"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

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Plate Wants Equality, Power Play?

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So i get a text from my plate today..

I want things more equal.. i don't think you want to give me that.. or can give me that..

It's not all about sex blah blah blah

Bit of background.. I have had a dom/sub relationship with this chick..
So i was quite dominant with her..

Especially sexually.. dominate, tie her up, and bang her hard..


Plus i let her do pretty much all of the texting.. she does the good mornings and good nights etc..

I think she wants more power...


I just want to bang this chick and get as much sex out of her as possible...

She is killing the sex vibe...

How to proceed?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I can tell she is already playing games with the texting..

She intentionally takes her time to text back.. waits for me to text her first...

Think she wants to hold some power...

I don't want a relationship with her... so would it matter to make it an equal playing field aslong as I am just banging her...

Could this be a chit test??
 

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It's a text, or a sign of disinterest bc new supply in the picture, or both.

Human nature is to become arrogant once you have more options and stability

This is the sense i am getting too... this why thinking I may just drop this plate...

Feel uneasy about sticking my dik inside her..
 

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Plus she is not sex texting as much as before
 

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Yeh i'm picking up bad vibes... she is coming over tonight.. i am thinking of banging her... the next day going GHOST

It's that gut instinct feeling you get... usually not a good idea to ignore it..

The sex with her is crazy, and this can become quite addictive..

I think i need to rid of this one before chit hits the fan... or keep my distance and only fuk her, when she is making a big effort to come and see me
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Just tell her u like the way things are, and that you're too player for all that other stuff. Just keep it G with her and then let her decide what she wants to do
 

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Just tell her u like the way things are, and that you're too player for all that other stuff. Just keep it G with her and then let her decide what she wants to do

I don't know man.. things where very sexual before, i had total control over her sex wise, even had her agreeing to a 3sum..

But she wants things equal... which is fine by me, but it's killing off the sexual vibe for me.

Also as other posters have suggested, i am noticing a decline in interest..

That could be because there is another dog in the yard?

She is preparing to dump?

Or simply because she is not happy with the current state of play.. i.e she wants things equal..

I usually let her do 80% of the texting, this may be bothering her.


All that being said, i have only been banging her 3 months, so not a big deal if i drop this plate or she drops me...

I can sense trouble ahead with this one
 

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Proceed with silence. Don't even respond. Wait a day or few until she messages you about a different subject. She'll get the message.

Too late for that man, i am seeing her tonight. I intend to bang her, and just ignore what she said..

I aint changing chit for her... if she walks then fuk her
 

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I don't know man.. things where very sexual before, i had total control over her sex wise, even had her agreeing to a 3sum..

But she wants things equal... which is fine by me, but it's killing off the sexual vibe for me.

Also as other posters have suggested, i am noticing a decline in interest..

That could be because there is another dog in the yard?

She is preparing to dump?

Or simply because she is not happy with the current state of play.. i.e she wants things equal..

I usually let her do 80% of the texting, this may be bothering her.


All that being said, i have only been banging her 3 months, so not a big deal if i drop this plate or she drops me...

I can sense trouble ahead with this one
it sounds like she thinks all you care about is sex. Try hitting her up just to talk sometimes, make her think u care. Maybe one day when she comes over don't have sex, just chill with her and act like u don't care about it. Because if she thinks that's all you want she'll try to withdraw it from u to try and control you, so i say beat her to the punch. That's if you really want to keep her around tho
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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it sounds like she thinks all you care about is sex. Try hitting her up just to talk sometimes, make her think u care. Maybe one day when she comes over don't have sex, just chill with her and act like u don't care about it. Because if she thinks that's all you want she'll try to withdraw it from u to try and control you, so i say beat her to the punch. That's if you really want to keep her around tho

Well she mentioned to me, that sex is not everything to her..

I agreed with her, and said... no it is not.. i guess it's about having a good balance..

I only said that chit to keep her sweet, she probably feels i have too much power over her, or all i care about is fuking her..

So maybe play it cool.. bang her and kinda show some caring too...

But reality is.. this chick is not worth anything more than a plate..

She is too sexual, she banged me within one hour of meeting.. she came straight to my house from POF

And immediate bang.. only worth keeping for sex, even then risky
 

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Well she mentioned to me, that sex is not everything to her..

I agreed with her, and said... no it is not.. i guess it's about having a good balance..

I only said that chit to keep her sweet, she probably feels i have too much power over her, or all i care about is fuking her..

So maybe play it cool.. bang her and kinda show some caring too...

But reality is.. this chick is not worth anything more than a plate..

She is too sexual, she banged me within one hour of meeting.. she came straight to my house from POF

And immediate bang.. only worth keeping for sex, even then risky
Ok u didnt say she was off pof.. yea **** that ho lol. Just enjoy It while it lasts. all good things gotta come to end eventually anyways right? All my plates off pof end up disappearing, or I lose interest. That's normal OLD stuff tho. Youll find another freak off there to replace her with
 
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Well she mentioned to me, that sex is not everything to her..

I agreed with her, and said... no it is not.. i guess it's about having a good balance..

I only said that chit to keep her sweet, she probably feels i have too much power over her, or all i care about is fuking her..

So maybe play it cool.. bang her and kinda show some caring too...

But reality is.. this chick is not worth anything more than a plate..

She is too sexual, she banged me within one hour of meeting.. she came straight to my house from POF

And immediate bang.. only worth keeping for sex, even then risky
When you met off POF, was it just based on her attraction to your muscles?

Did it even matter what you said?
 

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When you met off POF, was it just based on her attraction to your muscles?

Did it even matter what you said?

I just told her i wanted to to treat her like my sub... dominate her.. she drove over 2 hours, to fuk me
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You need to elaborate more, but my guess is she feels like this relationship is all about you. Her needs aren't getting met is what she means by things not being equal. She likely feels all you want her for is sechs and she wants more. You know chics are kind of "relationship" minded. ;) She has handed out the sechs in order to get a relationship and you haven't given anything back to her.
 
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You need to elaborate more, but my guess is she feels like this relationship is all about you. Her needs aren't getting met is what she means by things not being equal. She likely feels all you want her for is sechs and she wants more. You know chics are kind of "relationship" minded. ;)

Yeh i'm getting that kinda vibe too... but I DO NOT want a relationship with her...

I could maybe pretend i can have one with her lol..


But if she isn't happy, i'm willing to let this plate go..
 
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You need to elaborate more, but my guess is she feels like this relationship is all about you. Her needs aren't getting met is what she means by things not being equal. She likely feels all you want her for is sechs and she wants more. You know chics are kind of "relationship" minded. ;)
Which is a fancy way of saying nothing. Get into a relationship with her so she can cheat on you as soon as she gets bored? After having wasted much of your time.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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