Are we meant to have 1 Woman as a Life Partner??

[Reyaj]

If you ask a 20 year old if she'd date a 40 year old, she's go "ewwww, gross! creepy old man!" It's negative emotion because of the social implication that older men who sleep with younger women are creepy. However, if the guy is confident, fun and interesting, the social implication goes out the fvcking window because positive emotions are present. She doesn't see him as creepy because he has qualities that contradict creepiness.



Yes, she may still leave you. There is no logic on her end. She may leave simply because she's following her emotions down a rabbit hole. After she'd done chasing the rabbit, she will try and get back to where she was before.

This is how women make what appears to be the most incredibly stupid decisions. It's not even a decision on her part, it's just her following what she feels. The desire to follow emotions is much stronger in women than it is in men. However, it doesn't mean that what she felt before she went down the rabbit hole is irrelevant, it may be just temporarily pushed aside. It will remain.

I think the only way these women will stay in your life is when the feelings of losing you are more intense than the temporary pleasure that crosses her path. In other words, she has to be terrified of losing you.

My current situation seems to cater to this. She's technically an "alpha-widow" because I previously fvcked her and didn't commit. Now that I've finally "warmed up" to having her in my life, she clings as if losing me is the absolute worst thing that could happen.

Think about the whole alpha-widow perspective. If one of your loved ones died but came back to life two years later, wouldn't you appreciate them and cling to them tighter?

I'm rereading this and come to think of it, I was sleeping with my gf for a bit before I committed. She's mentioned that she doesn't want to lose me and even cried thinking I may have cheated on her. I think the ball is in my court here.. the only thing is she is past 27 and not a virgin...
Should I dump her and find someone younger with a lower partner count?

 

[Desdinova]

I'm rereading this and come to think of it, I was sleeping with my gf for a bit before I committed. She's mentioned that she doesn't want to lose me and even cried thinking I may have cheated on her. I think the ball is in my court here.. the only thing is she is past 27 and not a virgin...
Should I dump her and find someone younger with a lower partner count?

If you want a devoted, life-long partner, then the answer is yes.

 

[sosousage]

why not? if women are chattin with many boys, you can, too.

but for me one is enough. especially if shes always ready lol

 

[CMNILS87]

I'm rereading this and come to think of it, I was sleeping with my gf for a bit before I committed. She's mentioned that she doesn't want to lose me and even cried thinking I may have cheated on her. I think the ball is in my court here.. the only thing is she is past 27 and not a virgin...
Should I dump her and find someone younger with a lower partner count?

Always have the option of cslling out bill****. If she's not doing things you want or not pleading you how you want you need to call it out and tell her and if she continues be able to just walk away.

For instance, my girl started doing this thing where she was refusing to swallow anymore, I literally came all over my body this one time when she pulled away and she went and got a towel to wipe me up. I said "don't ever do that again". I'm not here to *** on myself or in a sock. She didn't do it again after that. If she had, I would definitely be thinking about splitsville. When you think about it, when we go down on women all their juices are in our mouths and we deal with it, for a girl to be like umm no, that's absolutely ridiculous. The inability for a woman to do it shows the inability of her to want to please her man just to please him.

 

[Reyaj]

If you want a devoted, life-long partner, then the answer is yes.

I started seeing her at 24, she wasn't a virgin then and has been with people prior. She should automatically be disqualified? I don't know how many prior guys she's been with, I never asked or wanted to know. I just know of 3 definite ones and she is great in bed so I can do the math. She has been very good to me though and hasn't done anything disrespectful. I will have an encounter with one of her exes she was with. Because he slept with her before I did does that put him higher than me on the score list?

Always have the option of cslling out bill****. If she's not doing things you want or not pleading you how you want you need to call it out and tell her and if she continues be able to just walk away.

For instance, my girl started doing this thing where she was refusing to swallow anymore, I literally came all over my body this one time when she pulled away and she went and got a towel to wipe me up. I said "don't ever do that again". I'm not here to *** on myself or in a sock. She didn't do it again after that. If she had, I would definitely be thinking about splitsville. When you think about it, when we go down on women all their juices are in our mouths and we deal with it, for a girl to be like umm no, that's absolutely ridiculous. The inability for a woman to do it shows the inability of her to want to please her man just to please him.

I agree. I haven't run into this issue yet though. She is all into sex with me, actually upset we don't do it as much as we used to.

 

[exhausted]

It's not about whether you would stay faithful to her, it's whether she would stay faithful to you. Find a woman who invests in you heavily, without anything worldly to gain out of it. Find one who sacrifices, can put you first much of the time, and your needs are important to her. That's your woman.

That's the issue. Women these days are entitled selfish mean cvnts that only csre about themselves. And that's the truth.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

That's the issue. Women these days are entitled selfish mean cvnts that only csre about themselves. And that's the truth.

So if I have one that's nurturing. Puts me first much of the time is kind, hold onto her?