"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Benefits of being less available?

OJN_98

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How exactly does it work rather than "she'll miss your presence" or "it gives her time to think about you?"
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Urbanyst

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People want what they can't have. Enigmas are more interesting than people who are very obvious and easy.

Easy is boring. Women have loads of easy men chasing them all the time. A man she has to work to attain is more interesting and exciting.
 

bigneil

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Most times when I had made myself unavailable, I've never been missed.
You disappeared too early. You must become omnipresent first. Everything must remind them of you before you vanish. That's why you have to spoil them a little first.
 

RedZone

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It's the cat/string theory. If you dangle a piece of string in front of a cat it will keep clawing for it. Once, you drop the string the cat loses all interest. People love the chase. Wanting something they don't have.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Krueg

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Girls like a guy who is a Challenge.
 

wifehunter

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If she's good looking, she's got guys in her face 24/7. Low value guys, are plenty and always available. High value guys are scarce and have a busy, filled out, life.

Gold or plain old rocks...which one would you choose?
 

bigneil

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Try this sometime: try ending a date or even the relationship. Just to test the waters.
 

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