The NATURAL process

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

The whole thing about talking to chicks isn’t something that should be a forced and mechanical process. It should be NATURAL. As in, you shouldn’t have to think about doing it, it should just happen. Think about all of your parents/grandparents and ask them how they got married in the first place. Most of the time they won’t go into any real explicit details because it was just one of those things where it just happened. Think of your oldest or best mate. How the heck did you guys even really become friends in the first place? You likely don’t remember all that much how. It probably just sorta happened. Well that’s how it should be with women. The hard part is getting to that point. All you need to do is be at a higher energy level and don’t be lazy. Just out and about your day, go talk to someone or make a comment about something. The thing about this is that you shouldn’t be selective with this about women, you just do it upon all social contexts. More friends means more social proof which means easier access to women and opportunities. Get a side job as a waiter or fruit stacker or whatever just so that you are forced to talk to people. It’s a good skill to have. A lot of people on here talk about cold approach and I felt like I hadn’t actually ever really approached anyone before. The thing that got me though isn’t that I never did, it’s just that I didn’t REALIZE that I did. Why? It just felt NATURAL to do, like something that just made sense for me to do and would be WEIRD or CREEPY if I DIDN’T. The opposite of what most of you guys are worried about. It’s just because it was congruent with who I was, and I didn’t really think about doing it either. I just sorta did it.

It shouldn’t be that big a struggle, it should be a NATURAL process. Don’t sweat the small stuff either. If someone ignores you, maybe they were just having a bad day, or maybe they’re just an assh0le. It’s not a big deal really. And remember:

Just have fun with it. It’s called ‘game’ for a reason

 

[Macaframalama]

I completely agree and it's such a simple, quick and easy fix. It's really as simple as getting out of the house, being aware of people and your surroundings and opening your mouth and talking to everyone. Not just women you want to pull, but everyone. I've opened everyone from little 'ol ladies, while we were both mulling over yellow vs white onions at the grocery store, got schooled on which was the best for what and shared recipes, closed hot chicks that I approached by commenting on a band tee they were wearing, hairstyles, outfits, the weather. Got fresh insight and perspective from old war vets and farmers, etc. Everyone has a story to tell and most, usually enjoy telling it. All it takes is a willingness to listen.

 

[skinnyguy]

True. However, a lot of guys are frightened to talk to women based on past experiences. They will try to talk to a woman and just get her b*tch shield (which a lot of hot ones have these days) and they don’t want to settle for the fat single mom.

The number of orbiters also complicates the process. In the 1970s women didn’t have so many orbiters because there was no Instagram.

The best way is to pull women from social circle but a lot of guys on SS are isolated and starting from scratch because they never got laid as a teenager. They have to work a LOT harder than the guy who gets girls based on looks alone

 

[Macaframalama]

However, a lot of guys are frightened to talk to women based on past experiences.

That's why talking to everyone is a primer of sorts and allows you to exercise and hone your social skills. When you do run across women you are attracted to, you will see they are just another person like anyone else and you will have put in the time with people, that approaching attractive women will be just another approach.

They will try to talk to a woman and just get her b*tch shield (which a lot of hot ones have these days) and they don’t want to settle for the fat single mom.

So. Next.

The number of orbiters also complicates the process. In the 1970s women didn’t have so many orbiters because there was no Instagram.

So. Don't orbit.

The best way is to pull women from social circle but a lot of guys on SS are isolated and starting from scratch because they never got laid as a teenager.

You've got to get out and talk to people to build or get into a social circle.

They have to work a LOT harder than the guy who gets girls based on looks alone

It's really not that hard at all. Anyone who tells you different is trying to sell you something. All these circumstances you've just listed seem like excuses that really hold no validity.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

True. However, a lot of guys are frightened to talk to women based on past experiences. They will try to talk to a woman and just get her b*tch shield (which a lot of hot ones have these days) and they don’t want to settle for the fat single mom.

The number of orbiters also complicates the process. In the 1970s women didn’t have so many orbiters because there was no Instagram.

The best way is to pull women from social circle but a lot of guys on SS are isolated and starting from scratch because they never got laid as a teenager. They have to work a LOT harder than the guy who gets girls based on looks alone

Yeah that’s true. But those are just the assh0les I was mentioning earlier. Those people are weirdos anyway half the time so it doesn’t really matter. Just knowing how to do all this is important.

With women, they are just an extension of your social skills/life. They are not the main element in it.

 

[MoreThanSmooth]

I completely agree and it's such a simple, quick and easy fix. It's really as simple as getting out of the house, being aware of people and your surroundings and opening your mouth and talking to everyone. Not just women you want to pull, but everyone. I've opened everyone from little 'ol ladies, while we were both mulling over yellow vs white onions at the grocery store, got schooled on which was the best for what and shared recipes, closed hot chicks that I approached by commenting on a band tee they were wearing, hairstyles, outfits, the weather. Got fresh insight and perspective from old war vets and farmers, etc. Everyone has a story to tell and most, usually enjoy telling it. All it takes is a willingness to listen.

Great advice dude. Though I do find usually I open with a friendly greeting, have about 3 lines of conversation and then realise my social fuel tank is suddenly empty.

Practice makes perfect I guess.

 

[RangerMIke]

@Macaframalama is correct. Conversation is easy if a chick likes you. If you find yourself in a situation where you are trying too hard to keep a conversation going, the chick is NOT interested and you should just move on. Never forget chicks that like you will make things easy... chicks that don't will make things harder.

 

[Macaframalama]

Great advice dude. Though I do find usually I open with a friendly greeting, have about 3 lines of conversation and then realise my social fuel tank is suddenly empty.

Practice makes perfect I guess.

What RangerMike said. Some ppl will be more receptive than others and pull their weight to keep the conversation going and some won't be in the mood. The main thing is awareness. Use your senses.