically came at me along the lines of "you can get any girl why do you have to go for one I like".

We drew up some ground rules that talking to a girl is hands off, but we have been friends for 20+ years so I will grant him this leeway. Anyone else though, it's fair game unless in a relationship - you let the girl decide who she wants.

 

[Ryan Adams]

yeah well funny thing is it's so hard to not see him out so I wanna make the best of the situation. true she is fair game but friends aren't supposed to hit on their boys girls that they are trying to get with thst is kinda like a non spoken rule right.

 

[Ryan Adams]

it's not like she's choosing him over me or anything he's going out of his way to make me look bad going wayyyyy out of his way to get with her.

he slanders my name when I'm not around to anyone let alone her. he's done this before. he banged my friends sister when he specifically said dude my sister is off limits. if i have my eyes on a girl 9/10 he's gonna find out and try to get with her.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

I had a ‘friend’ like this once. Needless to say, we aren’t friends anymore. He doesn’t do any backstabbing crap to me anymore because now I’ll fire back. Not gonna take that crap. Best thing to do is to avoid these types of fake phony ****ers. If you can’t, call him out on his **** in front of her to embarrass him. Give him a ‘wtf’ type of look and tell him that he always acts like that in front of her. He’s trying to ruin your set, you gotta ruin his. Fire with fire. I mean your reaction really should be based off context but I don’t fully know each situation you’ve had nor what the next one will be.

 

[Ryan Adams]

everyone knows he ****blocks any chance he gets. I think he's a borderline sociopath... funny thing and here's the real kicker....hes my boss

 

[sosousage]

everyone knows he ****blocks any chance he gets. I think he's a borderline sociopath... funny thing and here's the real kicker....hes my boss

sue him for mobbing and tell the girl to sue him for sexual harassment


jk of course


change job or stop hanging with your boss

 

[Ryan Adams]

like I said he hangs around the only bars,gym, restaurants in the area and is good friends with my friends I can't get rid of him completely

 

[devilkingx2]

my "friend" every chance he gets tries to get with . my "girl" were not dating be me and and her are talking you could say.

Unless you've established dibs she's fair game. She's also fair game to anyone who isn't close enough to you to know about or respect your dibs.

but like say if were sitting at a table and i get up he will talk sh!t about me just to make himself look better. he'll try everything in his power to make her like him try to dance with her. if im telling a joke he'll be like that wasn't funny etc etc. for literally no reason lol other then I think he's jealous.

God damn that's pathetic. He's no friend of yours so stop calling him that, furthermore you don't have to do anything

He's making a total fool of himself and definitely not gonna get her ever.

He's not gonna make you look bad if she's interested unless he makes up something insane AND she's gullible (like if he claims you're a woman beater or that your parents were twin siblings or something)

A non dumb woman won't believe obvious nonsense without proof, and an interested woman wouldn't be discouraged by some random's opinion of you if she has seen positive things.

thing is he makes great money has a big house etc so idk why he would be jealous. how do I deal with this?

Does he get girls? Probably not with game like that. Perhaps he's mad you keep smashing hotties

 

[Ryan Adams]

he gets fat white trashy girls. I've never see him pull a cutie at all.

 

[Von]

everyone knows he ****blocks any chance he gets. I think he's a borderline sociopath... funny thing and here's the real kicker....hes my boss

Sounds you need to get new friends and a new boss.

You need to pick up some confidence.

The guy doesn't care about you, he's gonna use you, and he's gonna get laid instead of you. Why?

Cause he doesnt care about you, or others... he cares about what he want.. And he act on it.

He's toxic. Never play his game. If girls ask about him say: "I thought he had a girlfriend"

Time to erase him of your social life. Confine him to work only.... And get a better job

 

[derby1]

hes doing this because he thinks you are below him

either he thinks you are weaker mentally/physically

or he is coming from/using his place of power (boss), knowing you wont quit

you must not get drawn into an argument over this "girl" , women love 2 men arguing over them

you currently lack self respect, people only treat you how you ALLOW them to treat you, i understand the spanner of him being your Boss

you can ignore reality! But you cant ignore the consequences of reality!

you need to remove this dck head from your life

 

[Glassguy]

I am going to be direct and honest. Your posts stink of either trolling or no fvcking common sense. Or both.

