Noticing alot of women around 40 have this tendency towards aggression. My buddies wife acts like shes constantly pissed off literally all the time. Is this becoming more of a thing now?
Just masked insecurity and unhappiness. Women have been sold hook line and sinker on this idea that they are the more dominate gender. But the reality is that they aren't comfortable with that and the long term result is a society of pathetic weak men and a bunch of p*ssed off entitled women. What's scary is that we've gotten to a point in our society where this type of thing is enforced in court and HR offices all across the country. This idea of equality (feminism) between the sexes has permeated our culture to the point where as men we are handcuffed with just so much that we're able to do to try and fix things. It's pretty bad situation TBH.
When I see a woman behaving in the way that the OP describes, I can do nothing but shake my head. They are attempting to alleviate these feelings of DEEP disappointment and unhappiness by acting out and being difficult, being aggressive, bossy, entitled, etc. They just weren't meant for this, they weren't designed to carry this burden. But how do you convince someone who's been brainwashed otherwise? Well, all you can do is interact with them authentically and those who choose to enter your frame and be SOOTHED by your masculine, authentic energy - that's great. You continue to see them and interact with them.
It's very important though, and this has been touched upon directly by
@Atom Smasher , that your masculine frame is 100% authentic. Because you're essentially in a position of great power and responsibility. Think of those brainwashed by feminism as being those shackled in Aristotle's allegory of the cave. You can convince them and give them hope but the second they question you and your belief in what you're doing they will react like a wild animal. This is what you're dealing with with today's woman. She desperately wants a real man but she is also testing and trying to authenticate that with all her might and fury because she has been brain washed so heavily by our society.
The most important thing, however, is that YOU CANNOT save anyone. The stakes are simply too high and their is too much to lose to try to attempt to save someone, especially a woman, from today's social reality. All you can do is be authentic and happily lead those who wish to follow until the day comes that they no longer want to.