"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Do you think Japan is going super p0rno because of "herbivore" men and population collapse?

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I was reading this article on how open p0rn is in Japan, and it got me thinking:

http://www.japantimes.co.jp/communi...cit-porn-pamphlets-display-see-japans-hotels/

I've been reading how Japanese men have been derided for being "herbivore men" and also about how the birth rate is so low that the last Japanese will be born in a few hundred years. I wonder if Japanese society has figured out that it needs to turn on as many folks to having sex as possible to avoid these ominous trends.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Its just a highly developed country reaching its final stage with low birth rate because of feminism being a big factor, and education for women is more important than having families. You can see the tendencies with most developed rich countries already.

The thing with Japan is that they are not found of mass immigration, and basically have zero tolerance against muslim immigrants which is something we never hear about here in the west. So how are they gonna keep the population numbers in check? That is the question. Feminism is not going anywhere so families wont grow unless there is great support for having children.

You really see first world problems coming to light here, incredible numbers of lonely people in Tokyo. One of the saddest things as the planet grows is the increase of loneliness.
 

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The post-developed society. Coming to a town near you soon.

Perhaps the proliferation of pornography is about subverting the potential power of mass movements. It works by giving the individual the optimum pleasure hit, whilst at the same time eroding the potentially troublesome dignity of their rational/ moral self. I think something of the same was seen in Huxley's 'Brave New World'. Consumption to the nth degree, where we finally consume ourselves.
 
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Its just a highly developed country reaching its final stage with low birth rate because of feminism being a big factor, and education for women is more important than having families. You can see the tendencies with most developed rich countries already.

The thing with Japan is that they are not found of mass immigration, and basically have zero tolerance against muslim immigrants which is something we never hear about here in the west. So how are they gonna keep the population numbers in check? That is the question. Feminism is not going anywhere so families wont grow unless there is great support for having children.

You really see first world problems coming to light here, incredible numbers of lonely people in Tokyo. One of the saddest things as the planet grows is the increase of loneliness.
didnt know feminism existed in Japan. I mean its à society where man have to provide for the family, women have to stop working when having à kid, they cant look in your eyes directly or its impolite.

However, having done it...you see japanese women in clubs looking for foreigners. They have 3 questions:

1. Where you from?
2. How much money you make?
3. How long you staying?

Interesting that all the bad guys of WorldWar2 (Russia,Germany,Italy, Japan) have négative birth rate.

Japan and Korea are the perfect blend of traditional culture meeting "modern culture".

Yes in Japan and Korea, a female is expected to marry her first lover

Display of affection is rare

The concept of feminism touched more the guys and the millenials turning them into herbivore: Computercentered, staying at parents home, no sexually interested, makeup wearing.... men

That's why the women there are looking for westerners... to remember them of a "True gentle kind man"

Overthere, the overworking hour, the culture of respect, technology, ethnocentrism etc... have made man... walking machine. Hence why Japan is number2 in the porn business (and its openly displayed... magazine are accesible and easy, you see people reading them on the train)

Japan is awesome: Best food, best music, most clean place ever, good looking women when they are, nightlife is impressive

But it does have a "man" problem
 

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I thought they censored the porn in Japan and only certain types of porn are allowed to be made.

Also, feminism is almost non existent in Japan. It is still heavily male dominated.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I bet Japanese girls like DJs too.

What are the odds?:p
 

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The post-developed society. Coming to a town near you soon.

Perhaps the proliferation of pornography is about subverting the potential power of mass movements. It works by giving the individual the optimum pleasure hit, whilst at the same time eroding the potentially troublesome dignity of their rational/ moral self. I think something of the same was seen in Huxley's 'Brave New World'. Consumption to the nth degree, where we finally consume ourselves.
Wow, that was so profound!
 

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However, having done it...you see japanese women in clubs looking for foreigners. They have 3 questions:

1. Where you from?
2. How much money you make?
3. How long you staying?
I presume that they actually come up to white men and talk in English. I've also heard that they are interested in how "large" a man is.
 

