"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do YOU get girls to want to invest in you without money?

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I still don't know if money is taking the easy way out, or if that's just what girls like.

But I was out last night, and it was a small place, but the hottest girl there (not very hot) was with a guy with large muscles and tattoos. I've been to prison, so I could tell he was no tough guy but perhaps he gave off enough of that vibe for it to count? Idk.

But anyway, how do YOU get women to want to be part of your life/you be part of theirs without paying them?

I feel like I have lots to offer besides money, but it's just not recognized or cared about.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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These days you need MONEY if you want consistent long-term success.

You can pull young HOT women with tattoos, a prison record, and just being good looking. But you can also pull equally young and equally HOT (and usually classier) women with MONEY. Which one is easier in your eyes?

MONEY not only gets you attractive women, but it also gets you just about everything else that matters for a comfortable life lol.

Soo... get over it?
 
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These days you need MONEY if you want consistent long-term success.

You can pull young HOT women with tattoos, a prison record, and just being good looking. But you can also pull equally young and equally HOT (and usually classier) women with MONEY. Which one is easier in your eyes?

MONEY not only gets you attractive women, but it also gets you just about everything else that matters for a comfortable life lol.

Soo... get over it?
If I wanted to go that route, then why pay just one girl? It makes no sense to be monogamous. But eventually, the girls will find guys who will be monogamous with them.

I'm not good looking or handsome enough to be their stud on the side.
 

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If I wanted to go that route, then why pay just one girl? It makes no sense to be monogamous. But eventually, the girls will find guys who will be monogamous with them.

I'm not good looking or handsome enough to be their stud on the side.
Why be monogamous in general?

Unless you have kids or you are old as sh*t there is really no good reason lol.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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You keep asking the same questions. I was anti-social, socially inept maybe still am, but I made great progress after trying to utilize everything given to me on this site. You have to make yourself interesting, don't give away too much of your self, be confident, observant, and don't overthink everything.
 

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richard and his permanent fight money vs muscles.

you surely need both. I often ask women if they look for a rich guy and thats the moment they start thinking im poor or decent which causes lower interest level however you dont need to be rich to pick girls. unless you want 10/10 girl, but I wouldnt like, they have too many options

You keep asking the same questions. I was anti-social, socially inept maybe still am, but I made great progress after trying to utilize everything given to me on this site. You have to make yourself interesting, don't give away too much of your self, be confident, observant, and don't overthink everything.
tbh its all about your first date. you can be a boring creep but if you can fake being interesting person and having funny conversation then if your first date goes good she will be the inviting you for next (assuming you are not ugly)
 

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You keep asking the same questions. I was anti-social, socially inept maybe still am, but I made great progress after trying to utilize everything given to me on this site. You have to make yourself interesting, don't give away too much of your self, be confident, observant, and don't overthink everything.
Yes.

And its also good to have a great circle of male friends. Having other guys to bounce that masculine energy off helps with your mojo.

Guys who spend too much time away from their male friends turn into p*ssies very often. I think its why women like to keep their men away from their friends lol. She knows you are easier to mold when you are surrounded by female energy.
 

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But anyway, how do YOU get women to want to be part of your life/you be part of theirs without paying them?
I just take them out and enjoy their company. My question would be the opposite: How do you get a girl to go out with you by paying them? Do you say "Hey, I'll give you five bucks if you go out with me"? Or whatever the going rate is. As for professionals, to be honest, I'm not even sure where I would find a hooker. I'd have to look into it.
 
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I just take them out and enjoy their company. My question would be the opposite: How do you get a girl to go out with you by paying them? Do you say "Hey, I'll give you five bucks if you go out with me"? Or whatever the going rate is. As for professionals, to be honest, I'm not even sure where I would find a hooker. I'd have to look into it.
Okay then how do you get them to go out with you?

I don't really go on dates.

I don't really have a personality that attracts anyone.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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You don’t have any special talents that attract women. If you did stand up comedy, singing, dancing, you’d pull without trying. Talentless guys pull, but that’s after using up a lot of energy working out, using game, and dressing well.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You don’t have any special talents that attract women. If you did stand up comedy, singing, dancing, you’d pull without trying. Talentless guys pull, but that’s after using up a lot of energy working out, using game, and dressing well.
I suppose that's one way to go.

Flipping houses by myself is impressive, most likely more impressive than anything they do.

My bionic d1ck is pretty cool.

Very few people do those 3 items that you listed. It's not the only way. Plus, I would think being rich is more impressive, anyway.
 

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2-3 days where?

I'm not in school any more. I don't have people all around me.
You meet a chick at the mall/park anywhere lol. Like I said before, here's a conversation opener, "I like your shoes/bracelet/jacket (be observant). I have to buy a friend a Christmas gift, where did you buy your shoes from?" and lead on from there. After 10 minutes, make up something like, "I actually have to go to this meeting, I'll send you a text whats your number." Then build rapport over text but don't be a texting buddy.
 
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You meet a chick at the mall/park anywhere lol. Like I said before, here's a conversation opener, "I like your shoes. I have to buy a friend a Christmas gift, where did you buy your shoes from?" and lead on from there. After 10 minutes, make up something like, "I actually have to go to this meeting, I'll send you a text whats your number." Then build rapport over text but don't be a texting buddy.
Meeting someone at the mall or "park"(?) is not reality. In this day and age, nobody wants to meet weird strangers at the mall or park.

Also, "10 minutes of conversation," would be about the longest conversation I've had in the past 10 years.

The place to meet girls, in my opinion, is where girls go to be met. So, you could replace "mall" with "bar."
 

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Meeting someone at the mall or "park"(?) is not reality. In this day and age, nobody wants to meet weird strangers at the mall or park.

Also, "10 minutes of conversation," would be about the longest conversation I've had in the past 10 years.

The place to meet girls, in my opinion, is where girls go to be met. So, you could replace "mall" with "bar."
Ok you make it 5 minutes. People still do cold approaches at the mall.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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