How do most of you dump women?

[Urbanyst]

When you have a plate that you're done banging out because she is getting too possessive, how do you usually end things?

Most women don't take rejection well so I usually just stop doing work and stop planning dates. But things can drag on for a long time before a girl finally takes the hint and goes away. I don't do ghosting because its kind of cruel and it causes drama anyway.

What do most of you do when you want to make them go away fast without a lot of drama?

 

[Glassguy]

It really depends. I am the guy who tries not to burn bridges that may be able to be crossed again later.

Generally, unless she has done something drastic, I will just let it die a slow death. My texts get shorter, longer time in between responses. I dont really try to do it that way as I have just naturally shifted that attention to another chick. I dont ignore them, but I give them no more physical compliments, no more sexual innuendos, sexting, etc. Nothing to imply that I am being interested in them, just being friendly. Most of them check in from time to time and put their feelers out. If I need to add another plate I can use them reaching out to do so. If I am still not interested in them anymore sexually, I keep it on a civil/friendly response.

If the woman does something drastic to make me want to cut her off, its permanent ghosting after I tell her "I dont feel like this is gonna work out...take care hun" or "I dont see us being a good fit after all and we need to go different directions. Good luck and take care".

Then its ghost (block, delete, etc).

 

[Urbanyst]

It really depends. I am the guy who tries not to burn bridges that may be able to be crossed again later.

Generally, unless she has done something drastic, I will just let it die a slow death. My texts get shorter, longer time in between responses. I dont really try to do it that way as I have just naturally shifted that attention to another chick. I dont ignore them, but I give them no more physical compliments, no more sexual innuendos, sexting, etc. Nothing to imply that I am being interested in them, just being friendly. Most of them check in from time to time and put their feelers out. If I need to add another plate I can use them reaching out to do so. If I am still not interested in them anymore sexually, I keep it on a civil/friendly response.

If the woman does something drastic to make me want to cut her off, its permanent ghosting after I tell her "I dont feel like this is gonna work out...take care hun" or "I dont see us being a good fit after all and we need to go different directions. Good luck and take care".

Then its ghost (block, delete, etc).

Good stuff. Thanks bro.

Yeah, so I've already started the process of a slow death. I've completely eliminated flirting and compliments and I'm just doing basic friendliness. I guess I'll just wait until she asks me a direct question about the relationship. At which point I will tell her I just want to be friends or something like that. Easy let down. Its hard with this one because she is very nice and hasn't given me any headaches or drama. Its just that she wants to get serious and I'm not that into her. I want to jump ship before she tries to give the relationship a title or tries to introduce me to family members.

Problem is I feel that I'm wasting both her time and mine by dragging out the end. But at the same time.. if she can't take the hint she is wasting her own time lol.

 

[RangerMIke]

The truth is that chicks usually get tired of me before I get tired of them. Many do not like just being another chick you are fvcking, once they figure out I'm not going to commit, then they just latch onto the next dude that comes along. I've been around the block a few times and I know right away when a chick is going to be a problem during the first couple of dates. If I get a psycho vibe, I just don't ask them out anymore. I'm sure I've passed on some chicks that were perfectly fine, but when you have the attitude that they are all the same, you'll let them go and just ride the next train that comes along.

But when you have to part ways, it's always best to set aside some time, an hour or so and just pull the trigger. She is going to vent and be ticked off or cry, you just have to stick to your guns. When she says "just leave", then you know you are done. You have to let her vent... otherwise she's going to be coming back for 'closure', also get all your sh!t if she has it that day... if you forgot something, just write it off. If you have her sh!t... well put it in a box and set it aside. Before you leave give her a time and date that she can get her stuff... this should happen only ONCE.

 

[Glassguy]

Good stuff. Thanks bro.

Yeah, so I've already started the process of a slow death. I've completely eliminated flirting and compliments and I'm just doing basic friendliness. I guess I'll just wait until she asks me a direct question about the relationship. At which point I will tell her I just want to be friends or something like that. Easy let down. Its hard with this one because she is very nice and hasn't given me any headaches or drama. Its just that she wants to get serious and I'm not that into her. I want to jump ship before she tries to give the relationship a title or tries to introduce me to family members.

Problem is I feel that I'm wasting both her time and mine by dragging out the end. But at the same time.. if she can't take the hint she is wasting her own time lol.

I never use the "lets just be friends" because they will throw that up in your face if you try to hit it again later down the road.

I just tell them that I am "super busy" and that a serious relationship RIGHT NOW wouldnt be fair to either of us due to my schedule in life.