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Its just a highly developed country reaching its final stage with low birth rate because of feminism being a big factor, and education for women is more important than having families. You can see the tendencies with most developed rich countries already.

The thing with Japan is that they are not found of mass immigration, and basically have zero tolerance against muslim immigrants which is something we never hear about here in the west. So how are they gonna keep the population numbers in check? That is the question. Feminism is not going anywhere so families wont grow unless there is great support for having children.

You really see first world problems coming to light here, incredible numbers of lonely people in Tokyo. One of the saddest things as the planet grows is the increase of loneliness.
You can't assume a country is feminist based on its wealth. I have been to Japan. It's definitely not a feminist country and that's great. The reason why the population is going down is because young people care more about electronic devices, the internet, games, and comic books than sexuality. It's also a country where sexuality is suppressed and a lot of men are petrified to talk to women, not to mention ask for a date. Their culture is not very physically affectionate to the point where some people don't ever hug, kiss in public, have much sex, etc.

I have interacted with Japanese women first and both in the US and in Japan. None of these women has asked me for my income, and those in Japanese didn't ask me how long I was staying. They like foreigners because we are different culturally. The Japanese women I've met have been some of the freakiest I've ever interacted with; you just have to know how to spit game.

In terms of race, however, they seem to have an affinity toward white people, as most other Asian people do. They actually hold white people on a pedestal...it's crazy. Anyway, I hope this test provides more insight into your questions, OP.
 

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You can't assume a country is feminist based on its wealth. I have been to Japan. It's definitely not a feminist country and that's great. The reason why the population is going down is because young people care more about electronic devices, the internet, games, and comic books than sexuality. It's also a country where sexuality is suppressed and a lot of men are petrified to talk to women, not to mention ask for a date. Their culture is not very physically affectionate to the point where some people don't ever hug, kiss in public, have much sex, etc.

I have interacted with Japanese women first and both in the US and in Japan. None of these women has asked me for my income, and those in Japanese didn't ask me how long I was staying. They like foreigners because we are different culturally. The Japanese women I've met have been some of the freakiest I've ever interacted with; you just have to know how to spit game.

In terms of race, however, they seem to have an affinity toward white people, as most other Asian people do. They actually hold white people on a pedestal...it's crazy. Anyway, I hope this test provides more insight into your questions, OP.
Japan sure has its own thing. Still, I doubt it isnt feminist because that is the natural cycle for all modern rich technological countries and women must contribute with high degrees and careers as well. We all know that when both sexes work more and do higher education and are forced by their society to think about money that kids fall down on priorities and the family unit takes a hit.

And again, their attitude towards immigration is very interesting.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've lived there and I never saw feminism. They still have wage inequality, the glass ceiling, and a law against female succession for the royal family.

Many girls are repressed and shy about sex and gaming too hard can go bad. It's not like dating in say Thailand or the Philippines. Their standard of living is good and they don't need to snag a rich white guy, so in a way there's more independence but not to the extent of a feminist revolution.
 
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I presume that they actually come up to white men and talk in English. I've also heard that they are interested in how "large" a man is.
Never seen à Japanese Girl make à move.... they expect guys to make the move. At least à respectful woman with honor.

Its à mâle society however they are afraid.. Masculinity post summarized it all.

Visiting à Japanese Sech Shop is a trip in itself.... you'll never see sechuality in the same way.

In many ways, they like the white foreigner to take them out of the "japanese norm".

Also, you have to speak Japanese or good luck
 

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Japan sure has its own thing. Still, I doubt it isnt feminist because that is the natural cycle for all modern rich technological countries and women must contribute with high degrees and careers as well. We all know that when both sexes work more and do higher education and are forced by their society to think about money that kids fall down on priorities and the family unit takes a hit.

And again, their attitude towards immigration is very interesting.
True about children and work, but there's no such thing as "natural" feminism. It's a social construct.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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