"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Plates messaging me

doctor1996

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I got one of my plates messaging me. She's really into me. But I don't want her that bad. How do I cut contact? Or should I just keep her as a back-burner? Opinions? I could probably get with her when she gets back in town, but I can do better than her. Shes around a 7
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Fzatf

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I got one of my plates messaging me. She's really into me. But I don't want her that bad. How do I cut contact? Or should I just keep her as a back-burner? Opinions? I could probably get with her when she gets back in town, but I can do better than her. Shes around a 7
Depending on your number of options it doesn't hurt to keep an extra one connected with a little effort. I'd keep her around unless you're swimming in too many plates to handle.
 

Macaframalama

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What use could she be to you? Of what use could you be to her? Besides sex, which you're unsure that you want. You don't have to be dishonest about that and shouldn't. Does she have hot friends in her circle? Does one of your friends find the 7 attractive? Schedule a small group get-together, between her friends and yours. At the very least, you will get some much needed practice in social interaction with the opposite sex and a break from the books.
 
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