"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Is Instagram Detrimental to a DJ's Mentality

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Being somewhat of an exhibitionist and having what I would call a healthy level of vanity, I like to post pics of my life and of course the hot woman I am with... but my instinct smells a lot of appetite for validation in this drive. I also notice that the most independent alphas I know (the guys I would consider have the most "fun") often don't even have a facebook or instagram.

Do you gentlemen think that it's wiser to avoid creating your own image through social media like this and just have life that's cool enough to make it on everyone else's or am I overthinking it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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good IG and FB boost things on OLD a lot.


+ you can connect with people from parties/meetings more. leading to more parties = more chicks.


I dont know why but when women see a guy that they perceive HQ because of his rich FB/IG profile they want to be a part of it.
 
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Unfortunately, I can't use social media under my real name. Perhaps I could try with a fake name. But I also have no interesting stuff to put on it. I don't think anybody wants to watch me flip houses on Instagram?
 

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Hell yea they do... just jump on a girl's pinterest and take note of all the "dreamhouse" shots she hoards... play those cards well and you have some serious chick soft-core on your hands.
 

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To each there own, I'm personally not a fan of social media, having used it frequently in the past!

High social media use is associated with anxiety & depression etc.

If I was using OLD I could really see the benefits, as mentioned above.

I would rather be 'mindful' & aware of the present situation than be engrossed in my phone or be thinking 'Oh, this would look good on my IG story.'
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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To each there own, I'm personally not a fan of social media, having used it frequently in the past!

High social media use is associated with anxiety & depression etc.

If I was using OLD I could really see the benefits, as mentioned above.

I would rather be 'mindful' & aware of the present situation than be engrossed in my phone or be thinking 'Oh, this would look good on my IG story.'
To be honest half of chicks that i have conversations with on OLD start ignoring me after I tell them I dont have FB.


To one I even said "I dont have fb if thats problem for you then Its okay" she said no its just social media.

then she asked me about fb 3 times more and ignored afterwards. she wasnt even beautiful. power of fb
 

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To be honest half of chicks that i have conversations with on OLD start ignoring me after I tell them I dont have FB.


To one I even said "I dont have fb if thats problem for you then Its okay" she said no its just social media.

then she asked me about fb 3 times more and ignored afterwards. she wasnt even beautiful. power of fb
possible she though you would be lying, and that is teh problem when you don't use or don't care much, I do have FB but I read most then I use for photos I don't upload any of my photos since I don't like then, I did upload one photo I had skydiving and let it there anything else I just get marked if a female or a friend did take a photo don't are either way
 

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No way in hell I will share my FB with some random slut online.
 

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Social media, sh!t the entire internet is going to exit the novelty phase soon enough. Sure it's a great innovation, one of mankind's greatest achievements. But it will become like having a car, or house or smart phone - it gives you a certain level of proof and validation; but essentially, it's just a really useful tool.

Honestly, really honestly, the thing that has attracted the most women, the most quality women, is my personality. I went on date four with my little Spanish friend at the weekend and ended up sealing the deal, like all night and again in the morning, several times. You know she said to me, " I had such a great time on our first date. You made me laugh so much. "

Other than messaging on whatsapp, the internet has played absolutely no part in our connection so far. Personality counts for far more than anything that you think you can prove with pretty pictures.
 
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Social media, sh!t the entire internet is going to exit the novelty phase soon enough. Sure it's a great innovation, one of mankind's greatest achievements. But it will become like having a car, or house or smart phone - it gives you a certain level of proof and validation; but essentially, it's just a really useful tool.

Honestly, really honestly, the thing that has attracted the most women, the most quality women, is my personality. I went on date four with my little Spanish friend at the weekend and ended up sealing the deal, like all night and again in the morning, several times. You know she said to me, " I had such a great time on our first date. You made me laugh so much. "

Other than messaging on whatsapp, the internet has played absolutely no part in our connection so far. Personality counts for far more than anything that you think you can prove with pretty pictures.
What about your personality attracts them?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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What about your personality attracts them?
-A playful sense of humour.
-Developing 'in-jokes' and nicknames.
-Teasing and self deprecation.
-Not taking them, myself, the situation or life in general too seriously.
-Paying interest in them and listening closely to what they're saying.
 
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-A playful sense of humour.
-Developing 'in-jokes' and nicknames.
-Teasing and self deprecation.
-Not taking them, myself, the situation or life in general too seriously.
-Paying interest in them and listening closely to what they're saying.
I don't think that's my style.

As much as some would like to think otherwise, a personality is pretty hard to change.
 

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I don't think that's my style.

As much as some would like to think otherwise, a personality is pretty hard to change.
Our outlook on life facilitates our personality and vice versa, until the point that they begin to perpetuate each other. So no, you can't change your personality without changing your outlook.
 
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