The truth is that chicks usually get tired of me before I get tired of them. Many do not like just being another chick you are fvcking, once they figure out I'm not going to commit, then they just latch onto the next dude that comes along. I've been around the block a few times and I know right away when a chick is going to be a problem during the first couple of dates. If I get a psycho vibe, I just don't ask them out anymore. I'm sure I've passed on some chicks that were perfectly fine, but when you have the attitude that they are all the same, you'll let them go and just ride the next train that comes along.

But when you have to part ways, it's always best to set aside some time, an hour or so and just pull the trigger. She is going to vent and be ticked off or cry, you just have to stick to your guns. When she says "just leave", then you know you are done. You have to let her vent... otherwise she's going to be coming back for 'closure', also get all your sh!t if she has it that day... if you forgot something, just write it off. If you have her sh!t... well put it in a box and set it aside. Before you leave give her a time and date that she can get her stuff... this should happen only ONCE.

If I am truly done, I really dont give 2 shytes about her closure. And I dont know when the last time I ended with a chick face to face. I just do it over text if they have done something that drastic that I need to physically tell them.

 

[Bible_Belt]

Good point about the stuff. Always travel light when hanging out a lot at a woman's place, so you can take everything with you when you leave.

And if you are ever in an LTR with a woman and you get a dog together, she will take the dog with her when she leaves. Count on it.

 

[Glassguy]

Good point about the stuff. Always travel light when hanging out a lot at a woman's place, so you can take everything with you when you leave.

And if you are ever in an LTR with a woman and you get a dog together, she will take the dog with her when she leaves. Count on it.

Allow me to blow you mind on that one @Bible_Belt

When I got divorced nearly 5 years ago, we were sitting in my attorney's office going through the separation agreement. She wanted this, I wanted that.....they typical bartering. We didnt argue about financial accounts, the house, cars, boat, my hunting property.....nothing.

Then came the dog.

She wanted him, I wanted him. She actually wanted to have either weekly or biweekly visitation with the dog in our divorce decree. I wanted done with the b!tch as soon as the ink dried, no future ties to her at all. So I told her absolutely not.....

My attorney (we used mine only since we were able to agree on everything and get a dissolution instead of actual divorce) reminded her that if there was ANYTHING that was unsettled on the separation agreement/divorce decree pertaining to personal property, we would have to stop and she would have to hire her own attorney and we would need to enter an actual divorce.

I would say that as I am at work typing this right now, my dog....that dog.....is at my house taking a nice little nap.

I won lol.

My last LTR of 3 yrs (After I divorced) and I bought a dog ($1200 mini hippo breed). She kept that dog. I didnt care too much for it anyways lol.

 

[Urbanyst]

I just tell them that I am "super busy" and that a serious relationship RIGHT NOW wouldnt be fair to either of us due to my schedule in life.

I like this one a lot.

Basically just a fancy "Its not you, its me" lol.

 

[Macaframalama]

Good stuff. Thanks bro.

Yeah, so I've already started the process of a slow death. I've completely eliminated flirting and compliments and I'm just doing basic friendliness. I guess I'll just wait until she asks me a direct question about the relationship. At which point I will tell her I just want to be friends or something like that. Easy let down. Its hard with this one because she is very nice and hasn't given me any headaches or drama. Its just that she wants to get serious and I'm not that into her. I want to jump ship before she tries to give the relationship a title or tries to introduce me to family members.

Problem is I feel that I'm wasting both her time and mine by dragging out the end. But at the same time.. if she can't take the hint she is wasting her own time lol.

Why not just save yourself the headache and time and express to her exactly what you want from her (if you do at all) and that her possessiveness is getting on your nerves? Best case scenario, she complies. Worst case scenario, she doesn't. Sounds like you wouldn't care anyways. Either way, you've handled it like a man. I know you are trying to be respectful and considerate of her feelings, but beating around the bush ain't it and it won't be perceived by her that way either. If there's a possibility, that you might want to fvck her in the future, at least respect will be preserved. Beating around the bush will be perceived as game playing and good luck getting that taste out of her mouth.

 

[Mazer]

I never use the "lets just be friends" because they will throw that up in your face if you try to hit it again later down the road.

I just tell them that I am "super busy" and that a serious relationship RIGHT NOW wouldnt be fair to either of us due to my schedule in life.



If I am truly done, I really dont give 2 shytes about her closure. And I dont know when the last time I ended with a chick face to face. I just do it over text if they have done something that drastic that I need to physically tell them.

Good stuff! Thats why its critical you don't show her you are easily available from the get-go. The woman will then see your excuse as a valid one. If you are hitting her up every single day and then you drop that on her, she is going to think your full of ****.