I have this friend who I have no interest in dating frankly because I think she’s not gf material. Very materialistic and I think she’s stubborn. We don’t hang out too often. Here and there usually with other friends however if we’re ever out drinking I find myself flirting with her. She reciprocates Complimenting me on my looks, touching my arms (I workout). However nothing comes from it. I’d like for something to happen but how in the world should I approach this? I feel there’s mutual interest there but I dobut it’s as easy as just being candid with her asking to be friends with benefits. What do you guys think?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Dealing With Hot Female Friend
- Thread starter jaymbrs
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thatfeel21
Senior Don Juan
Hit her up on some fluff talk randomly one day, then casually invite her out 1 on 1. NO friends. Escalate from there. Who knows, she could be an undercover f buddy.
Isolate. Got it. However it’s the getting her 1 on 1 that I’m wondering about. Because I have tried once or twice already. The last time I actually THOUGHT it was a one on one thing and as I’m waiting at the bar and grill she texts to get a table for 5. I was taken aback by that.
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What’s this table for 5 crap? Was your stable of observers increasing from just a female roommate?
Something very wrong with the way you’re operating here. Grow a pair and text back that you only asked ‘her’ out.
I assume you’re a man, so Lead…
If you don’t you’re only a doormat.
Something very wrong with the way you’re operating here. Grow a pair and text back that you only asked ‘her’ out.
I assume you’re a man, so Lead…
If you don’t you’re only a doormat.
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Haha. Na different girl, different situation. With that said, the other 3 people who went were 2 mutual friends and another person. Can’t exactly tell her no when I know them too.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Yes you can. Introduce the word No to your vocabulary.
Not in that situation. She did it to where I had already gotten ready and was on the way. I wasn’t about to cancel just because more people were going. You saying me telling her no would’ve benefited me? I think it would’ve made me look like a cry baby beta.
I hear what you’re saying though. And I appreciate your feedback. But maybe in a different situation.
Continue your life as a doormat then, but don’t whine about your no sex results on a mens forum.
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