You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
That's just change. I'm talking on the level of cars and long-term relationships where one spouse supports the other. But yea I probably wouldn't buy them drinks, either.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Loll dude at least you should tip a little bit
give her something, maybe 5 cent so she wont do the same thing gain lol
Wait this chick still has a year of college and is like 20. You should expect her to be skiddish bro. How old was her ex. Most people don't become finiancial managers for at least like 10-15 years. So this dude gotta be like 30+. So in that case it was almost like a sugar baby type dealLoll dude at least you should tip a little bit
Oh yeah absolutely, I would never do that unless I'm a billionaire and I dont care oh and she derserve it, of course
She's 24, I'm 26 and he is 33 I think. She was not giving that vibe, she's very mature and she comes from a family with a lot of money.. I dont think it's the case