The Lazy Man's Guide to Women

[ChristopherColumbus]

I think most of us would agree that a man does better than to spend a lot of time and effort on women. This is what we all rationally know, and yet time and again we spend too much effort on women. Why? Because our irrational desires gets the better of us. In my opinion, if we could only get the better of our selves, as in control over the libido, then we would find the better women. Here's the framework:

1] Develop a habit of meeting women in the normal course of your day by just being that friendly fit flirty guy.

2] Only date the ones you find attractive, and screen heavily. Do NOT go for the quick easy lay. This would be the equivalent of 'spinning plates light'.

3] Do not fap, and treat pornography like the plague, in order to keep your libido in control.

4] Develop intimacy only as the women becomes more intimate and trustworthy with you. She should be gravitating toward you.

5] End game - a relationship with a worthy woman, which should be near effortless.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

I've learned through experience that this isn't available for everyone, and it tends to be much more a matter of local demographics and luck than anything else for those for whom it is available. For those who work long hours and/or in guy-heavy spaces, this is off the table; the women will have to be actively located and "imported" from elsewhere in some fashion.

Sure, but it's easy enough to take some time out to chill in the right kind of coffee shops and bars isn't it?

And I think this can be integrated into 'the normal course of your day' in so far as your priority is just that, taking some time out, or chilling with a mate.

Just today, I met a woman at Starbucks, over my morning coffee, and got her number... out of habit more than anything else. I probably won't even bother texting her as she seemed a bit immature and young.

 

[BeExcellent]

I think this is good advice for those who are looking for something more substantive than the pump & dump or STR bit. I've always thought that too many men miss better quality women because they run them off up front by being too sexually aggressive.

The double standard of the ages is alive and well and we see it here often. That being well she slept with me so soon, she must be low quality/not relationship material...but then men keep seeing these women & wonder why the women think a relationship is in the offing.

Slow down and screen and get to know a gal. Old fashioned advice from the resident mom/old lady I know, but it's good advice for a reason. I mean why not find out she's nuts BEFORE you get hooked on the crazy sex? Too often crazy sex comes in a batshjt crazy package. And usually the batshjt crazy is overtly on display for you and everybody else to see.

 

[JohnChops]

I think this is good advice for those who are looking for something more substantive than the pump & dump or STR bit. I've always thought that too many men miss better quality women because they run them off up front by being too sexually aggressive.

The double standard of the ages is alive and well and we see it here often. That being well she slept with me so soon, she must be low quality/not relationship material...but then men keep seeing these women & wonder why the women think a relationship is in the offing.

Slow down and screen and get to know a gal. Old fashioned advice from the resident mom/old lady I know, but it's good advice for a reason. I mean why not find out she's nuts BEFORE you get hooked on the crazy sex? Too often crazy sex comes in a batshjt crazy package. And usually the batshjt crazy is overtly on display for you and everybody else to see.

I'm guilty of not looking at girl who I hang on the first date as "dateable". That's why if I really like a girl from our interaction, and believe I'd enjoy dating her, I hold off on sex for 2-3 dates.

 

[Urbanyst]

The idea of screening ignores the fact that most women are frauds anyway.

You cannot screen for a woman's future changes.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

The idea of screening ignores the fact that most women are frauds anyway.

You cannot screen for a woman's future changes.

Screening is exactly about not bothering with most women. The lazy man first asks whether he should bother meeting her.... and then asks whether he should bother dating her... and whether he should take it further. Of course, he will also be screened out, and probably by the ones he is not that interested in anyway...

There are no certainties in life, but what the lazy man is looking for is a woman with some substance to her. He will then have less work, less drama, less headaches with women because he'll hopefully get that area of his life sorted.

 

[Urbanyst]

Screening is exactly about not bothering with most women. The lazy man first asks whether he should bother meeting her.... and then asks whether he should bother dating her... and whether he should take it further. Of course, he will also be screened out, and probably by the ones he is not that interested in anyway...

There are no certainties in life, but what the lazy man is looking for is a woman with some substance to her. He will then have less work, less drama, less headaches with women because he'll hopefully get that area of his life sorted.

I've always been extremely lazy.

That's why I'm so successful in my career and have my sh*t together so well. I'm too lazy for a hard life and I love being able to throw MONEY at my problems and watch them magically disappear lol.