I know absolutely nobody in life that would have to ask what to do with someone who acted like this to them as a friend.

You remind me of someone who falls head over hills with a different chick every few weeks and dates none of them.

 

[Ryan Adams]

hes doing this because he thinks you are below him

either he thinks you are weaker mentally/physically

or he is coming from/using his place of power (boss), knowing you wont quit

you must not get drawn into an argument over this "girl" , women love 2 men arguing over them

you currently lack self respect, people only treat you how you ALLOW them to treat you, i understand the spanner of him being your Boss

you can ignore reality! But you cant ignore the consequences of reality!

you need to remove this dck head from your life

he treats everyone like this not just me and I have tremendous self respect seriously he just is literally a sociopath.

 

[Ryan Adams]

I am going to be direct and honest. Your posts stink of either trolling or no fvcking common sense. Or both.

I know absolutely nobody in life that would have to ask what to do with someone who acted like this to them as a friend.

You remind me of someone who falls head over hills with a different chick every few weeks and dates none of them.

definitely not a troll. he does this with everyone. he's my BOSS at the moment and everyyyywhere I'll go out sooner or later he will be there I wanna k ow how to handle the situation when he's there. I've already cut him out of my social circle. me and him is a work relationship only. but hes like cancer on my life cant get rid of him. he literally persuaded someone that's never met me to hate me. but he's slick about what he does he does it in a manner in which he can talk his way out of why he did what he did.... hea a smart and successful business man. absolutly terrible person

once I get a new job he's outed from my life completely mark my words right now Its very hard to avoid him

 

[derby1]

ill repeat my words people treat you how YOU ALLOW them to TREAT YOU

much like a child treats its idiot parents if it knows it can get away with ****

 

[Ryan Adams]

If this guy is such a scum bag, why hasn’t anyone put this guy in his place?

Your friend with the sister should’ve broke his jaw and torched his car or something

‘This is a easy fix really. You just gotta have the balls to do something about him. Once you do I gaurentte you he won’t show his face around anymore

my friend whose sister he banged is a pretty aggressive guy. he called him out and dave who is also a big guy talked his way out of hetting his ass beat somehow. he's very cunning and savvy with his words he twist everything around to make it seem like it wasn't his fault as if he was a victim of the circumstance. he's amazing at doing it

 

[Ryan Adams]

I agree. that same guy whose sister he banged is now in a band with him.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I had a ‘friend’ like this once. Needless to say, we aren’t friends anymore. He doesn’t do any backstabbing crap to me anymore because now I’ll fire back. Not gonna take that crap. Best thing to do is to avoid these types of fake phony ****ers. If you can’t, call him out on his **** in front of her to embarrass him. Give him a ‘wtf’ type of look and tell him that he always acts like that in front of her. He’s trying to ruin your set, you gotta ruin his. Fire with fire. I mean your reaction really should be based off context but I don’t fully know each situation you’ve had nor what the next one will be.

They won't only backstab or disrespect you behind women. Release. It's not a friend.

 

[Bible_Belt]

like say if were sitting at a table and i get up he will talk sh!t about me just to make himself look better. he'll try everything in his power to make her like him try to dance with her. if im telling a joke he'll be like that wasn't funny etc etc. for literally no reason lol other then I think he's jealous.

I would call him out on it the instant it happened, and do it in front of the girl. After he does something ridiculous, turn to her and say, "awww! That's cute. He's showing off - he must like you!" And do it with a legit smile, act like you are encouraging the girl to appreciate the gesture. Then watch as his market value takes a nose-dive.

And that ties in to a larger idea, if your attitude in these situations is always "fine, you can have the b!tch if you want her that much," then the woman will never go with him. It is evolutionary psychology at work. The harder he tries, the less his value must be. That's why he never gets attractive women.