Isn't everyone though?
When men make bad choices people just call them morons. There is no sympathy though.
No. Bad choices are divided up into two categories, simply put. The one's who should have known better and those who couldn't. The one's who should have known better I have no sympathy with, but those who never had a chance to understand this will get my sympathy, regardless of gender.
You don't typically have to take your doubt far to be fairly certain which one it is. Some just are clueless while some should have known better, perhaps based on what they have told you of their experience.
Everyone is a subject to their circumstance, but surprisingly many recognize that they can influence their outcomes. It's the one's who deny their ability to change their fate we should be worried about, they have no control because they simply don't believe in it.