"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Forget about women, until you have frame.

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Develop the frame, until then... IDGAF attitude will suffice. :cool:

Yep, no worries there, this place is crawling with hot chicks...work has me interacting with them daily. They go gaga for the IDGAF!!!:p
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yep, no worries there, this place is crawling with hot chicks...work has me interacting with them daily. They go gaga for the IDGAF!!!:p
It's her birthday? Too bad. Happy birthday, to the ground!
 

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BTW off topic a quick share on how I bought my tennis racket because it's a process I constantly apply.

1. Know the specific requirements you have. In other words how will this product progress your goals. In my case I wanted an oversized racquet that would help with my crappy net game and make it a tiny bit easier to reach shots out wide. I also wanted a flexible frame that would absorb some of the shock and so protect against elbow and shoulder injury.

2. Use the wisdom of the crowd. I e know your information sources. I jumped on a couple of older guys tennis blogs and worked out what characteristics I wanted in a racket. I then jumped on it a couple of racket threads on Tennis Warehouse.com to read opinions on racquets people have bought recently and make sure I wouldn't make any horrible mistake. That scared me away from the Babolat Pure strike racket because people were reporting a lot of tennis elbow problems.

3. Look at your sourcing options. I checked the two best local racket websites because if they hold stock I could get it in store immediately. I found they didn't have exactly what I want so I found an eBay seller at a good price point and reputation.

4. Stick to your time box and let it go. A new tennis racquet is not a big commitment. It's not like buying a car however the wrong racket can lead to injury so it's not a trivial decision either. So the value to me of getting the product was about an hour of my time. So I bought the eBay racquet. By letting it go I mean stick to your time box and once the decision is processed forget about it. I was tempted to go look at some rackets in store the next day. No I had set a 1 hour time box. Committing to that is far more important than any individual decision. The cost was under $200 and it would have some resale value so no reason to spend more time on the decision.

You can also of course apply this to girls. A new girl doesn't have much value so don't spend much time on her. The girlfriend will impact your life more so do your research - look for the good qualities and the red flags.
 
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This is just a question of working on inner game first or outer game. Which one you choose to do is dependent on your preference. The idea of ‘fake it till you make it’ is basically outer to inner. The slow & steady progress over time that is secure in itself is inner to outer. The thing is, inner game will begin to manifest itself as outer game sooner or later regardless of what you do. I find that the hottest/most popular women (9+) are able to read you better than other women (1 - 8) and those ones are so used to the fake alphas, ones who have only tried to work on the outer part but have no substance or foundation on the inside. That’s why you can see some smoking hot babes with average or even almost ugly guys. The only problem with inner to outer is that you need to make it a habit of actually talking to women once you have your inner game set or else the outer game will never develop.
Inner always trumps outer, just as reason does experience. But progress lies in the synthesis of the two. So one develops a hypothesis and then tests it in the world. He then fine tunes it. If one just did outer game... that would just be like complete immersion in the whirlwind of random observations. Transcendence is the key.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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BTW off topic a quick share on how I bought my tennis racket because it's a process I constantly apply.

1. Know the specific requirements you have. In other words how will this product progress your goals. In my case I wanted an oversized racquet that would help with my crappy net game and make it a tiny bit easier to reach shots out wide. I also wanted a flexible frame that would absorb some of the shock and so protect against elbow and shoulder injury.

2. Use the wisdom of the crowd. I e know your information sources. I jumped on a couple of older guys tennis blogs and worked out what characteristics I wanted in a racket. I then jumped on it a couple of racket threads on Tennis Warehouse.com to read opinions on racquets people have bought recently and make sure I wouldn't make any horrible mistake. That scared me away from the Babolat Pure strike racket because people were reporting a lot of tennis elbow problems.

3. Look at your sourcing options. I checked the two best local racket websites because if they hold stock I could get it in store immediately. I found they didn't have exactly what I want so I found an eBay seller at a good price point and reputation.

4. Stick to your time box and let it go. A new tennis racquet is not a big commitment. It's not like buying a car however the wrong racket can lead to injury so it's not a trivial decision either. So the value to me of getting the product was about an hour of my time. So I bought the eBay racquet. By letting it go I mean stick to your time box and once the decision is processed forget about it. I was tempted to go look at some rackets in store the next day. No I had set a 1 hour time box. Committing to that is far more important than any individual decision. The cost was under $200 and it would have some resale value so no reason to spend more time on the decision.

You can also of course apply this to girls. A new girl doesn't have much value so don't spend much time on her. The girlfriend will impact your life more so do your research - look for the good qualities and the red flags.
But what if you hate shopping?
 

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Come on cc I know you're smarter than that you're just winding me. That decision-making process could be applied to anything. Including shopping for chicks. Although I guess it's a bit different because the products in shopping don't often just find you
 

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Inner always trumps outer, just as reason does experience. But progress lies in the synthesis of the two. So one develops a hypothesis and then tests it in the world. He then fine tunes it. If one just did outer game... that would just be like complete immersion in the whirlwind of random observations. Transcendence is the key.
When does reason ever trump experience in regards to women? Or any kind of social situation for that matter?
 

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Come on cc I know you're smarter than that you're just winding me. That decision-making process could be applied to anything. Including shopping for chicks. Although I guess it's a bit different because the products in shopping don't often just find you
Well, it is the whole 'consumption' mindset that has to be questionable. Kramer once said infamously 'I am not an animal!' Well, I respond to that, that I am not a consumer!:rolleyes:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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But that experience is organized by the way in which you interpret it. Hence your reason trumps experience, without which it would be blind.
Yes

Reason > Expirience

Because...you can't argue with Logic.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Still laughing!!!:p
Hah. I actually picture text a near-plate yesterday on her bday from this summer with that. No response given. Lol.
 

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Logos is more than logic. Why was it translated Word, and not Idea?

noun \
1. (often initial capital letter) Philosophy. the rational principle that governs and develops the universe.
2. Theology. the divine word or reason incarnate in Jesus Christ. John 1:1–14.

Greek lógos a word, saying, speech, discourse, thought, proportion, ratio, reckoning, akin to légein to choose, gather, recount, tell over, speak
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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