"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Abundance Mentality is a wishful thinking crutch for the needy.

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Brilliant. So let's all spew "Abundance Mentality" to everyone and they can only have "Abundance Mentality" if they already have abundance. That's like asking a billionaire how to become a billionaire and he tells you: "Billionaire Mentality! If you already have billions you have "Billionaire Mentality"! Fantastic.

"Abundance Mentality" sounds more like a hoarding disorder for shut ins. What's next? Crazy Lady Cat collecting mentality? And then you walk up to non pet owners and parrot "cat collecting mentality"! LMAO.

And this "abundance mentality" affords you the choice to instead post about "abundance mentality" on SS every chance you get rather than simply not bothering with SS and actually enjoying your "abundance". Hilarious.
OP is simply proving why his women are scarce. Misery wants company.

"abundance mentality" is nothing more than needy, validation seeking wishful thinking. Keep living in cartoon fantasy world with a "mentality" and not reality.
Having options is needy??

Ok, now I think OP is a virgin.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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OP is simply proving why his women are scarce. Misery wants company.


Having options is needy??

Ok, now I think OP is a virgin.
a mentality and reality are two different things. there are lunatics out their that think they're "doctors" when they aren't and never were.

or chicks who think they're "models" because they have an IG account and thirst buckets after them yet aren't actually models.

You are one extremely confused individual.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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^^^ pay strippers to date my insecure azz mentality.
So you joined under a new account? Fatty welfare mom, is that you?

This girl quit stripping (I learned tonight). She worked a few shifts and I happened to run into her, but she works for a furniture store full time.

She told me tonight when she visited my apartment for the first time (our second date) that she will cook for me. A 50 year old woman said we are a great couple and texted me photos of us.

Be honest: have you ever had a job or a girlfriend? The two are not unrelated.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Here was my date tonight. I'm going out with the other girl from above later this week.
Abundance.



This girl is a 10 by my standards. I would break the headboard on my bed if I was smashing this girl.

Nice work.
 

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So many tall tales in this here thread look guys no need to create false realities. I think the fake personas on this site are a form of this abundance mentality.

Alot of guys on here PRETEND to have abundance but they really dont.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The concept of calling someone with options needy is perhaps the purest anti-seducer behavior conceivable. I suspect OP is a bitter woman complaining about the women she is losing out to.

So many tall tales in this here thread look guys no need to create false realities. I think the fake personas on this site are a form of this abundance mentality.

Alot of guys on here PRETEND to have abundance but they really dont.
Feigning ignorance and providing zero examples is not an argument.

You don't believe I really took those photos with my camera yesterday? Or that the other girl pictured is back? I can prove it, but why should I bother?

You are simply admitting my women are unbelievable.

This girl is a 10 by my standards. I would break the headboard on my bed if I was smashing this girl.

Nice work.
She's a sweetheart too. Works full time for a furniture company. She quit stripping the last time I saw her there. Husband hunting big time. 5'7". Real boobs. Doesn't do any drugs. Doesn't want kids. Loves men in their 40's. Is highly attracted to me (as my friend took our photo she was kissing me). She came back to my apartment and loved it. Said she will cook for me and described her favorite foods. This girl was with my other girl when I met her last September, nearly a year ago now.

Note, last September I met three girls this hot all at once. They gave me the third degree. This one went on stage and then I got the other two to kiss me at the same time. Then I dated one of the other two for 9 months (and she is still around). How is that not abundance?

Either all women like you, or none do. When they all like you, you have abundance.
 
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The concept of calling someone with options needy is perhaps the purest anti-seducer behavior conceivable. I suspect OP is a bitter woman complaining about the women she is losing out to.


Feigning ignorance and providing zero examples is not an argument.

You don't believe I really took those photos with my camera yesterday? Or that the other girl pictured is back? I can prove it, but why should I bother?

You are simply admitting my women are unbelievable.

Ok ill bite. No its not that i dont believe you took those photos. I fully do. I just dont think its anything to brag about or need validation on.

Its completely believable but its also not impressive, at all.
 

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I didn't lay a finger on her in my apartment btw. The first time a girl comes over, it's kid glove treatment always.

Ok ill bite. No its not that i dont believe you took those photos. I fully do. I just dont think its anything to brag about or need validation on.

Its completely believable but its also not impressive, at all.
That girl is not impressive? She is rated 99 by consensus. She just turned 22. The part about her being hot is not negotiable. Is picking up 3 girls like her at once impressive?

That was the point on topic. I'm not trying to impress anyone except myself. Abundance exists. This girl and two of her friends all picked me up at once last year, and I ended up making out with all three and dating two. When the one I loved left me, I walked away and dated the other one. Now I have both as an option. This is abundance mentality. It is the opposite of neediness.
 

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Here the thing bigneil, thats all fine and dandy and props to you if thats the true situation. The thing is, how about a selfie with her around your arm hugging you. Now THATS commendable and would be something actually worth posting. just my opinion @bigneil
 

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@bigneil I wouldn't even talk to that girl. Not attracted at all. I wouldnt mind a BJ but I wouldnt ask her out or spend time with her. I don't want to flame you but everyone has his own taste.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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